(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 397

Know one asks me anything, I may not be "approachable"

 

All my coworkers ask me about is whether or not I'll work extra

 

That's... Different.

 

If we worked together, I'd ask you everything!

 

Glad I work from home.

 

Platonic relationship post but omg someone is reaching out to be my friend. And we were in a group and she didn't ask them all, she asked me specifically! I feel like internally I'm freaking out like a date haha but ppl don't usually approach me so I'm nervous like its a date!

 

Has anyone else seen the snap chat feature about being ghosted. I kinda thought it was funny.

 

Does anyone else ever want to be good friends w/someone of the opposite sex (I guess it doesn't have to be opposite sex but someone who you might typically be attracted to) but you're afraid they'll think you're hitting on them or something? There's this girl at work and she seems pretty cool and I want to ask her out for drinks and hang out but I don't want her to think I'm hitting on her or asking her out on a date, cause I'm not. I just want to get to know her and I'm not sure how to approach that.

 

definitely know that feeling. safe route i'd guess would be going out with a group first? other coworkers?

also, i'm new to this thread. got out of a ~6 year relationship in october and just lined up my first date since (from tinder). holy hell this feels new.

 

Just ask them out platonically to talk about whatever your mutual interest is. It's weird, but better than giving the wrong signals or unintentionally leading them on.

Good luck! Hope all goes well :)

 

I'm the opposite. If you wanna hang out with me I assume it's platonic 100% of the time. You have to be like:



Maybe not shirtless but you have to say the word date or something like wanna go out just me and you.

 

I feel the same way when a girl wants to hang out. They have to be super direct with me haha

 

I mean just talk to her at work and if you guys hit it off ask her to come out with you and your friends sometime. I've found that if you phrase it like "Hey me and some friends are going out tonight, would you like to come" kind of takes the pressure off her since you phrase it like you're going out either way.

 

I've been talking to this girl from Peru who is really nice. BUT she's going back soon. Guess I can only found potential girlfriends when they live thousands of miles away haha. First the British girl, now her.

 

I'm always down for more pen pals though!

 

Depending on the guy and the activity of the hangout I'll assume he's trying to ask me on a date without calling it a date. I had a guy friend one time would liked me for a long time and I didn't feel the same way back. We'd hangout a lot and he kinda took it differently, like I wanted to hangout bc I was interested. I don't know where he got that idea??? Like um no I like hanging out with you as a friend nothing else. Im really bad at asking guys to hangout me so my introvert self just stays home and wallows.

 

ya idk, I hate the idea of accidentley making people feel uncomfortable so I'm very cognizant of how I approach them. I am genuinely just trying to make friends but I understand how what I say can unintentionally make people get the wrong idea. It's not that difficult to come off as friendly and inviting though. Just don't be a creep and respect the person you're talking to. Treat them as an equal and with respect. They'll notice that. You reap what you sow so go into all relationships with love and understanding.

 

I'd say it's more important to make it clear when you're asking someone on a date, than making it clear that you aren't. I don't much worry about asking a woman if she wants to do something. If you just ask them if they want to do XYZ in the same way that you would your friends, then you'll be OK most of the time. I think?

 

i used to ask acquaintances to hang out a lot more than i do now, but then i realized that most of them interpreted it as me asking them out on dates, and i very much dislike group interactions so there wasn't really a way around it

oh well

 

I wish there was way less pressure on dating and such. It makes people afraid of making new friends. I think I've never done a true date with my exes, we've always been become a couple randomly, without thinking about it too much. Idk if that works as well as something else.

 

So I had a lunch date on Saturday with this girl from Tinder that knew my brothers fiance. She was super nice and sweet and caring, but we don't have much in common. I asked if she'd like to hang out again sometime and nadda.

Then on Sunday my friend gave me her friends number who she said was interested and i texted her asking if she's interested in meeting up sometime and I've had more meaningful responses setting up a meeting from the auto-confirmation replies from the office conference room. Hopefully she's just bad at texting.


Dating sucks

 

I talked on the phone with this girl from tinder and it was pretty fun. Not sure where it's going but I guess it's just good to start meeting new people.

 

I was in kind of a love triangle once. The guy and I were just good friends but we would platonically cuddle and sleep in the same bed some nights. This girl we worked with was obsessed with him. He and I were just shooting the shit at a bonfire and she stood on the other side of the fire staring at us the whole time. He was like come with me to get another beer and she followed us. She would grill me about us being together and I was always like WE'RE JUST FRIENDS, DANG!..we are not together.

I'm not sure why but most of my friends are male and this shit happens a lot when they enter relationships even if we've been friends for years which I won't lie hurts and makes me question how good of friends we were in the first place.

 

I've seen that happen a lot. My ex was best friends with two dudes and when they got girlfriends they totally peaced out, which is pretty sad. I'm not sure if it's because they were in the friendship for the wrong reasons or if the girls were uncomfortable with their boyfriends hanging out with a girl? Still sucks though.

I have a really good friend who is a girl but we also fuck around and I'm afraid that of either of us start seeing someone that she won't wanna hang out anymore, but I'd totally hang out with her regardless of us we're being physical.

 

so me and my girl decided to sort the issue i spoke to earlier out and now we're fully open the world about everything with us even including our engagement. before it was still kept somewhat private cus of her past relationship and my shitty family but everything is out in the open now.
put up or shut up and thats all i ever asked for cus i've always been the one to keep swinging even when the others wont lol. its live up or move on time.
i have faith and its cool to see the world happy for us/me for once. refreshing.