(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 407

If I had kids I'd probably talk about them non stop tbh.

 

apparently they have no time for any leisure activities, which yeah I get it they're time consuming but you gotta have some free time or else your brain is just Dora

 

I don't mind when ppl tell cute kid stories or whatever but when its like all they ever talk about its just zzzzzzzzzzz.

 

Gotcha... sounds like it was either edited or maybe there was more than one post and I only caught one.

 

I've always wondered about what type of parent I'd be. I'm pretty emotionally withdrawn in most cases but like, when it comes to my dog I could spend hours just chilling and cuddling with her, so I feel like I'd be like that with my kids. I'd try not to but I know I'd spoil them, I wouldn't be able to help myself.

 

Me and my SO officially ended things today. Feeling a mixture of devastated and relieved. Gonna be a hard couple of weeks.

 

I don't talk about my kids as much as most parents and I almost feel guilty about it because it probably makes people think I'm a deadbeat who doesn't care or something but really I just like to have them to myself and not share every experience, I dunno

 

What's more beautiful than creating life. I'd talk about that constantly.

 

I don't have that animal attachment where they're like your babies or whatever so I'm not sure if I'd be a good parent.

 

Im curious as to what me and my girlfriends dynamics will be with kids. Like who's gonna be the fun one and who's gonna lay down the law? Who are they gonna go to when they wanna do something iffy, and which one of us is gonna say "ask your mother/father" the most? I can't wait to raise kids with my gf I think we're gonna have a blast.

 

IMO, lots of things. I know that is probably a belittling or dismissive statement to any parents in here, and that's not what I intended. I just mean that, for me, I know I would not be a good parent and the idea of kids does not appeal to me. Different strokes and all that, y'know?

 

Eternally terrified of imbuing any future children w a higher chance of depression or worse, fucking them up by my own hand through shitty parenting

 

I hate ambiguity, why can't people simply say "we are friends" or not ? Ha well !

 

I don't think I'd be a good parent. I feel frustrated and racked with guilt when I make mistakes with kids to the point where it takes a huge toll on my mental state. I know mistakes are inevitable but I have a hard time handling it when the implications are so profound. I also just like freedom and money. I like that I can plan little trips or go to shows impulsively and not worry about it. I may change my mind one day so I'd never totally rule it out, but right now I have no desire

 

Went to a photography meetup last night. Hung out with a couple of people around my age and took some pictures. When everyone met back up in the pub at the end, those those left and I found myself between two tables with no one to talk to. So, I grabbed a chair and sat down at the table which included two women I wouldn't mind being introduced to. Within about 2 minutes, they left. Still got it.

 

my mom straight up told me not to have kids lol

i'm not sure, i definitely wouldn't have kids without a partner, and i don't know that i will find a life partner in the traditional sense. i have a lot of mental health/trauma baggage that i would need to resolve before even thinking about kids, and the career i'm going into requires at least 15 years of intense dedication before job security happens

 

I don't want kids, I can't imagine dealing with the stress and pressure of raising another human being. I don't think it's for me.

 

I desperately want kids one day in the future with my girlfriend. I hope I'd be a good parent, but I get so in my head about it that I'm always worried. And then I'm petrified of things like the fact that both me and my girlfriend suffer from depression and anxiety, and I'd hate so much to pass those on to a child. But yeah, I want kids. Two, preferably a boy and a girl, but of course I wouldn't be upset with some other arrangement.

 

Okay now I feel guilty.

 

I always thought I wanted kids but I can't imagine having a baby and having to teach them everything and not ruin their squishy head, plus what if my kid winds up sucking, like what if it becomes We Need To Talk About Kevin

 

Looking forward to kids with my girlfriend down the line. They will probably be scary smart, minimally musically inclined and emotionally damaged. So they're definitely going to be indie rockers.

 

Kids just cost sooooo much. I went with my friend to get her kid all his supplies for baseball and omg it was ridic!

 

People call me selfish for not wanting kids, but I think it's just the opposite. I'm just looking out for the child.