Mental Health Thread • Page 396

Hang in there.

 

Yeah it's actually wild sleeping. Something so simple but wild to me that I actually sleep through the night

 

I do that by sheer will! I mean, Trazodone saved my life. I went over a year with barely any sleep.

 

can someone please fedex me a sandwich?

I'm fucking starving and broke again (even tho I worked 3 jobs this weekend)

fun fact, you can't get your Doordash pay right away when you're new to it. You have to complete 25 orders first. and Instacart was slow af yesterday, only made $35 bucks and had to put gas in my car and buy cat food.

I hate it here.

 

Every single week my job gives me fewer hours and I want to tear my hair out

 

Just wanted to say thank you for those of you who reached out (was not expecting that at all)!

 

Tried to open up the grad school conversation with my wife again and it was like... full-on breakdown. I didn't think it would be a bad conversation, but it seems pretty clear it's going to change our plans too much for me to even attempt it. I'm really upset, but I feel like I can't show it because she's such a mess.

 

Sounds like my worst nightmare. Proud of you for trying to have the hard conversation. Not sure what your timeline(s) are like, but I hope you two can find time to communicate effectively about it in the future and come to an agreement.

 

Thanks so much man. She's not doing it on purpose or to make me upset. She's just very, very concerned about and invested in having a family, which, I am too. I just think that this is kind of my only opportunity to start this while we don't have kids. Hoping she'll reconsider over the next couple of days, because I would hate to regret not taking this opportunity long-term (even if she and any future children are 100% my priority).

 

I get it man, starting a family takes a lot of free time and energy you don’t even realize you had away. Obviously finding the right path for you as a couple is important, but it is also important to at least make your needs and desires known. It’s something I’ve always struggled with myself. Hopefully some time will help both of you think about it more from different perspectives. I’m sure you guys will figure it out.

 

Appreciate you very, very much homie.

 

I’m on my fourth day of fluoxetine for the very first time and can’t sleep a wink. I feel like a zombie day and now night too. This sucks ass. Is this just how it is?

 

I’ve been taking that, Lamictal, and Mirtazapine for years. I’ve always had a hard time sleeping, even before taking Fluoxetine, so the doctor gave me mirtazapine to take before bed. It’s a really small dose, but it does the trick.

 

Going to call out sick today for the third day in a row. I had two dreams the other night about my mom, who passed away in December after fighting cancer for two years, and it triggered depression and anxiety very badly. I feel like an absolute mess, I’m so tired of feeling this way. I don’t think I’ll lose my job but there’s still that worry. I’m on call with customers all day, don’t think I can do it. Luckily I see my therapist tomorrow but I don’t even know if that helps anymore. Also sick of the so deeply ingrained notion that missing work is the end of the world, when I can’t even get out of bed and shower right now.

 

I’m sorry about your mom, and sorry this is happening to you.

You are not your job. Your job is not your life. Take care of you first.

 

I’ll ask about that. I’ve had anxiety all my life, and depression since 2016 in a way that felt like my brain broke and never came back together. Trying to raise kids in America, especially that year and every one since, felt like the worst, most selfish choice I could have made and I feel guilty about it every day.

I love my children more than I love myself or anything else on the planet (besides maybe my wife or my extended family) and I still cry that they have to live and try to survive in the world we have.

 

Hi! I’m so glad I found a thread like this. I wanted to come on here to vent and ask for advice about my generalized anxiety. Most of it is very much social anxiety. Simply put, I want to be able to talk to people and be myself. I believe that I can be a talkative person but I’m so used to not being my genuine self in front of others, that I find it hard to change. And now people are so used to seeing me a certain way: the quiet, the shy, the meek kid in class when in reality I’m not. Perhaps deep down I just fear rejection and judgement from others. It’s like my emotions are wrestling against each other deciding if I should step up and start talking to people like the person that I know I am or the other person who is shy and what most people tend to see on the outside. And now that I have this newfound motivation to step outside of my comfort zone, how do I do that without coming off as some completely “different” person to other people when in reality that’s just who I am. Sorry I tend to spiral like this the more I think about it but I really just need some general advice. Like what’s the first step when it comes to stepping outside of your own comfort zone. What do you guys suggest?.

