(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 321

That's totally how I want to feel after it happens. But the wound is still so fresh and we haven't even came to a decision so it's tough. I'm definitely going to have to go no contact for a while though.

 

Do any of you guys have big " what ifs " about your past relationships? I try not to because you know blah blah "everything happens for a reason" but sometimes it's interesting to think about. Or perhaps it's extremely unhealthy of me to ever entertain the idea!

 

the only what if I have is if my first girlfriend didn't pass away (drunk driver) when we were 16, but that's more about the loss than the relationship. all my other relationships i've learned a lot about myself and grew in ways that hindsight teaches me appreciation for now.
my fiancee and i had a slight variation of that considering we did break up for a few years and got back together and re-engaged, but I don't remember thinking "what if' so much as "why?" i got lucky that we got lead back to one another.

 

i like to get drunk and let the "what ifs" slay me

 

No 'what ifs' about a relationship but 'what ifs' about a relationship that never materialized.

 

my longest friendship is with someone i have known since i was 12/13 and he was 15. we are still friends six years later. the relationship has been entirely through the internet and we have not yet met in person.

for a period of two years i harbored very intense feelings for him, the likes of which i have not felt since and doubt i will ever feel again. while we definitely had conversations about this in the distant past, none of them were very transparent due to my embarrassment and his reservation. despite this, based on things he used to say and show, i can't help but feel that if we had connected in real life in the same ways that we did through the internet something would have happened between us. i got over it a long long time ago, and the experiences we've shared are too special for me to wish for different ones now, but sometimes i wonder.

 

Not a actual relationship, but one that I ended up turning down that I think about a lot. She's getting married now which is crazy, but I'll always wonder how different things would've been if we ended up together.

 

My what if is if the timing was different. She was an amazing girl, but we were both so busy (her w/Med school, me with my hardest accounting classes) that it made it hard to meet up as much as we would like to.

 

I always think what if I hadn't gone through that toxic relationship. I learned about myself blah blah blah but I would've preferred to not go through it and possibly have a more healthy view of relaionships and spare myself some bs. I guess I would've found myself in a toxic relationship eventually anyway because there were issues about myself I needed to confront but I do always wonder what would have been if I'd have realized this one guy had a crush on me and dated him instead.

 

Amen to THAT.

I view past relationships as like relationship school. I had two past big ones with a couple flings in between (not many) and I have learned big time from both. The relationship I am in now is genuinely what I have always been looking for. What a great feeling. I went 4 years straight ALONE before this one. Worth every second for what I have now.

 

That would involve me having past relationships haha, my regrets are just more general what if I was more in tune with my feelings

Now I have The One That Got Away by Katy Perry stuck in my head

 

I have what ifs....about pretty much any attractive girl that I come in contact with and imagine our whole future in the 2 seconds that our interaction lasts

































I'm very lonely

 

I have a major "what if". My Mum died, and I ended up following a very different path that what I thought I would, and it just put me and my ex in very different places in life. Very frustrating, as I had kind of seen myself marrying that girl, but it just couldn't work at the time.

 

My major "what if" is what if the Rams didn't pull off that 1 point win against the Cleveland Browns in 2011 and the Colts ended up missing out on Andrew Luck

Would definitely be a different landscape for the AFC South

As far as relationships go I have no "what if"s other than "What if we had enough money and PTO to take a vacation"

 

I'm in love with my big "what if" girl now. So I guess I don't have one anymore.

 

Ha! That's great, and basically what I said with my fiancee who I broke up with for a few years.

I suppose if we never got back together it'd be a what if eventually but kinda like Kanye with that Grammy speech "If I didn't win" guess we'll never know lol.

 

It's so great

 

I don't really have any what ifs?

I do like Marvel Comics What Ifs?

 

I always hate when people say they have no regrets like get outta here with ur optimism!! I have tons. relationships, haircuts, outfits, that from first to last phase, etc

 

Same even down to picking the wrong thing to eat for dinner lol. I'm just an anxious person and always think about my entire life in what ifs. But my life is great and I should not do that!

 

After a break up or an ending to dating or whatever it's called these days I always think, "my god. What if it didn't end and we stayed together. How much money, time and energy would I have wasted on these women that don't matter."

And then I smile and eat a whole pizza in one sitting by myself and remember how great my life is.

 

I don't have any strong what ifs(Maybe I should talk to someone particular in HS). I got a lot of more "Man i really dodge some bullets"

 

Actually I thought of a "What if"

When I was in 10th grade I liked this one girl named Sara by then for 3 years and she always had a boyfriend and I just admired from a distance. One day she sat down next to me and wrapped here legs around mine to see how I'd react and I can't lie, I froze haha. I could see my friends in my class watching me and even literally hear them whispering 'Look at Josh and Sara" and I totally choked. The dude she got with right after than is the father of their 3 kids and married as high school sweethearts.

Guess I don't really consider that a "what if" though since i'm not really bitter or think about it beyond the more self deprecating humor of "lol what a clown I was for totally blowing 3 years of pent up desire." I'm super happy she found someone good though and I'm totally happy where I am as well. Maybe that's a 'What if (perhaps)"(?) lol

 

Just one what if. She's interested in moving here actually and is visiting in the spring. I suppose we will see.

 

My most recent ex isn't necessarily a "what if" but more "the one that got away". I don't know if I've ever experienced this sort of longing for someone. I thought she was it. Not to say I believe in "the one", I don't, but I would have loved to settle down and have a family with her one day.



Anyone ever been on a blind date? My friend recently went on one and honestly, it sounds awful and terrifying. I feel like I wouldn't be able to keep up conversation with someone totally random but I guess it just depends on the chemistry