2 Dating 2 Relationships Thread II: The Squeakquel NSFW • Page 209

I thought you could cook it yourself actually ;)

 

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At that rate, just hire an escort

 

insane behavior

 

crap, so I should refund and get my $500 back?

 

Hate to confirm that this is a red flag, specifically claiming the therapist is biased. I'm not qualified to give advice, but if you think it's worth saving, I would lay out your concerns and let her know that seeing a therapist (even another one) to work on the ongoing issues is the only way you'd feel comfortable continuing the relationship. Regardless, I hope things improve for you both!

 

i think she needs to see a therapist on her own for her own issues.

 

I second doing individual therapy if you guys aren't already. I admit I'm also very prone to getting defensive and having a hard time admitting when I'm wrong. Sometimes we just learn what was modeled to us growing up and it takes a lot to unlearn. Growing up my mom was always so defensive and self-victimizing and never apologized. I always hated it and we'd get into big arguments. Then somehow in my 30s it wasn't until someone close to me pointed out that I do the exact same thing that I realized, despite knowing I hated it when my mom did it, I somehow without even realizing it picked up the habit too. Despite coming to this realization and being horrified by it, I STILL fall into the trap a lot. I'll tell myself "I know I have this tendency to think I'm right and get defensive, but THIS time it's totally warranted because xyz" (whatever justification I come up with). All that to say, it sounds like she was raised in a toxic environment and she may have some stuff to unlearn. Doesn't mean she's necessarily a bad person or an abuser herself or that it's even a good excuse or anything but it sounds like she has some work to do. If she seems willing to have the conversation and work on it I think that's a positive sign. If she completely shuts down and refuses, unfortunately she may not be ready and that's not your fault. Just thought I'd come in with a perspective that may or may not be similar to hers that u didn't ask for lol

 

Having been in a relationship similar to that with a good person who wasn’t willing to unlearn that, that’s a great perspective. Sometimes people are still really great, but just aren’t wanting to down that path to heal just yet because of how they were raised and you have to look at whether lr not you’re gonna be willing to wait (if it happens).

 

I was listening to xtina's Bionic deluxe edition and my bf heard a few of the bonus tracks and commented on how much he enjoyed them and it wasn't what he typically expects to hear from her and he was nerding out on how good Birds of Prey is and I was like umm is this a proposal?!

 

Oh I am fuckkked

 

Why did hinge tell me I was “compatible” with an ultra maga. Literally this guy has a hat on that says “ultra maga”. Why do these people have to make being a maga part of their personality. Also why are the right always so angry. I swear dating apps are useless these days. I remember when they were somewhat decent.
I know I’m not the only one with this issue. I see so many people on the clock app in the same boat

 

MAGA people are always angry because they are constantly having to cope and lie to themselves

 

Can the dating apps please, for the love of god, include a way to filter out poly/ENM people for those who aren’t interested in that. I swear to god it’s like a full 1/3 of tinder/bumble now. I can’t imagine poly/ENM people like sorting through countless monogamous people either. It shouldn’t just be listed as a preference or whatever

 

That’s all I see now. Ever since covid. An even bigger problem is that the user profile lists the self as “single” and “monogamous” but their bio says “my partner and I are looking for a 3rd”

 

It's weird how you can talk to a lot of people for a bit and not care much and then someone can affect you a lot in a short time

 

Deleted my Tinder and Hinge accounts, got tired of getting no matches after months of trying. I am too ugly for my own good I guess.

 

I’m tired of that too. Like you already have a partner, fuck off.

 

I wish there was an app for people that were in to that. It’s half of my feed

 

There are but it’s like 99% people that just want you to send them pics/vids and the other 1% wants to blackmail you

 

Apparently the apps do let you filter out by poly/monogamous, but it requires actually paying for the “premium” service lol

 

Sadly, I think Facebook Dating is the best dating site/app simply because it’s free. I haven’t been on the apps in awhile because of some bad experiences/low self-esteem, but it really is a shame what Match has done by making all of the once-good dating apps freemium nonsense.

 

Back when I was still on them, I paid. The way I looked at it was, if I was actively dating, I would easily spend $30-50 on one date night (dinner and drinks for example). So why not pay that for the month? Helped filter out things, you can bump yourself up, etc. Didn't see it at a loss.

 

Well, breakups suck. But the lady at the donut place just gave me a free donut, so I guess its all coming up Milhouse