(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 164

Edit: that's not what I expected the sad face emoticon to look like. Interesting.

Edit 2: I hear the cool kids call them emojis now

 

I don't think I've called too many people a dork on this site yet so it's going pretty well IMO

 

On AP I used to just post in the mewithoutYou and Relient K threads and lurk the Politics threads but never really post. This place is definitely much better (though I still only lurk and never post in the politics thread haha). This place is definitely much better, and up until the weirdness of the last few pages, this thread has been one of the better threads I think. Everyone in here has mostly been really cool and helpful and supportive.

 

I'm way less engaged here. Idk if that's because I'm not actively attempting to start arguments or rile people up or an overall lack of discussion about things I'm interested in or simply my lifestyle and interests changing

 

You're in my clique

 

woah, take it to the sex thread.

 

we all the clique

 

I used to get @bigmike and mht mixed up so I was intimidated by you and then it turns out you're super nice and I was switching the two.

I didn't post much on AP bc of being intimidated. My post count here shows I'm much more comfortable and like posting here.

 

mht said and did some fucked up things on AP, but we got along on and off the site really well. But, no, I'm not mht. That said, I did and said a lot of fucked up shit, so I'm glad AP kinda died so I can pretend I wasn't a complete dick.

 

In this new world order I took advantage of this new beginning to seize power.

 

Ah, you guys cheered me up a lot thanks.
I missed a bunch which is really the crux of my problem at AP (and I'm trying to prevent it from happening here buttttt....) is that I am always doing a million things online so I'm always so late to the convos on the site.
On AP I was hintsofgold. Idk why I tried to keep it a secret. I did not post very much at all other than on news stories and even then it was often late, as I said.
I did have an older one before that but I am too embarrassed by both the name and who I was back then hah.
I was mostly a lurker on AP and I'm trying to get involved more on here because it feels like a fresh slate like I said. I feel like everyone's new even though I know it's the same people from the old site, I just like pretending that we've never interacted before haha.
For some reason I was really into keeping myself anonymous on this site but I really don't know why.

 

Double post, I am so uncouth.

But I always have felt like I have a harder time letting go than most people. All of my closest friends move on from relationships really fast and seem to turn their emotions off like a faucet. Idk if I'm just not that strong or what but I can't do that. I am incapable of hiding my emotions and moving on and leaving everything behind.
I wish I could be the type that jumps into another relationship right away, like so many, but I just can't. The idea of being with someone else just feels totally wrong and unappealing. I fear that I will feel this way for a long time.

 

I didn't know you were hintsofgold! U made awesome posts tbh! Own it and work!

 

whaaaaat shut up I never in a million years would expect someone to recognize that username lol
even now I feel like you're only saying that to be nice but I will still accept it

 

I don't have any vivid memories attached or anything but I definitely had a vaguely positive reaction to reading that username, for whatever that's worth.

 

I totally know it cause I'm a weird stalker and I took mental note of ppl who didn't post regularly but when they did it was good! Outing myself as a weirdo but that's ok!

 

You guys have literally completely made my night. Even if you're lying through your teeth or getting me mistaken for someone else, I don't even care at this point hahaha

Oh and my avatar was a picture of a Peter Pan mermaid if that rings any bells for anyone. Haha

 

I only speak the white hot truth at all times

 

Same, here.

 

I remember the Peter Pan Mermaid (I generally remember photos more than usernames). I remember liking you, though I don't know if we ever interacted or not.

 

Co-sign.

 

No worries you are totally not alone and anyone else trying to make you feel bad is cold and an ignorant prick. You shouldn't have to wish to be the type to jump into another relationship, often that's a mistake. It's better to take time to completely move on and be ready. After my break up almost two years ago I had similar reactions from people. It's pathetic. Everyone takes their own time whether it's three months, six months, a year or even more. Every person is different when it comes to dealing with friendships and relationships and how they feel about certain aspects so it's on you on how to handle that.

Don't let anyone make you feel bad or that you should be like them, they're inconsiderate and likely hypocritical. People expect patience when they're going through something but will utter complete stupidity like "calm down" and "get over it" to anyone else. They're insensitive. You can't just "get over" something within a day, week or even a month. If that was the case, the world would be very different.

 

Aw shucks, thanks! Yeah I thought I would mention the avi cause I never changed it and some people do tend to remember pictures more. But thank you!!

Thank you... I feel like somethings wrong with me when someone is telling me it's time to start moving on when it hasn't even been a week. Not only that but I have been trying to actively save/reconcile the relationship so outright moving on sounds strange. Like I got judged harshly for not having started packing, when we only just briefly discussed me moving out 4 days ago. Sorry I didn't have boxes on hand and I had shit to do in that time frame (a concert, work, etc) and considering I don't want the relationship to end no I'm not jumping up and getting boxes and packing at the drop of a hat.
I dunno. I just feel like things need to slow down, I'm not the kind of person who reacts well to abrupt change.

 

I'm honestly a little unsure you ever even do100% get over something like that. Maybe you just end up eventually being able to live with that everpresent, dull discomfort. That's probably a little more morbid sounding than I intend. I think it's a good thing to be able live with and accept that sort of experience. idk

 

Well that's comforting lol