2 Dating 2 Relationships Thread II: The Squeakquel NSFW • Page 216

My now fiancée matched with me on bumble because I had mewithoutYou on my profile lol.

now we exclusively listen to charli

 

Went ahead and paid for a month of Hinge+. We will see how this works for a month.

 

Good luck!

The months are WAY too expensive, but they do tend to work so.

 

Not to be ageist to the OP but this feels like a very immature late teens/early 20's way of looking at this. Developing romantic feeling within platonic friendships is incredibly common and normal. I am a demi-romantic person so I do not even feel romantic attraction towards anyone until I have developed a close friendship with them, so I have been in this scenario many times.

You learn from experience I think that the healthiest thing to do is just be open and acknowledge it as soon as you can. Letting it linger cause cause weirder issues/feelings with your friendship down the line. Chances are that yeah you will get rejected, but pushing it down is much worse. It's important for the crush haver to not feel entitled, accept rejection, and continue the friendship platonically if it doesn't work out; but it also important for the receiver of the crush to not judge or make their friend feel like they did something wrong or gaslight them into thinking they ruined the friendship just for being honest and transparent about their natural feelings like OP is doing here. If the other person expresses entitlement or won't move on in a healthy way then yeah then it is valid to feel that way, but just for them being honest about their feelings? Come on.

 

One of my red flags is when someone trauma dumps on me before we have gotten very close. Like I don't fault them for it, but it makes me feel uncomfortable that you feel comfortable sharing real dark personal stuff with me when I barely know you.

 

Thought I'd share my favorite dating advice show!

 

I am interested in your guy's take on this. This is the one call in on this show where most of the fans seem to siding with the caller and disagreeing with the advice they gave.

 

naw, they're right. he said he makes good money, there's no reason to make it this big of a deal. totally get it if it's like bleeding him dry but it doesn't sound like it is. part of being in a friend group!

 

Someone give me a tl;dr

 

Caller was upset that his girlfriend's best friend's boyfriend pays for his girlfriend's food and drinks while they go out when he isn't there because he feels like that makes him obligated to pay when he is in the same situation. His girlfriend is annoyed when he doesn't buy her friend food like the other boyfriend does for her. Basically "I am only paying my own girlfriend's shit, I won't pay for someone else's girlfriend"

Hosts make fun of him for refusing to be nice to women he isn't having sex with

 

I guess it depends on his financial situation? It might be a nice gesture, but he's definitely not obligated just because some other guy chooses to do it

 

I feel like finding someone isn’t in the cards for me. The guy that I had my eye on for years, someone who I thought was my “soulmate”, the only person I ever felt so drawn to (I cannot explain that feeling) and finally met and dated for nearly a year, broke my heart. It feels like a piece of me is missing. I guess it really was too good to be true. He wasn’t perfect by any means and different than what he portrayed himself to be. I never felt so comfortable with someone. It just sucks because I never felt so empty after a break up