The Parenting Thread • Page 147

my oldest hasnt had any accidents once she was done training, we did the method where you take the diaper off cold turkey and they basically pee and poo everywhere for 2-3 days but after that they're golden

 

Yeah this is what we did with my daughter, she was like 2.5ish. It worked pretty well honestly, she still has accidents from time to time but for the most part she got the hang of it.

 

this is encouraging to hear, thanks! this is what we'll be doing. we live with my sister and her husband and son, but they're going out of town this weekend so we figured it would be a good time to let our kid shit all over their house lol

 

haha I mean its pretty gross and stressful the first day. roll the carpets up, have some cleaning spray and a calendar with nothing on it and be ready to say "let us know if you need to potty" or whatever every 10-15 min. by mid day two they start to get it, and by the third she was pretty much perfect. she was 2.5 when we did it, she wore pull ups at night for like 3 months after and now we took them off. no accidents since.

 

This was the book we used, it's like $10 and you can read it in an hour or two. Get those multi packs of underwear that are really thick cotton, helps with the messes. Good luck!

Potty Training in 3 Days: The Step-by-Step Plan for a Clean Break from Dirty Diapers: Brucks, Brandi, Daum, Dr. Fredric: 9781623157906: Amazon.com: Books

 

looking through this thread on my first day

oh god what have I done

 

I think the best advice I can give is to make sure you go into it with a positive mindset. If you get stressed or anxious about it your kid is going to pick up on that and it will not go well. Make sure you give yourself and your kiddo some grace, and know it will be over eventually and you won't even remember cleaning poop off the floor/couch.

 

Haha absolutely - going to look into the humor of most of the journey!

 

congrats by the way!!

 

Thanks!!

 

carpets are rolled up, potty is out. tomorrow it begins. gonna live update the tread since I took the day off lol

 

Several accidents so far, she didn't want to sit on the potty at all at first. Then she allowed me to put her on it, then she started trying to sit on it herself and peeing in it. Definitely making progress! Some tinkles on the floor here and there but she's starting to get it I think

 

Well she started going backwards. I think she has to poop and doesn't want to go on the potty for it. She starting crying every time we tried to put her on the potty and wouldn't stay on it. She then kinda just started crying every time she needed up pee and just sort of tinkling everywhere, stepping in it while we followed behind cleaning

She eventually started asking to go to bed so we put her in a pull-up (which she fought) and put her down. Poor girl exhausted herself crying

Wife and I are ready to tap out lol but we're gonna finish the day

 

well,

second part of the day went way better. She actually started holding it (which isn't the intention, but still a good learned skill). She kinda resisted the potty again for awhile, and we knew she had to poop from her demeanor earlier in the day. Eventually we caught on to her cues and she signaled that she needed to poop so I whisked her over to the potty and she took the biggest deuce ever lol. Didn't cry or fight. And then a little while later she took a really big pee all on her own. Before bed we put her on the potty one more time and she did another huge pee.

So it started slow, got better, then we wanted to quit, and were very encouraged by the end of the day. Parenting is wild!

Day 2 tomorrow..

 

Potty training for all 3 of ours was different but also frustrating.

First 2 it didn’t seem to take very long. 3rd one got peeing down pretty good but refused to poop in the toilet for quite a long time and caused a lot of frustration for us.

she is also a Covid toddler so she’s already insane and chaotic.

4th one is still in diapers

 

Potty training is the worst.

 

Ya’ll got me so anxious about it now lol

 

The first time we attempted it did not go well and he wasn’t ready. Tried six months later and it went fine and only took two days or so. We didn’t do the naked thing though lol. Just kept him in underwear.

 

Hang in there, it only gets easier!

 

Today was better, even though there were two accidents. She's basically learned to hold it. Yesterday we were running behind her cleaning up the mess and this morning she peed once on the potty in the hours between waking up and nap time. Just once! And she told us - we're still watching for her tell - apparently all kids have one. We put her in loose pants to try it out and took her outside and brought the potty with us. I got too reckless and went into the front yard (the potty was in the back) and she was riding her little bike when she peed herself. That was totally on me.

Second time she pooped herself. I was sitting right in front of her on the ground (so much sitting on the floor this weekend) and I knew she had to poop bc she was really gassy. She started tooting and let one out and that was the one that should have been on the toilet lol. So she had two accidents, both times when I was watching her. Other than that, no accidents in the house and she's been more willing to pee. It becomes a whole thing where she likes to watch us flush the pee down the toilet and then she likes to wash her hands. Kids turn everything into a little game, it's great.

Tomorrow we might try to go to Target or something and see how it goes.

 

The first thing they're going to do is learn to hold it. For hours and hours. That's what all our kids did, and still do, although the older ones (turning 8 in April) go a bit more often. But at first, yeah, they would hold it 6-7 hours, if not more, if we didn't make them sit on the potty and try to go.

 

Yeah she's been holding but saying 'pee pee' every so often and we sit her down. Most of the time, nothing but other times she'll go.

Today I'm back at work and my wife is back to watching the kid. Unfortunately she doesn't feel confident yet leaving the house alone with her so they'll be pretty cooped up here this week

 

she's had a poop accident this week

potty training is hard

 

We found an adult deer tick in my son's leg this morning. Poor guy was crying and so upset. And of course now we're nervous. It should have only been in there less than 24 hours, but still. we're gonna get the tick tested at least.

 

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