2 Dating 2 Relationships Thread II: The Squeakquel NSFW • Page 213

That was my first thought however I have a father who HATES listening to doctors and thinks everything is a plot against him or something and I have a couple other friends who didn't want to go because they thought they'd be fine.

As someone who goes to the doctor multiple times a month I completely understand the fear of the bills. I owe so much money, but I also want to stay alive and healthy. Especially if you're having kids you would want to make sure you're in the healthiest place possible.

 

The US healthcare system is cataclysmically fucked right now I don't think people truly understand.

I know most of you do because you all seem like levelheaded, well informed people, but things have gotten so much worse since the pandemic.

Multiple days a week I actively wish for a complete overhaul of the country.

 

I can say avoiding the doctor for a year royally fucked me because I was living so unhealthy and not being held accountable for my choices. One of my dead best friend’s brothers died in their sleep of a heart attack in their mid 40s recently because he refused to be seen by a doctor. Really woke me up.

Now I’m on a reduced sodium diet and have to have a CPAP that costs thousands. It is always better to do preventative work than have to deal with it because you put it off. I’m really sorry you’re going that. I had an ex that did that kind “I don’t need a doctor” stuff and it’s so frustrating.

 

The thing that's absolutely fucking insane to me is that the country doesn't care. They want you sick, they want you paying tons for money and it's so upsetting.

 

Anyway, dating sucks too

 

I just don’t pay my medical bills. Isn’t that why I pay for insurance?

 

My suggestion is that no one pays anything medical until they fix the system.

Good luck.

 

It may be why you pay it but the insurance company only exists because it profits by not paying your medical bills as much as it can

 

The amount of people who just ghost people is absurd

Fuck modern dating

 

So baby mama/ex wife and I finally decided to call it quits. More so her. We got divorced about two years ago but the last few years been really trying to stick it out for the kids. Not even a week later she’s already moving on. I’ve never really dated in my life but I know eventually I’m going to have to. But like the idea of dating apps is kinda terrifying. Like which ones are the best?

 

Very sorry about that and I hope that ends up being a healthy decision for you both.

Dating and dating apps are pretty terrible all-around. Most of the apps are owned by Match, which will eventually strongarm you into paying for them to get the best features. Some people argue you get what you give and that paying for them is worth the price to meet someone. I beg to differ, but it's mainly because the cost is usually sky high.

That said, sadly, I think Facebook Dating is a decent choice. It's free. It hides your profile from your friends. It has a lot of decent features to get a feel for the other person.

With all that said, be prepared to go into a culture of terrible communication and ghosting. I think the apps have really enabled this kind of behavior because it's so based on the easy "swipe left/right" mentality that requires very little energy or commitment.

Also, do not fall for scams. There's so many bot-made, catfishing accounts. You really have to stay on your toes.

 

I have never once been able to use Facebook dating. It's simply not available for me.

 

Hinge was the best in my experience

 

Hinge is the best probably. Okcupid is the best in theory because of the percentage system and being able to see someone's dealbreakers right away, but it's so buggy, there are tons of bots and it shows you the same people over and over again. It's so weird.

 

Never tried Hinge! Maybe I’ll jump on that when I get back in the game.

 

It’s wild how a few years ago I met someone on OkCupid and we dated for about a year and by the time I was back on the app it was completely useless. In my experience Hinge is the only one really worth using

 

It's crazy how badly they messed up such a good concept. I love knowing if the person hates cats, doesn't like traveling, is super into astrology and such. It's so easy to filter people out but the app has just becomes some weird disaster.

 

The worst aspect of modern dating is texting. Communication through text is so bland and often fizzles out because it often feels one-sided. When you type really thoughtful responses and questions to someone because you want to show you're interested and they just go "yeah, it's cool" or "ya same".

But then you have the aspect where some people don't want to go on dates early because they just don't want to meet a random person but then you're just wasting so much time and effort when you could meet for coffee and know within ten minutes if you even want to talk to them again.

Modern dating is rough.

 

I’ve never had a Facebook account in my life. With the exception of instagram

 

I tried hinge for like two weeks and I got zero matches and I was like maybe I just suck and went into a downward spiral

so now I’m saying screw all that

 

Guess I will try Hinge at some point, once I finally get past that whole fear of not wanting to get hurt again

 

When my then-fiancee and I briefly split, I had the best luck on Bumble.

 

Honestly, to get the best luck now you basically have to pay for the service if you are a guy. That's not a "women have it easier" thing it's quite literally because they won't put your profile in front of other profiles if you don't pay. They'll shuffle you to the back in a giant sea of other guys and they also have you pay for priority likes which majorly boosts the amount of matches you'll get.

 

Three years ago I was on Bumble, don't remember how long for, but found a gf and we dated for 2.5 years.

Just downloaded it again at the beginning of June, paid the $60/mo. Coming to the end of the month now and have had two matches, both which I extended and they just didn't message anything. Granted I am picky, I know what I want and refuse to settle. So out of my hundreds of left swipes, I probably right swipe a handful. Online dating is very frustrating.

 

Holy shit $60/mo? Yeah definitely not an expense I can afford for now.