2 Dating 2 Relationships Thread II: The Squeakquel NSFW • Page 204

This girl I've been seeing casually invited me to a lingerie party and honestly have no idea what the hell I'd even wear to that as a dude lol. Don't want to turn down the invite but also don't want to be uncomfortable because I only know her. Any suggestions? Right now I was thinking like boxers and a tee shirt I guess

Nvm settled on this, thank you 1 day Amazon shipping lol

 

Omg a lingerie party sounds so stressful to me

 

definitely a silk robe and silk boxers and some comfy ass slippers.

 

Halloween is the only night of the year that themed parties are allowed, if I have to spend money and buy special clothes for your party I hate you

 

this is 3 years old and nothing has changed besides a lot of talking stages

 

good news is that this is only post 5,080. 29,920 posts left to find love.

 

I love a good theme but I don't like buying things for it that I won't wear outside of the party. That just feels so wasteful. But I have no friends so this has only happened to me like once.

 

Lol well that was short lived I just got politely uninvited saying looks like it's gonna be all girls now. Good thing I was still able to cancel my order

 

you should wear lacy lingerie with like fishnets and those garters. So hot.

 

This past weekend I had what I guess you could characterize as a whirlwind romance, as corny as it sounds. Like we went out on Friday, it went so well that we made plans for Saturday, went out and then hooked up on Saturday, and that went so well that we even made plans for Sunday. But then on Sunday she decided to tell me that she had also been talking to someone else, and that she hadn’t met them but had been feeling a genuine connection to them, and in spite of also feeling like a genuine connection to me, felt like she wanted to see this other person irl to see if there’s any spark there for real.

I didn’t really know what to do here. Like if we had been dating for several months or even weeks, I obviously would have just cut it off. But because we had only seen each other twice, even though I really felt a very strong attraction to her, I figured that if she went out with him and changed her mind then I would be foolish to hold that against her, because she did seem 100% genuine in being conflicted, not that she was just trying to make an excuse to drop me or anything.

Regardless, I was pretty much expecting to be let down, and right on cue on Monday she told me that she did have a strong connection with the other guy and wants to try giving him a chance, so effectively dumping me. But saying that if it doesn’t work out with him, she is still in fact very attracted to me. Again I didn’t really know what else to do here except be like yeah I would 100% want to date you again if you changed your mind, obviously. Like I both thought that and made it explicit to her. As pathetic as it makes me feel/probably look, again, it doesn’t feel fair of me to hold it against her too much? When I only saw her twice myself, regardless of how great / uniquely intense those two times were. And she at least *seemed* to appreciate the candor, idk

but so anyway now I’m sitting home alone feeling absolute despair, that nobody will ever love me, wanting to d**, etc etc. Like the emotional high of it came crashing down as hard as fucking possible, not sure what to do with myself. So apologies for the downer post but just really needed to vent about it somewhere

 

bruh. same thing happened to me in 2016. received messages in POF from a woman friday, messaged all night. met saturday night. woke up in my bed together sunday morning. and by monday she wasn't interested. a few weeks later after coming back from a road trip, i messaged her just to say hi. a few texts later, asked if she wanted to try another date, and we've been friends/FWB/relationship/broken up/ and now good friends.

give her some time before reaching out just to start a dialogue and see where it goes from there: either confirmation that nothing's there, or a possibility that something is.

 

Going through another breakup. This one is hard unfortunately. Can’t get my head clear or the feeling of anxiety in my stomach to go away and it’s impacting my sleep a lot. Looks like it’s going to be a tough next couple of weeks.

 

Went out with friends yesterday and met one of their friends that just moved here from London and I was totally enamored with her and we hit it off and I felt, for a bit, like a 5th grader with his first crush it was so hilarious.

But then this morning I wake up and I run some errands and then do my long run and leave my phone at home and come back to three texts from her:

10:25 am “hey there!”
10:45 am “are you ok?”
11:02 am “if you’re mad at me I’m sorry”

Like what the fuck. Why do people do this. Why do people think everyone else just has their phone on them and is available 24/7? And why is it the reaction to either get mad or apologize as if I’m reading the texts but just not responding?? She didn’t strike me as this type of person yesterday in person or via text but this is nothing but yikes now.

The best time to talk and know someone is the first 2-6 hours. After that it’s all downhill in my experience lol

 

A lot of that “are you mad at me” is often rooted in trauma or anxiety or both.