Ugh! Sometimes I wish socializing was as easy as me saying, “Sorry if this comes off as weird but I want to be more intentional so would it be okay if I got to talk with you guys some more” but context is so important and in my context, all they know about me is that I’m just the quiet kid in class who’s shy about everything and anything… but I want to break out of that. How do I break out of that if I fear of being judged for changing. How do I stop caring what others think of me?

 

I've been at my job for nine years, and today is my last day before I move to a new company. My role has gone almost entirely remote over the last couple of years and I have lost most of the friends I have made at work (some of which I have lived with, or have become life long friends!) through restructures and redundancies, so I'm feeling incredibly ambivalent about the whole thing.

I've been there my whole working life so I recognise how weird it is that I'm leaving but I feel like I should be feeling something more?

 

I've been in a similar position before and I don't think overthinking it is the answer. Based on the context you provided here, it makes sense that you would be feeling ambivalent, and if anything, that's a green flag for you moving onto something new imo.

 

I also come off as introverted/shy when I'm around new people and it can take me a while to open up. Once I do though, I get the sense that the others know that they're "now seeing the real me" and understand that I may have had some barriers up until that point.

 

Yeah, I wish I had advice for that poster but social anxiety was never really the kind of anxiety I dealt with. As I've gotten older, there are times where I switch between feeling very social and very anti-social, but fortunately, I don't think it's been a huge change for any of my current friends/family. They all seem to understand when it happens.

 

I go through this too. I think it's difficult for me to feel like I'm being "perceived" by others. So once they typecast me at the shy anxious person i get anxious about feeling more comfortable opening up because people point it out and also like to take credit for getting me to open up even tho I'm just the kind of person who takes longer to feel comfortable around others and it feel like a natural process for me to open up later instead of right away. Some of my best friendships had my awkward stage lasting like a year before we actually became friends.

Honestly I just started embracing my awkwardness and people either find it endearing or they give me weird looks and it's awkward but I just see them as maybe someone who I won't be close with. I've started being forthcoming like "hey I'm a little awkward at first but I tend to act more like a normal human after a few months so just bear with me" and most of the time people laugh and it kinda breaks the ice.

For relationships that have already been a little established honestly I think the example you gave of being forthcoming about being intentional is fine. I can say anytime I've had someone sorta awkwardly ask to sit with me or hang out sometime I've never thought "ugh what a weirdo." I always appreciate the effort and am receptive, so sometimes I think it helps to remember that we think about ourselves like 100x more than others do and they're probably not giving it as much thought as we are

 

One of my coworkers is quiet quitting and while I'm usually in favor of that (I do it to), him dropping all responsibilities is causing immense fires for me at work and I've been on edge since yesterday morning because him not being here for the past two weeks (including advising day) means an endless parade of frustrated students coming to my office and asking questions that I don't have the answers to

 

Rough dude, I am fully behind the concept of quiet quitting but not when it fucks up other people in the same situation as you. We have a guy doing something similar at my job and it’s frustrating the entire team, but we also feel bad for him because he’s recently had some family troubles that are making him even more disengaged. Work life/culture sucks people aren’t supposed to put productivity vs people

 

I had a chat today with a former classmate about a job at his place of work. As he was explaining the interview process, I immediately wanted to back out because I was smacked with anxiety just thinking about the interviews. Being asked technical questions and asked to do coding challenge in front of a team of people, for 90 minutes, is basically setting me up to fail. The likelihood of me having a meltdown in that long stretch of time is high. I'm still going to put in my app and see how far I can get in the interview process, and just hope for the best.