(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 177

The uncertainty of what's going on and the sudden shift away from constant communication really sucks right now. Guess I'll leave her alone until tomorrow morning and then ask if we're still on for dinner.

 

That's where I'm at right now, trying to remember this and put it into action haha

Yes, this!

Absolutely this. But I'm so glad to hear about how your situation ended up.

 

Sex and shower today..I feel like a million bucks.

 

I've kind of lost interest in the girl i've been seeing but not technically dating. now she's talking about moving up to SB which is where I go to school. it's weird. I'm bad at communicating these things to people so idk what to tell her.

 

im in the same boat, actually. except we have been dating for a couple of months, i always enjoy hanging out and spending time with her. but when we are not together i don't feel an urge like i WANT to hang out, its weird.

 

I've had that happen. I've yet to work out how to resolve that particular feeling. It troubles me that I don't seem to miss anyone any more.

 

ya I feel the same way. I'm not even that interested in texting or messaging her back. almost seems like a chore at this point. definitely gonna have to talk to her before I go back to school.

 

It's not abnormal to feel that way. How did you feel when you started interacting with this gal?

If you do make the effort to contact her, just be honest/don't ghost. Do you like hanging out with her?

 

Been arguing somewhat often recently with my long distance "girlfriend". It's very difficult and I'm feeling super bummed about it. Want more than anything for this to work but the distance is starting to take its toll.

 

I enjoy her company I guess. I wouldn't ghost her. I feel bad about the situation but mostly because I've done this a couple times before where I really like someone, they get attached, and then for whatever reason I quickly lose feelings for them.

 

well don't just say nothing. that's a massive decision for her to make. Just be honest and tell her exactly how you feel or you're leading her on and the situation could get much worse. Of course people are worried about conflict, but you make it worse or cause it by avoiding it anyway.

 

How do you go about talking to a new SO about a previous relationship that was very toxic and mentally abusive? I feel like I'm so worried about certain things happening and I'm reacting certain ways to situations in a current relationship as if the same stuff is going to happen as the toxic one I was in and I need to not do that.

Sorry if that isn't clear

 

It was hard for me to bring up but my current SO was so understanding through our entire conversation. I just explained that while I know he probably didn't want to hear or think about any of my previous relationships, some really bad things happened that have changed the way I react to things today. I explained that I wanted to talk about them because the way I react to some things is probably unexpected and not the norm, but due to my past experiences, this is how I feel.

If the person doesn't want to discuss it or hear you out, then they probably aren't that great of a SO. They should definitely care enough about you to want to know things that happened to you in your past that made you how you are today.

Good luck! It's always a nerve wracking thing to talk about feelings and past hardships but it makes your relationship so much stronger creating an open dialogue !

 

I hung out with someone I met on okcupid last night.... it was a mistake. It was so awkward and I just drank to make it less awkward and he tried to hook up and I had to be like yeaaaah no..... we did do some stuff though and I felt awful. Like sick to my stomach because I feel like I'm cheating, even though I'm not.
Anyway definitely confirmed that I'm not remotely over or ready to move on from my ex, and trying to jump into anything to speed along that process is a dumb idea.

To completely be a hypocrite, there's another guy I've been talking to that I really want to meet but he has basically brushed off the idea every time I brought it up. I am trying to remind myself soo much that you know if a guy (well, anyone. But in this instance, a guy) really wants something he'll figure out a way, he'll go after it etc. If he wants to spend time with you, he will make time for you. etc. But I just feel shitty.

 

me and my current girlfriend have had to deal with this and really we're just both as open about it as we possibly can be, we made it clear that we can talk to each other about anything at all and we've had discussions about previous horrible relationships and what we didnt like about them and what we want out of this one. just be open about it is my advice

 

I still have no idea what going on or if I should give up on this one. She texted me Saturday night just to say goodnight, but on Sunday she ended up canceling our dinner plans. I have to go up to her work tomorrow so hopefully I can talk to her and figure it out.

 

ya I'm gonna say something soon. for clarification she's not going to SB for me, she wants to go the community college that is up there with her friend. I understand me being there might influence her decision to go or not though so I'm gonna say something before she decides. I'm still thinking about things.

 

Well, I was invited into a bdsm/poly house, if I wanted a new apartment quickly. I have to put out, though. Ha.

 

Say you want to be a cuckold and just sit there and watch.

 

Oh dear me, please stop penetrating that lady. oh no

*watches stranger things*

life in a bdsm house.

 

Chances are, these are older, middle-aged white folks. And I'm not sure I can stomach watching white folks have sex. All that privilege slapping against one another. Not my thing. But, I gave them a link to your profile, so..

 

The life of Dom

 

I wrote a note in case I see her but can't talk to her this afternoon. That may be a bad move though

 

It's hard being a sex icon and revolutionary.

 

Yeah I wouldn't. What you're looking for is some kind of immediate clarity, and only a phone or face-to-face conversation will provide that.