(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 179

ayyy

 

This sounds so similar to what happened to me over the last couple of months. This is a good point to maybe walk away from this without it getting really confusing and messy.

If the best affirmation she can give is that she's somewhat interested, then maybe you should bin the whole thing and look for someone with a stronger interest in you, because why bother with someone who is only moderately interested?

 

@ChaseTx Sorry you're going through this.

 

Thank you! I've got bigger things to worry about than this, so after a little venting here, I'm ok with it

 

Haha, congratulations! I'm with someone like that now for the first time since high school. 'Tis refreshing.

 

Seeing your ex of 5 1/2 years with someone else absolutely sucks. I feel like giving up, going to sleep, and never getting out of bed again.

 

I'm really sorry. It's okay to go to sleep and hide in bed. but please come out eventually!





In other news, I am ridiculously boy crazy and I thought I had grown out of it and had changed but I'm learning nope I'm still the same. It's embarrassing.

 

I feel ya bud.itll always be weird. I Hope you find some peace with it, but it's hard. Good luck. You'll meet someone wonderful and perfect for you some day. She clearly wasn't it.

 

Well handling my breakup much worse here in the morning, I don't think it fully hit me until I woke up in a bed and she was on the couch. We say we still want to be best friends but I'm honestly so afraid that won't last for her. It's going to be really hard to adjust, we've been together since we were juniors in HS

 

Moving in with my girlfriend at the time was one of the biggest mistakes I made. When you're young it sounds appealing because you get to spend so much time together and you're cutting the bills in half, but there's so much potential for disaster. Wish I'd known better.

 

well when we started hanging out and dating i was always ecstatic to hang out with her when we did, but things were also slow at work and i had more free time. now work has kinda picked up and im working around 60+ hours a week, so when i do have free time i just like the time to myself as im busy during the week. i think that might have some influence on it, but also maybe the whole excitement and what not from when people initially start dating has worn off.

 

Moving in with someone either solidifies a relationship or completely destroys it. I see more destruction than anything though.

 

Moving in together really changes the relationship so much. I seriously never realized how different it would be

 

It seems right when you're already spending so much time together and maybe you/they sleep there more than they do at home, but you are seriously at risk if the relationship falls apart

 

I used to live with a bf. It didn't change much actually but he just sort of moved in with us without really talking to me so that was weird looking back. I'd like to live alone next tho

 

I think people move in with each other too early before really getting to know one another, that probably accounts for some of those destroyed relationships. Personally, I like my time alone at home. Why give that up?

 

Had a pretty nice conversation with her yesterday (though I did bring her food, so) but I got a pretty vague maybe on plans for Sunday

I know I know give up

 

Considering the way she's treating you, literally hiding her face from you and being well, what's the phrase, "wishy washy", it just comes across untrustworthy. You don't deserve that

 

I know, she just makes it seem like, hey she has legitimate feelings of doubt and if I really care I'll give her space and not cut her off or whatever. But right now I don't know how long it would be before she talked to me again if I stopped

 

If you have to feed someone to spend time with you, it's time to tell them to fuck off.

 

Eh it was more that she texted me and I sent a short response and made her mad. I apologized and offered to bring food since I had to go back to her work anyway

 

Or get a cat. They can't leave.

 

Hang on. She literally covered her face when you were near and that has somehow led to a chain of events where you apologise to her and bring her food?

 

This girl has gone from being indecisive to being an awful person in my book.

 

I'm still not sure what that was about. She talked to me later and acted like nothing was up. Like she didn't know why I was nervous/wanted to talk to her