2 Dating 2 Relationships Thread II: The Squeakquel NSFW • Page 202

Yessss you would dude, you always do

 

This feels more like a manipulation tactic than an open approach. I think the options here are be upfront or don't bring it up at all.

 

No we agree, I'm saying if she/he/they feels compelled to say something, saying: "Hey, I saw you were engaged because I stalked you on facebook. What's that about?" is a better approach than facebook stalking somebody, operating on knowledge you have of them that they don't know, to lure a conversation you want to be having, which is inherently worse.

The best option is... not saying anything at all. Wait for them to bring it up if they ever do and if not, that's that.

That said I AM happily engaged so I AM a relationship expert (I'm just kidding).

 

Damn now I feel bad for messin with you. Hope things start lookin up soon my man. Miss talkin’ to ya. My ears are always open.

 

Guy I’ve been chatting with isn’t good at spelling. Uses “your” instead of “you’re” which has happened several times. And some other things that I’m unsure if it’s an autocorrect typo (autocorrect typos happen to me all the time) or just can’t spell.

 

I've been fucking up lately. My wife is rightfully getting mad at my white lies and she blew up on my last one. White lie being "im having 1 drink at work with coworkers"... truth "I'm having 1 drink at the bar one block over wirh coworkers".

Why did I even say that? Cause I didn't want her to think I'm spending more time with new coworkers than her (its my 3rd day in a row getting drinks with them). It legit was 1 beer. Its 4pm in the afternoon. But yes it was a lie and she certainly has the right to be pissed. Why is it so easy for me to lie about these small things? It's a fair question.

Other white lie, my dog went to hospital for unknown reasons and was supposed to take it easy. My wife was away for the week. As the days passed by I wanted to test and see if my dog was feeling better. Walks, treats. Trying to find the root of what was bothering him (his meds was the answer). But I didn't want her to know that I pretty much disobeyed her.

I dont even know what to say to her. Shes right. She's absolutely right

 

Tell her the truth and let her know you want to do better going forward. The truth is always the best route.

 

I definitely take her for granted way too much.

 

It’s good that you recognize that. You can begin to change it right now. Don’t wait.

 

Definitely. It's tough because right now, it's very very hard saying something that doesn't come off as phony or derived or come off as someone who's saying these things because he got in trouble. Like, i cant just like maker her a big dinner right now

 

For sure. It will take some time. Your words will be genuine though when she sees you act them out! You got this.

 

It’s only phony and contrived if you don’t mean it.

 

I've hung out with this girl four times in the past week and a half, and while I'm actively trying not to get ahead of myself, I really like her. We were together for about 15 hours yesterday. She asked me to hang out later this week, so we're going to a museum and going to make dinner together. And yet I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. Cannot help but feel that she's going to break things off at any moment, despite her giving me every indication that she likes me and wants to keep seeing me. Very cool lol

 

i met someone absolutely amazing, and it's moving very quickly but it all feels so right with her where in the past with other people it scared me. i guess i just needed to meet the right person.

 

Date last week went really well, we were together for 30 hours of the weekend. It’s so stupid how someone’s texting habits can have me rethinking everything. She’s not a particularly great texter, so I’m constantly thinking that she’s going to break it off. I hate it hahaha

 

This is a post about general relationship / work relationships, nothing romantic:

before covid we had about 45 people in our office. In March, like most offices, we went remote and it’s fucking awesome. But now we have to start transitioning back and by Labor Day we’re required to be back 3 days a week. But at that time there will only be about 15 of us in the office since everyone else lives out of state / lives over an hour away so they don’t have to come in. So aside from looking for a place to live that’s an hour away so I don’t have to go in, that’s gonna be kind of awkward as shit with 75% of the office empty and only the same goddamn 15 of us three days a week. Dreading it already.

I have to stop in and drop some things off at the office tomorrow and I’m hoping no one is there since Friday is a remote day but my office is filled with fucking weirdos who were already back three days this week when it’s optional! Who the fuck is going back when they don’t have to! Goddamn these people lol

 

I loved working from home. At least your office is slowly going back. Mine everyone went back over the course of March. Like 600 people in the building. I can’t stand being there anymore knowing that I could easily do my jobs and errands and chores around the house and STILL get my job done without being in an office. I always knew that but it’s worse now that I’ve proven it

 

yep! It’s gonna be so bad knowing how productive I was/could be when I was home. Throw in some laundry, go grocery shopping, do the dishes, clean a room, vacuum real quick, etc. and soon enough it’ll be back to doing all that shit at night or on the weekends.

 

4 day work weeks and optional work from home would improve work culture in America so much.

 

Yeah it’s frustrating how older folk seem to think that you’ll take advantage of work from home and just waste time. Honestly, people waste so much time IN the office. I just have to listen to people talk about their life at home to waste time meanwhile we’re not doing anything productive for work NOR our households. There’s just this free time at work that is wasted in limbo.

I’d bet most people work 4-5 hours a day in my office though everyone is required to be there for 8-9 hours a day

also side note - I work for the state and each division proved we were at least As productive or more productive during our teleworking year than when in the office. We even had a space issue because of a divisional shift and had to bring people in from another building. Telework fixes the space issue and we wouldn’t have to have people in cubicles and closets. Yet, here we are. All going back and in closer quarters than ever.

 

Same - All I heard the last 8-10 months how was great we were at meeting deliverables while working remote so I thought this would be permanent, but nope. Someone’s gotta pay rent in all these buildings so fuck you you’re going back!

Also, the number of people that come to work and immediately take a 45-60 minute shit everyday clearly shows how productive we are in the office vs being at home.....

 

Yeah, it's staggering to think about the hours per week blatantly wasted by the average person back when I was in the office. But I don't think most of the resistance is actually about productivity. It's about clinging to a culture and lifestyle and image.

Something that's become incredibly apparent the past year is that the white collar workplace is split between people who work to live vs. live to work. The second group derives their purpose and ego out of appearing to be important and perpetually busy. They can't come to grips with losing the window dressing part, along with all the hobnobbing and brownnosing opportunities in the office. Based on my workplace, I feel like the split is pretty close to 50/50, but of course the "live to work" contingent is disproportionately represented in management and decision making.

So now the rest of us have to suffer even more needlessly than before. The icing on the cake is to hear these charlatans, after clamoring to rush back in and resume their useless commute, in the next breath talk up their commitment to fighting climate change (which I'm all for, to be clear).

 

I've been working from the office pretty much this whole time but I like having the choice. About half of my coworkers choose to work from home and half of us choose to remain in the office. The people who want to work from home can, and those of us who are in the office can get more done without as many people or distractions that are usually in the office. They're changing things so people can only work from home a certain percentage of the time. For my job it kiiiinda makes sense because we have to be out in the field to really do the job successfully, but idk why it has to be a specific percentage.

I also feel that way about the 8 hour work day. I work quickly and get more done in my work day than some others can. I think if I can meet my deadlines and get the daily tasks done I should not have to be here the full 8 hours imo but whatevs.

 

Yessss 100%. That’s prolly my main frustration. I’m more efficient but get zero reward for that. The 8 hour workday just encourages people to waste time because there’s zero incentive for being efficient and getting your work done early

 

10000000%

during summer we can work four 9-hour days and a half day on Friday to get Friday afternoon off and even THIS schedule is glorious and it amazes me how much happier it makes me.

I know some managers who have so much vacation they take half days on fridays year round and can still take chunks of time off and they’re the happiest people I know lol.