The Parenting Thread • Page 153

lol my first gf was like 1st grade summer camp

 

God my first one was 9th grade

 

I was like 6th on a girls list of boyfriends she had at one time when I was in first grade

 

bunch of girlfriend guys in here huh

 

I didn't have a girlfriend until senior year of high school.

Crazy to think when I first posted in this thread I just had a newborn and now I have a 2 year old who's still going through a stripping phase to practice putting his clothes on and off repeatedly and a 4 and half year old who says "bro" and "actually, dad...".

 

I didn't have my first girlfriend until I was 15. Looking back there were a couple obvious times I could have had a "girlfriend" in older elementary grades and middle school, but I was terrified of girls lol. I still remember in 4th grade a girl that I constantly teased and argued with but in a friendly way, we were on the school bus and I was talking to friends sitting behind me and I suddenly "felt" her sit next to me and I tried to ignore it because I was definitely having an anxiety attack about it lol, so I just kept talking my friends acting like I didn't see her there, and I distinctly heard the other girl tell her "put your hand on his leg!"....I think I blacked out after that. But needless to say, I had no idea what I was doing with girls lol. And in middle school definitely realized too late that a few girls had crushes on me and I was also too much of a coward to do anything about it anyway. I was too busy crushing on one of my own friends as it was.

My son is 4 and I'm already dreading that age when girls become a thing. But I look ahead too much so.

 

There was a girl in third grade who asked me to be her boyfriend, and I said yes bc her mom would drive me home from school a few times a week and would always take us to Burger King and I couldn’t risk losing that

 

man I love Burger King, I should go there more

 

We started my son on low dose Adderall this weekend and it was like living with a different person. He was polite when he needed something, patient with his little sister, and downright chatty. It's normally impossible to get him to talk about school, friends, etc. and he was like "On Monday we did x and so-and-so did y and this Legendary Pokemon doesn't look like a Legendary Pokemon..." He was even shooting the shit with our friends at happy hour about baseball.

We have to remind him to eat even though he doesn't have a huge appetite, and he's pretty wiped out by dinner time as it wears off. He's been in therapy for over a year for aggression and impulsiveness and the meds raise that frustration threshold just enough that he can put all the self-regulation he's learned into practice. The real test will be at school next week; we're cautiously optimistic.

 

The knowledge that elementary school kids have about frivolous things is crazy. Like my son can tell you everything there is to know about Super Mario but barely anything about his day so I feel that tremendously haha

 

I still have an incredible amount of knowledge about frivolous things, such as critical reception to films and music, that absolutely no one else cares about lmao

 

I’m not hating, just relatable.

 

Was on adderall and concerta as a child/pre teen. It definitely lowered my anxiety which was mis diagnosed as add. Though had no appetite and I would lose a lot of weight sporadically and had trouble sleeping sometimes. I kinda wonder what the long term effects of it were on me. Haven’t done it since hs. It definitely did help me focus in class.

 

Not at all judging or taking stance on parents using it btw. Sounds like it’s really helping your child. It did help me focus in school

 

Frances is 6 months old now and it’s so much fun seeing her grow and advance every day. Truly so lucky.

Shes been sleeping in her crib the past month with zero issues, knock on wood. She gets her 6 month shots on Monday and I’m dreading that

 

honestly they shouldn't be too bad, holly cried for about five minutes and was fine by the time we were back in the car

 

The 6-9ish month range was my favorite of the baby stages. Not so fragile like newborns, but starting to develop a personality and be playful, and not yet walking where they're trying to kill themselves all day long

 

we’ve been nanny-sharing with our neighbor whose son is 3 weeks younger than holly since they were both basically 4 months old and after like 7 months they decided they didn’t want to do it just at their house anymore (fine by us but it was their decision to do that in the first place). it’s been going mostly fine the last month except they coddle this kid so much themselves that he completely melts down anytime the nanny has to leave him to take care of holly. and when he’s supposed to be napping he’s just screaming his head off because his parents go in the second he cries when he’s at home. he’s a year old and still not sleeping more than three hours a night. i feel bad bc the wife keeps saying she doesn’t know what to do but the husband keeps saying “most kids don’t need as much sleep as holly.” lol fuck off dude sorry you’re making your kid and your wife miserable because you refuse to do even an ounce of sleep training. basically makes it impossible for me to take any calls on days i WFH bc it would sound like i’m the worst parent alive with him wailing lol

 

Have you considered talking to them about it? Seems like it's negatively affecting your situation and that doesn't sound good for anyone.

 

okay, so this is both factually incorrect, and also like...self-harm?

 

right lol. they just simply didn’t read any of the books which is weird bc they’re uptight dorks about other sorts of stuff

as for talking to them, the nanny has done most of that since she handles the brunt of the tantrums and it’s usually met with “we knowwwww we’ll start trying soon” lol like yeah okay. i guess the nanny said once “you’re doing him no favors coddling him, he’s a 9 month old and he already has anxiety problems because of this” and the husband was like appalled. uptight little geek.

 

Interesting development with my son the last week or two.

for the past six months or so he’s been obsessed with his iPad (never get your kids one for the love of god). Playing Roblox, other games, watching shows, etc. He’s barely touched his toys during this time and it was to the point where I was ready to get rid of a bunch of them.

But recently he’s been playing with his toys a lot and has really gravitated towards Lego and other building toys. So we’ve been spending a lot of time building things. Also getting back into hot wheels.

I think he’s realized that sitting around watching things is actually kind of boring lol. But glad he’s made the change. But he goes through cycles where he gets obsessed with something and that’s all he does and randomly pivots to something else that he gets obsessed with.

 

holly is in the absolutely fun stage where she can use a straw totally fine but everything she drinks she spits back out

 

We’re starting to navigate the transition to sippy/straw cups now and it has not been fun.

 

The cup/straw transition is way harder than I anticipated lol