(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 176

A bit of a random question but has anyone here ever used a site like Ritani? Trying to go ring shopping and I like the idea of customizing your own ring instead of buying in-store

 

I'm suspicious but trying not to jump to conclusions.

 

Well little communication today and I am now officially worried about being dumped. I probably shouldn't be but panicking is what I do

 

What happened? Sorry this is a shit feeling :/

 

Just kind of a lack of communication over the last two days and a Snapchat post that seemed like she might be on a date with another guy yesterday... although that could just be a friend. I texted this morning to ask if everything was normal and she just asked what I meant and I dropped it. Then I asked if our plans for Sunday are still on and she hasn't answered, which is odd because she usually texts me throughout the day

I have dating paranoia, I know it's a bad look

 

Sorry if I missed a major post that explains all of this, but is this a new girl you've started dating? Ugh I hate that whole uncertainty phase where it's like what are we? Do you like me?

:/ hopefully it was just a pal and she's busy today and that's why she hasn't been able to answer or chat much. If it's a slow fade- that's the rudest thing to do.

 

We've been talking for a little over the month and she seemed really into me and stayed over a bunch of times, so I felt like we were almost a couple. If she dumped me now it would suck. I'm probably reading into things too much again.

 

I hope you are just reading into it too much. It's hard not to though that early on. I'm the same way. I hope you can stop worrying about it soon, but easier said than done.

 

long distance sucks mannnnnnn


at least we have a plan that will make this distance not last as long as i thought it might at first, but still waiting two months until i see her again is gonna be rough

 

I wonder if I'll ever want to be in a relationship again. It sounds nice, but then really thinking about being in a relationship makes it sound not great. I don't really have a desire to put myself out there and open myself up or do the give and take thing. I like doing my own thing and not having to consider anyone else. It'd be nice to have companionship tho, idk. But then part of me wonders if it's my issue with failing. My last real relationship was a failure and when I fail at things I tend to not do them anymore so maybe I'm like subconsciously avoiding it because I hate failure and don't want to fail again??? Trying to tap into my weird brain here idk!

 

Good Luck out there, you gotta keep yourself consumed with something and then the time will pass real quickly.

 

Not to rough! Loosen your grip a bit!

 

It seems things are not ok. I had a really weird text conversation just now and apparently she has "stuff to think about".

 

Sorry Chase, hope it works out.

If it makes you feel any better, I've had both my parents asking me about meeting a girl and I've made 0 progress on that in the last couple years.

 

Yeah it's tough for me to meet people and this one was so easy, things seemed to be going well. I'm really confused

 

i just landed an internship at a local studio that i'll be doing through december so once that starts im sure the time will fly by

 

I'm really sorry. :( Did you ask as to what/why?

 

Yeah I tried to get her to elaborate but she didn't. It's really sudden, so I have to wonder if she didn't just start seeing someone else. The only other thing I can think is that she decided maybe she doesn't want to date me because I'm a parent... But then she's known that from the beginning and it hasn't been an issue

 

oh yeah we're gonna be fine im just impatient lol im ready to live with her like right now

 

my dating life:

 

Going to just be blunt.... Losing someone who loves you is the worst. I want someone to just love me I want to skip the getting to know you stages where you feel like you can't be your real self, and that you don't know if they're going to turn and run. This fucking sucks.

 

You should always try to be your real self. Then you'll attract the people who are right for you. Though, that's easier said than done...

 

I'm not my real self in the beginning just because I'm very guarded and I like to make sure I'm comfortable around someone and gauge them first. It takes me about 3 months to open up and really be myself. Not that I'm totally fake before, just not exactly me either. I'd love to skip that stage and go right to comfortable

 

I don't know if I have a " real self " I'm always so guarded with my shields up that I don't even know who I am sometimes

 

After my girlfriend of 7 years broke up with me, that was one of the hardest things to deal with - losing someone I could be completely open with and known by. Almost all of my friends had scattered away from where I live too, so I didn't have much one-on-one help there either.

Fortunately, I met someone else eventually and she made getting to know each other . . . well, fun, I guess. It helps that she's pretty different from anyone else I've dated, but I still really enjoyed those early stages of the relationship, even if I prefer that "comfort" stage above all. So yeah, it's definitely not the best, but if you find the right person, it can be better than you expect?

I've kept up with this thread but haven't ever posted in here. I can relate a lot to the stuff that's been posted over the past month or so. That last break-up was the most miserable experience of my life and affected me pretty profoundly.