(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 368

Oh godddd that's the worst phase. I'm sorry man. How long were you together? Also, given the fact that you've been carrying on as normal, sounds like a rather amicable breakup?

 

My boyfriend is so sweet, intelligent and supportive. I love spending time with him every day. I can't wait to take him on so many dates and wake up to him beside me. Distance is DUMB

 

Was about to move in for the first time with my girlfriend of almost 3 years. When I found out that her starting salary job in the school district pays way less than I ever thought. What she can afford to pay me per month is not even close to what I would be paying. We live in an area where cost of living especially rent is very high and I'm not exactly making a killing either. Plus the search is limited since she has a dog. Out of nowhere her mother (who's awesome) offers me a room in their house rent free! They live in a huge house and I'd have so much privacy in my own room which includes bathroom shower fridge so I would never get in anyone elses way. Honestly like a dream come true. We'd both be able to save money for a wedding and house eventually and not have to worry month to month about bills and other stresses. We'd also both get a "dress rehearsal" by living together and practicing that lifestyle. By the time we would decide to move out on our own, we'd hopefully would have gotten promotions/raises and it releases all the possible hardships and stress. I think it's a no-brainer.

Here's the weird part: my gf insists we keep looking at apartments. Maybe it's to make her mom believe that me moving in should be a last resort type thing? Or maybe she's uncomfortable with me living with her family (it's only her mom and brother). She's all about living with me and I think this helps us both emotionally an financially in the meantime. Not sure how else I could convince her that this is right move and her mom granted us an amazing opportunity to save money here.

I told her I'd still look at some apartments with her in the meantime just so we still can get an idea for the future of what we'd be getting into. But the vibe I'm getting is that she still wants to do it, even on her limited salary...

 

Would you

Would you want to live with her and your parents house? Even if it was the best decision financially for my girlfriend and I, I would rather live separately than ever live with either of our parents.

 

It's just that I've been renting for 4 years and been throwing money away. Their house is so big, her mom gives us so much freedom. Thats a main reason Im willing to do it. The brother has his own apartment thats part of the house and they never see him either. If we can both save a ton of money for a couple years doing it and have enough for a house I'm all for it.

 

I would do it if the set up was like how my BFF had it. She got the whole basement which was triple the size of my apartment and she had a door to come and go without seeing anyone. The only thing that sucked was she didn't have a stove so she had to cook in their kitchen but everytime I was there we would only see her stepmom for a couple minutes.

 

honestly I lived with my ex and his family for years. We had the back section of the house which had a sliding door that divided and then a back door, bathroom, and bedroom. There were so many things that sucked about the situation but at the end of the day I lived rent free for years so I'm not complaining.

 

This is pretty much what it would be like...maybe not triple the size of an apartment but a good enough space for me. Got my own bathroom/shower down there too. Also have a side door to come and go. Yeah cooking is the only issue, but honestly I love her mother so I wouldnt mind eating with her most nights.

 

Thanks man. We were together for 7 years, so it kind of feels like I'm starting my life over. The breakup itself was amicable, and we're still getting along well enough. We talked on the phone last night and she said she was happy and thinks we made the right decision. I agree with her, but it still really hurts. Don't know how much longer I can take being in contact with her.

 

Me and my girlfriend lived with my parents for about four months. It wasn't ideal but it wasn't the worst and it was still very great being able to live with her regardless of circumstance. We've been moved out for four weeks now and we really do miss my family and St. Louis. Idk, I get why people don't want to live with their parents or the parents of their s/o but my situation worked out really well

 

I'd be constantly fearing an Everybody Loves Raymond or King Of Queens vibe

 

Found the solution guyz:

 

Damn. A couple years ago I broke up with my gf of 3 years (not the same obviously), but my advice would be to stop contact asap cause it can get ugly. We had an amicable breakup and did the same thing you guys are doing now and it just doesn't work out well. We're friends now but it took us being alone for awhile and seeing other people in order for that to be possible. Sorry to pry, but did she break up with you?

 

Wut did you quote the wrong person

 

Lol woops! Yeah. Mah b

 

That's what I'm thinking. It's even tough just looking at her posts on social media, and I know it's only going to get worse once we both start talking to other people. I'll have to go no contact pretty soon I think. The breakup was totally mutual and a loooooong time coming. We're just very different people than who we were 7 years ago and want different things.

 

yeah I'm kinda navigating the same situation, it's been a tough process since we have a place together but I've basically got it all sorted now though and should be out in a couple weeks. Straight up told her once I'm gone we probably won't really talk much anymore (at least for a while anyway) except for idk, emergencies? Either way, that's how it should be.

 

I think it's better to cut contact with an ex for a while after a break up, too. My ex and I had more fights after we broke up than when we were together, because it was so tough watching one person move on and the other struggling to cope. We could've saved a lot of heartache and anger if we cut contact with each other. It was so ugly and we have no interest in talking now

 

i kept in contact with my ex. worst mistake of my life.

 

I kept in contact with my ex but she's also the mother of my children so it was a good idea

 

Results may vary

 

I told my ex that once he sorted out his deal I'd like to be friends and then I realized oop no i didn't wanna be his friend at all so I rescinded the offer. My other ex works are a grocery store and mysteriously vanishes when I go through his checkout lane

 

my relationship has been in a spot where she's super proud and happy of me/me with her for her advancements & we're both anxious for our own as a couple but at the same time we're navigating finding time with busier schedules and there is hiccups in flow. that said she also just (re-)got a job she had a few summers ago when we were apart with her ex and she's feeling weird about taking it for the money even though he moved states away and has no ties.

Personally I dont know what to tell her outside since (and long as) he's long gone it's cool and there's no reason for any nerves at least pertaining to me. That's always been the case. Not sure the concern on her end with that being the fact him being far away though, she said there is none on here end. Well... than relax? lmao.

 

Better a vibe than the real thing.