 

Dating has been non existent since ending my last relationship nearly 2 years ago. I am a better person for it. I've still felt pretty emotionally unavailable but I will keep Bumble and Hinge active, always get random matches and none of them ever seem like anything I want to remotely pursue.

Last night I matched with a girl, shes from England but has lived in the states off and on as she is a sous chef for a private yacht.

I have never hit it off with someone so strongly and quickly. Between great conversation, similar tastes, similar view and belief systems it has felt like a dream today speaking with her. We are going to go out tomorrow night and we have both made it clear we are extremely attracted to each other, especially as we continue speaking.

I've needed something like this, while I have been alone by choice, I also felt that cliche insecurity that there is something wrong with me that i'm oblivious to. I have done amazing progress in my life learning to love myself but that thought just wouldn't leave as I had zero prospects as far as dating.

I believe in staying out of my own way to let the universe guide me and would always remind myself that inevitably someone potentially great will come along. This just may be it. The validation I get from her even just saying how attracted to me she is for several reasons has really been a morale booster that I needed.

I get nervous when I get this excited about something, the cynical side of me says something is going to go wrong before we see each other or it's going to fall through but, we have had such great conversation today it would shock me by now.


She will only be down here for 3 more weeks, then she goes back up to Seattle. I'm not sure how long for but, i'm just going along with the momentum because this came out of NO where, i'll see where it takes me.

 

Date was fun, she was very nice and interesting to talk to but there just wasn't a physical attraction for me. I've never been on that end of things, she kissed me and I just felt nothing. Could also be personal issues I definitely need to work on lol. I tried to be as nice as I could about at the end of the night and she took it okay. I have a feeling we will stay in touch, I hope so. She's lived in four different countries so she is extremely interesting.

I think I need to stay away from dating though, I've been living in this tiny world I have made for myself since the pandemic started, living with my ex nonetheless which is going fine, its been a couple years lol that's a different story, but I feel so emotionally unavailable and I don't see that changing unless I go back to therapy. I am pretty content with my life but it's not healthy, I do my own thing and am terrified to let anyone else in so I just shut down in that area.

 

Major changes in my life. Moving to a city across the county, solo. Relationship was at a point where it was proposal or breakup and unfortunately I don’t think we were nearly stable enough for marriage and the kids she wants yet, so I had to let her go.

I’ll be learning a LOT about myself this next year. At least it’s an exciting time and will be filled with new experiences. Im super bummed but I wish her the best and truly hope she finds the right person

 

10 year anniversary with my fiancee today we couldn't afford to do much of anything because we are getting married in October, but considering she works late during the week, I made a nice homecooked meal Saturday night and wrote her something nice to wake up to yesterday. Lucky to have someone that I can just exist with.

 

The best feeling!

Congrats to y'all!

 

Thank you!

 

Closest thing to a deal breaker with my bf is that he doesn't like Olive Garden.

 

I'm a little, hmm, idk if frustrated is the right word, more like.... I feel its a little unfair.

My wife lately has been picking up extra work shifts and making all of these plans on the days me and her are off together. I am not mad about this. I'm a trillion percent supportive of her making friends, being friends with friends, seeing family, and making more money.

My issue is that anytime I remotely make a plan on a shared day off, whether its something with friends or me picking up extra shifts, I get flack "i never see you". I've never even considered hanging out with work friends without my wife if she's home and around. She would kill me! And yet she's been making those plans a lot lately.

I don't want to say anything because I want her to have a social life and I definitely want her to make extra money, but like, I tried picking up a shift today and she gave me the "but we never hang out" line.

Frustrated! Lol

 

Womp.

I brought it up and...I mean... what other word best describes the out comes other than...

Womp.

 

Dating at 38 is hard yo. I met someone like a week ago, we hung out a few times and everything seemed to be going well. Sunday he came over to chill and then yesterday he was like "I don't want to lead you on" blah blah blah "I think this has run its course"....Um, bro, clearly states in my bio that I'M NOT LOOKING FOR A BOYFRIEND RIGHT NOW so wtf? I just want someone to chill with, get dinner once in a while, smoke weed.....and other things. Sooooooo, Tf bro?

I guess the upside is he brought over a pretty much brand new AC unit for my living room and installed it sunday night.

Men are fucking weird.

 

I see your dating in your upper 30s and I raise you dating in your upper 30s while parenting a toddler