The Parenting Thread • Page 163

These terrible twos sure are terrible

 

So are we hitting our kids in this thread or is there another one I should look for?

 

hmm

 

I hit them with compliments and acknowledgments but that's about it.

 

what

 

What the fuck?

 

my little monster definitely going through it too

 

that has to be a bot right

 

Doesn't look like it.

 

They're not and they post pretty regularly on the site so I'm waiting for a response

 

insane in that case. what the fuck.

 

This is a good opportunity to talk about why you may not want to hit your kids, rather than coming at this person.

I was hit as a child and it instilled fear and resentment for my father for life. Not only that, but I will get angry at my own children and suddenly catch myself in an out of body experience where I am channeling his behavior. That trauma is generational (my grandfather was much worse to his kids) and it is not an easy thing to overcome. Despite that I will never lay a finger on my children. There is no need, I can discipline them effectively without it.

Whether you were being flippant or not, it's a serious issue and I implore you to look inward and think about it.

 

Wait who’s a bot? I was just saying my two year old has been terrible lol. We are currently on a cruise and I think he misses my mom. She’s his dad primary caregiver and he’s acting out like crazy. This is his 3rd cruise

 

someone you must have blocked was asking if it’s okay to discuss beating your kids here

 

Wtf

 

I appreciate you and people like you who can talk about this and not come at this person, because I'm not strong enough to not come at this person.

 

Fuck you

 

@mynamesgeneric gonna need to know what the deal with that post is

 

Pretty sure that dork comes out of the woodwork whenever a pop punk band gets called out for their problematic shit.

 

Not gonna lie we’ve been struggling with our 5yo recently but would never hit him. He’s been on one recently

 

I was spanked by my mom a bit growing up (and maybe my dad? I honestly don't remember him doing it but I think he might have?) but I've never done it with mine. I have given him a light tap on his cheek with my two fingers once, think like when your doctor taps on your arm looking for a vein, and that was it and mostly just trying to get him to look me in the eye so I could calm him down lol. Between me and my wife both being teachers, we have the hardcore "Teacher's voice" that on the rare occasions we have to raise our voice, he pretty much stops whatever it is he's doing when he hears us use it lol. I feel like we're really lucky though in that he's a really good/great kid that rarely gives us any occasion to get anything more than mildly annoyed with him. I think we've legit "yelled" at him maybe twice ever and both times it was because he wasn't listening to us while messing with the dog and came close to hurting the dog both times.

 

I'm very lucky, and recognize it's a privilege in many ways, that I have never even considered hitting something that adults would do to children, never knew it was a thing when I was growing up and have never met an adult that has done it. Absolutely privileged to have that mindset, but yeah I've literally never even thought about it existing until this thread right now

 

I have to argue with my students every year about hitting your kids. It is absolutely still a thing across culture/class lines

 

I have a pretty distinct memory of it happening to me once as a teen. It was a bad situation and that person has come a long way and I love them dearly, so I've forgiven them and I don't anticipate speaking about it ever again, but I understand most situations are not like that, and I certainly won't forget how it made me feel.

 

Yeah as someone who was hit a lot as a kid I recognize the damage it caused and would never do it on any level but my brothers still sometimes defend some of it as being “raised right” or some shit