(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 299

Get you a man who can do both?

Really though, I love being able to plan a big New York trip in December or spend a day jumping around bars and restaurants in the city but then on Friday we spent the entire day just hanging in bed and watching the whole new Gilmore Girls season in one sitting. That's the dream.

 

Despite your posts being vague, there is a degree of self-flagellation that manages to come through the amorphous events you describe. In any case, good luck.

 

I just don't really have much of an affectionate side at all. Cuddling, hand holding, all of that. And I'm terrible at giving compliments. I've spent my entire life just shrugging off all compliments assuming they're wrong, so now I don't like or want any compliments which makes me not even think about giving them out. So a lack of verbal or physical affection is something that she's been dealing with our entire relationship.

 

I don't really have the desire to do both. like a big trip like that seems exhausting to me. I totally get the appeal of it, but even when I do "fun" things I gotta keep it super lowkey. going to lots of places and being around other people takes a lot out of me and I tend to get depressed and withdrawn by the end. I'll do lil trips and things but I need a loooot of downtime during them lol. I'm cool with that, but I need someone else who's cool with that too! I am not adventerous!

 

Sleeping alone instead of beside my boyfriend sucks. Distance is tough

 

Know how this is. My girl and I bounce between distance and right there often, first 3 years she was in the Air Force. Keep your head up!


Unrelated, lots of stuff been going on in life atm, turmoil and shit. My girl finally got a real glimpse of what my family is REALLY like and in an odd bittersweet but necessary way it has made us that much closer cus she's finally seen what she needed to fully understand why tf I am the way I am. We been super great since all those bumps because of the new perspective... Things with her are great even if others hope to make it difficult (my family).

 

daytrips always sound like a lot of fun in theory but then I go on them and I'm like wow this is a lot of work and I'm exhausted already.

 

Thank you! I'm really happy but nights are lonely sometimes.

I'm glad you and your girl are even closer now, that's wonderful :)

 

I think I got myself a date when I get back to IV. The girl isn't normally the type that goes for me so it might be weird, but I think she's cute. I think it's important I branch it out in the type of girls I date, too. Normally attract the the ex-emo/listens to hardcore and smokes weed type, but this girl seems more athletic and "normal".

 

Eventually you find an emo jock, assuming those exist

 

this girl used to (still?) play waterpolo, she might also listen to emo music based on some of our early conversations.

 

I'm stuck in that place where I want to get out there, but I don't want to actually, physically get out there.

 

haha same. It's a lot of work and anxiety and stress so I'm content just complaining about it without actually doing anything about it.

I have been hanging out with a girl that I went to college with a lot lately. but she's been dating a guy for like 4 years now, since high school, and the dude is super nice and a good guy. I have a huge crush on her and I'd never act on it, but man...

 

They exist. They think the music they listen to makes them deep, despite the fact that they regularly engage in anti-gay and misogynistic rhetoric.

 

Day trips are awesome but you just have to do them in your style. For me and my girlfriend that's usually somewhere with a pretty view and a bar with a deck or patio. Lol

 

just reply and say yes? it would be rude to ignore esp for too long ha.

 

Yeah honestly, when I hear stories like that I understand wanting to just ignore it, but I also think "Think of how many times a woman who is just a friend must get asked that same question all the time and is nice enough to at least give someone a moment" hahaha.

There's not much bad that can happen from meeting up with her, hearing her out, and talking about it openly with each other.

 

really sorry to hear that. I don't really know how to meet people either, as I don't like approaching people in the wild at all. so I mostly do the online thing which occasionally works. Anyway, hope you bounce back

 

actually she's a terrible person and loves to blame it on being "ditzy" but it's really just that she's a bad person in so many ways haha.

i did text her back and said, "sure" so we're getting dinner tomorrow. oh yay

 

ha well, sounds accurate. Thanks though haha

 

lol me as hell. *spikes a volleyball while listening to Bright Eyes*

 

I remember during an away volleyball game in high school the opponent team had a warm up mix which included Chiodos and I was like... okay.

 

haha this is such a 180 from the post before since you mentioned you've been friends for 6 years and that it's great, and now you're saying she's a terrible person, welp. well i wish you luck and i hope it goes well. gotta get it out of the way after all. just be honest about how you feel.

 

just because we're friends doesn't make her a good person. what is great is that we don't have to hang out or talk everyday, like most people seem to want or need. and we have a lot in common, i'm a terrible person, she's a terrible person, which is probably one of the reasons why we're good friends, but i don't want to see her - or anyone else - more than a few times a year, or as more than just being a friend.

 

ah ok, i re read your first post. well, if i really thought somebody was a terrible person it would be very hard for me to keep being friends with them, even if it's every now and again.