(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 184

It's not evolved or progressive to preach monogamy sucks. different preferences and comfort levels for different people. I don't trust the idea of open relationships. and my anxiety levels would be through the roof. then my physical health would worsen more than it already has, so not a good idea for me.

 

Further elaboration will probably be required.

 

Definitely no such thing as one relationship being more natural than another, just do whats comfortable for you and your partner(s).

 

I think, in trying to undo monogamy as sort of the standard for relationships, people that are polyamorous come off like the sixteen-year-old that just atheism. The point is, there shouldn't be any standard relationships.

 

Oh I agree with you guys haha it's just that poly people (the ones I know in real life anyway) always come across super condescending and like "monogamy doesn't work sweetie :) :) :) "

 

Currently on a 2 hour car ride with the ex to go see MCS. Yay for healthy coping mechanisms.......

 

Sounds like a fun car ride

 

ya as long as a relationship between people is healthy and safe (mentally, physically), then do what works. has anyone ever been in a relationship with 2 other people, who are also in a relationship together? kind of like a relationship triangle haha. I've always found that more appealing a concept than just an open relationship.

 

im dating my wow characters

 

My lil sis just printed a ton of pics of her and her bf and I can only think "you're gonna have a lot of pics to tear up and/or burn when you break up" I'm a jaded jerk. At least I can kinda keep my cynicalness to myself I guess ha

 

Why would anyone want to look at pictures not on a screen?

 

It's so retro!

 

I interpret jealousy differently. I control my reactions to things. I think it is exactly my fault that I feel jealous about something.

 

I know I'm a heartless robot but I hate when I'm hanging out with a friend or relative and they have to call and check in with their bf. Like they can't go one night without calling and acting like one of them is being shipped off to war like omg you'll live for a few hours!!! It's so annoying. If I ever become that person just slap me

 

I am the same way hahaha maybe part of it (for me) is bitterness because I wish I had someone I couldn't stand to be away from (even when I had a boyfriend)

Anyway.
I don't deal well with being "ghosted" or whatever the kids are calling it these days. Two guys that I was talking to and thought I was getting to know and they both just disappear with no reason why. I hate that shit. I hate when friends do it too.

 

It's just fucking rude, everyone should be treated with respect, if you don't want to pursue a relationship just say so.

 

I'm not the jealous type at all, but I just want to have kids with someone that make we want to be monogamous

 

And fuck not letting others be independent are you serious

 

exactly. I get that it's an uncomfortable conversation, and some people don't know how to do it. But there are ways to let someone know you don't want to pursue anything with them anymore.
Especially when one of them was definitely the "let's be friends" vibe. I feel like I fucked it up but don't know how.

 

Went out to a club last night, met a great girl, spoke for ages, drank together, danced together, made out a bit.
Went to add her on Facebook this morning, discovered she has a boyfriend... typical.

 

shit like this is so annoying! and happens way too often these days...

 

People don't give closure anymore and it sucks.

 

I mean you're a piece of shit if you think acting like the other person doesn't exist is a better solution than just being upfront and letting them know what the issue is. If it's not a dangerous/uncomfortable situation, 99 times out of 100 you gotta just say why you're upset/annoyed/don't want to talk or go out. The person can't improve themselves, let alone apologize, if they never are given the chance at a conversation.

And you have no right to complain if someone does that to you when you thought it was a valid reaction at one time.

I think people take technology for granted. It's a simple way of communication, but people make it awkward and complicated. I mean imagine you seeing them in person and they confront you about it. It would be even worse, and you brought it on yourself for avoiding them. You bring on the same exact situation you think you're avoiding (awkwardness) by not having the conversation.

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

 

I hate ghosting and I'm going through it right now. I tried asking her what's up but she said "I'm sorry, I don't feel like talking about this over text." and I asked her if she wanted to talk about it in person, no response.


Whatever. I made a powerpoint for my tinder profile last night and it's been pretty successful haha

 

I had an awful first date last night. So many gross sexist comments in so little time, it was almost impressive.