(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 348

Today I realized just how bad I am at texting and maintaining a conversation through it

 

When I got back into the dating scene, I was happy just to have someone to talk to (i.e., find me intriguing enough to talk to). But after a handful of texts abruptly ending/one date and no vibe/whatever, I reminded myself about the factors that made my last relationship enjoyable - while also remembering the less than enjoyable aspects. And I made a concerted effort to be more selective with that in mind. It's made the dating experience much more pleasurable and rewarding, but I feel it reinforced how difficult it is to find an ideal partner, and how asinine it is to pretend someone is ideal simply because you want attention/affection. I guess my point is...finding someone you can build a meaningful, fulfilling relationship with is like finding a needle in a haystack, but finding that needle is totally worth the search.

 

the only song that should ever be dedicated and that has to truly be the special one:

 

Broke up with someone I was dating for two years today. I think it's time I go on a dating hiatus for a bit. So emotionally draining.

 

I went to my ex's house today and hung out with her family for a little bit. It was so good to see them and I'm so thankful that we are close enough for me to hang out and have fun with them but man.....I was really sad afterwards. Not to be dramatic but it was weird to be in these rooms where I fell in love with her and now she's gone.

 

I can heavily relate to this. It's taken me about 3 years of dating to actually connect properly with someone. Looking back, it makes me realise that in a lot of cases, I was really forcing it and trying to make something work. Not in all cases, sometimes I knew I liked someone personally and found them attractive, but knew we couldn't be a couple, but so often I would try far too hard and end up dragging out situations which were never going to be.

I suppose it could be worse though. Some of those people would have entered into relationships with me. At least I never let it get that far...

 

i love it when some girl says i'm attractive then out of the blue they stop talking to me

 

Don't you mean

 

I'm thinking about downloading Tinder and taking this girls approach lol

Tinder User Made a Powerpoint About Why People Should Date Her—and It Worked

 

when I had Tinder, I had a powerpoint and it improved my matches 100x over. Women very rarely messaged me first on my old profile, but were consistently messaging me first to tell me how much they liked it. I say do it haha

 

Question time:

So, when we venture into online dating, it's arguable to say that we accept that when we start talking with someone that chances are they'll be talking to one or, more people at the same time. With that in mind, if we accept that is the case, and you choose to do the same, is it acceptable to be bummed out when on say someone's social media account you can see them posting photos, and responding to other people's compliments with kisses, and love hearts? Now, I get that this can be interpreted in many ways, the first being that it is just being friendly, but I'm in a situation where I felt like I had to bring it up with someone, and they took offence to it, that I was telling them that they can't repay people with kindness, am I just being an irrational asshole?

 

oh man i gotta try that powerpoint

 

My friend just asked me my address to send his wedding invitations.

Looks like another wedding where I'll be at the no +1 table.

 

I don't think it's unnatural to feel a little hurt seeing them apparently hitting it off with someone else, but I don't think you can really try to call them out on it. If you're in the situation where you haven't yet talked about whether you're still seeing other people, then I don't see that they've done anything wrong.

It's one of the parts of dating I enjoy least, but I guess you have to decide whether you want to pursue someone who may well have other options right now.

However, if you're currently also talking to other people and seeing where it might get you, then you're definitely an irrational asshole.

 

pages behind on discussion lol

 

As someone who briefly dated a LOT of people online I would say that for any of the guys to become "serious" enough that you're adding them on social media and also talking on there publicly, it's maybe time to stop talking to other guys. I probably would not continue to talk to someone who did this. I also never came across this happening. Sure, I knew they still were active on their profile so it was likely they're still talking with people and dating but not in front of me and also not in a middle school kissy face emoji type of way.

 

the move went ridiculously smooth. we're pretty much all settled in. going on our first grocery shopping trip later

 

I want to try this now.

 

Until you discuss and agree upon a monogamous relationship I wouldn't assume anything. And even then, I don't think those emoji should be weighted so heavily, if at all. I know what you're feeling though, online dating and dating apps and social media bring weird dynamics to dating these days. You just gotta learn to adapt or establish what you need/want out of the dynamics of your interactions and relationships early on and communicate it clearly.

Also congrats on the move, @sophos34 , best of luck to you two!

 

Rob Thomas and Santana riding the U-Haul helped

 

I'm a groomsman for one of my good friends next year. I'm the only one of the groomsman not dating a bridesmaid, and the only single bridesmaid is my ex girlfriend. That's going to be weird.

 

Solution: stunt double

 

My coworkers wanted to do a potluck and have everyone bring their partners so we could get to know each other I guess? Or swing but I'm guessing to show off their bfs/husbands and I'm like .....awkward

 

"Yeah so after the dessert we'll probably either do some icebreakers or all fuck each other, it's kind of a toss up at the moment."

 

So THAT'S what they mean by "everyone bring something to eat"...