Mental Health Thread • Page 329

I’ve been trying to say this for so long. The survivors who have come forward about Chris D’Elia are incredible. However, the news still hits so close to home. I wish it was actually safe and healthy to voice our truth.

 

I feel like I’ll never feel happiness again
Every day is just waiting for the day to be over
I don’t know how people just get over things and move on

 

You will. It just sucks there's no clear timeline.
*gestures at world* isnt helping either

 

So, I started a search for a therapist, first time ever. reached out to one Thursday, said she'd have time for an intro call on Thursday and then I spent all day anxious and waiting to hear from her. then she emails and apologizes and says 9:30am today and i spend the morning anxious and waiting and here we are 40 mins later and still nothing.

well, crossing them off the list. brilliant start, but whatever. Have a list of 5 other possible therapists so I'm just moving on to the next name.

 

One of those nights where absolutely nothing is working to distract me from the loneliness and emptiness. I just want to sleep and want this day to be over.

 

Just very low today.

 

I feel you, I’ve been in a big funk the last few days.

 

I just spend my days online shopping for useless material items I don't need using money I should be saving up in order to fill this weird emotional void of depression and lack of control during Covid

 

I understand this too well

 

I'm staying off of social media as much as possible today because seeing everyone post about father's day is just making me really upset

 

Your hug gifs never cease to make me smile so thank you, I needed that

 

Don't think I managed to sleep a single second the past 2 nights lol RIP me

 

I need to drastically change myself if I'm ever going to be even slightly happy, but even just thinking about that makes me so anxious that I'm just going to stay in my lonely bubble until something kills me lol

 

Now that I've gone back on a regular schedule, ie. waking up around 6 am instead of starting my journeys between 1 and 4 am, I've found it difficult to stay awake in the evenings. I've been passing out at 10 pm or a little more for the past week. I did go out a few times for errands, or appointments far away, but still, I don't feel like I've been doing much effort. It's taking its toll on me a little, because I keep waking up thinking I failed the previous day etc.

Is this what turning 25 feels like? Much like how I'm getting drunk much faster now? I think I'll start exercising again, and see if it changes anything in that regard.

edit: How do we change usernames again

 

My friend who's my last remaining irl friend started talking to me for the first time in over a month last night. We've been drifting a part for a while because she works a lot has finally found someone to love who actually appreciates her and doesn't treat her like shit. She seems so happy right now and I'm happy for her but also at the same time I just keep thinking about how everyone ends up happier when they move on and leave me behind lmao. I know how selfish it is but when I see people actually achieve what I wish I could I get so jealous

Actually managed to sleep 4 hours last night out of complete exhaustion then work up and was reminded of how alone I am and it went all downhill from there lmao. I'm so pathetic. Now it's not even 8am, I'm so tired and just want to pass out forever

 

This is going to be a LONG day lol

 

Amazing how no matter how bad I feel its always possible to get worse lmao

 

I have a job where I get anger and frustration and abuse my way all day. People threatening to bomb me and shoot me and calling me every insult in the book. I worked a 12 hour shift today and it was honestly just like 12 hours of people mad at me and venting. I feel like it makes me so defensive in my everyday life. Like I think I used to handle criticism better in my personal life. Now I'm just so used to always being on the defensive and am so tired that if anyone gets after me for anything, even if I deserve it, I just already have a wall up and don't want to hear it. It's not good for being self-aware or having growth.

 

It seems like at least a positive to have some contact with your friend again. I’ve been feeling super isolated lately and I’m trying to make myself reach out to some people instead of just letting it get worse in my head. Maybe now that you’ve reconnected you can stay in touch more?

I’m sorry that you have to deal with something so stressful in the first place and that it’s hurting you elsewhere as well. The fact that you’re aware of it happening seems like you still have a good grasp of being self aware, at least from my outside perspective seeing how you talk about your own reactions.

 

Also things have been hard this week. I’ve been going through different stages recently where one week I might be generally positive and holding up well, then the next I’ll be super on edge and angry and unable to sleep or keep my thoughts from racing, and now this week I’ve just felt really sad and down on myself and been beating myself up for any little mistake. I can feel the way I think when I get badly depressed starting to come out again, where I just totally doubt that I’m worth anything and assume everything I do is always wrong and everyone hates me.

I am trying to reach out to people instead of totally closing myself off, but then I risk bumping into something I always worry about which is only contacting friends when I’m struggling and I need support instead of actually being there for them and having a close connection all the time. When things are bad that worry often makes me just not say anything because I don’t want to upset anyone with my problems.

 

as someone whose brain tells them the same bullshit it isn't true you're great

 

Some co-parenting issues. Not strictly mental health but idk where to put these things

I have primary custody of my daughter, but her mom has a contingency that as long as she lives within 15 miles of me, she gets half time and doesn't have to pay child support. Once that order was in place, she moved exactly 15 miles from me and has never really followed the possession schedule, is always pressuring me to change things up for her, and constantly dropping her off late to school, to the point where she was going to get kicked out of school if she was late any more. The only reason I haven't taken legal action to get full custody because of that is because covid ended the school year early. She's also about to have a 4th child by a 4th guy who's just moved in with them in the past year.

This morning she called and told me she is looking to move into a house and needs me to agree to change the custody agreement to eliminate the 15 mile contingency. I told her about the truancy issue and that if she were moving even further away, I would need to have possession on all school nights. She showed some resistance to that, but ended up saying we can compromise and she can take all weekends -- which I still don't agree to, but it's becoming clear that she really wants is for me to give up my right to child support. I ended up telling her I'll have to think about it and after pressing me a bit further, agreed to come back to it next Thursday

So then my daughter's mom's bf/fiance whatever comes by to drop off my daughter and asks me to talk to him for a minute. I tell him the same thing, that it's something I need to think about, and he gets confrontational. "Why is my ability to have a place for my family something you need to think about" "You've been around her long? Did you know she's suicidal? How many therapists has she had?" This guy clearly doesn't know what he's talking about and is not here to have a good faith discussion, so I calmly end the conversation and he responds "you're lucky your daughter isn't old enough to know what a piece of shit you are"

Anyway, now I am not so likely to work with her on the whole agreement thing

 

From everything I’ve ever read you post about your daughter, I’ve thought you’re nothing but a wonderful dad. I’m sorry this is happening and I hope it gets straightened out soon.