LGBTQIA+ Thread • Page 8

So I guess I consider myself pansexual and have explained that to a few people but I don't care about labels enough to correct people so they can assume what they want. But a situation happened at work yesterday and my friend asked why I didn't speak up. I had dated a girl for a while and almost everyone at work knew and the other day a few of us were talking in a group and something came up and someone said "yeah well you're a lesbian", and I just rolled with it. My friend was offended for me and wanted me to correct her. What do bi/pan people do in situations like that?

 

Depends on how much I care, really, and how often I'm gonna interact with that person. Random customer at work? Not really worth asserting my sexuality. My parents? Yeah I've made it very clear that I'm bisexual.

 

It's just an acquaintance at work. I've hung out with her 2-3 times with other people from work but we're not especially close. If it comes up in conversation I'll address it but something like that to stop and derail things to be like "hold on now, don't put a label on me" didn't seem necessary.

 

That's kind of how I feel about it. Usually I'll make s comment about how I think a guy is hot/attractive and someone will go "wait I thought you were gay?" And I'll just be like "nope I'm bi actually". And then life goes on!

 

A lot of people at work think I'm straight. I've told a few people but I just don't want to make a huge deal being like "um ACTUALLY ..." but I also find it annoying having people assuming shit about me.

 

i usually turn that indignity inwards. i'm awful at confronting people over anything, let alone an orientation i'm still gonna be trying not to repress for the next sixty years, aha.

 

I told a couple more work friends that I'm bi tonight. Felt good.

 

So I recently came to realize that I am bi. I think I kind of knew for a while that I was also attracted to girls but I kind of just pushed it aside until a couple of months ago. I'm not really out yet because I've only told a few people and I know there's no rush for it, but I'd like to start moving in that direction. Just telling the handful of people has been good so I think even being open about it here will help.

 

BISEXUAL PARTYYYYY

 

Welcome to the party, everyone is hot

 

speaking of the bisexual party, i just came across the Assassin's Creed tumblr confirming that Jacob Frye is bisexual and it is canon. i started AC Syndicate very recently and am in love with it for so many reasons. its way of handling inclusivity and diversity is great. i think it's the best in the series for not only that but the story telling, character development, gameplay, side missions. it's definitely underrated. so yeah. this could go in so many threads - representation, video games, etc. but i felt it was most relevant here. i'm a huge gamer and having a bi character in an AAA title, especially a massive franchise like this, is a big deal.

just. feelings.

 

Never been a big AC/ubisoft fan but it seems like they've been trying to expand beyond white moody guy protag and I appreciate that.

 

i've no idea when pride was for y'all but did y'all have a good time, those who took part? ours was two weeks or so ago

I missed the parade here but I went in with my boyfriend and one of my best friends. it was great, i love how much good vibes there are.

 

I was in a show during Boston pride, so I missed all festivities. I miss it every year.

 

AUBREY PLAZA HAS JOINED THE BISEXUAL PARTY

 

I'd vote for the Bisexual Party in the upcoming election

 

She kinda danced around the term which makes me wonder if she identifies by a specific word or nah

 

I'm hurting a lot, and I need a place to vent to other LGBT+ people.

I found a girl on okc and followed her tumblr. She followed back and we started talking. Things moved fast, and we exchanged numbers. She talked a lot about missing sex (she's very sexually active, I'm not). Finally, we ended up sexting. A lot. At least once a day. And we both developed feelings for each other. After less than 2 weeks of just messaging/texting, I finally felt a connection to another woman, and those feelings were reciprocated! It was exciting, and I was looking forward to what is was going to become.

But a few nights ago she insisted we have a serious talk. She's an addict and is also borderline (already knew both of these things). What I didn't know was that she was still madly in love with her ex. She flat out told me she would go back to him if he ever wanted her back. It hurt to hear, but I told her that if she REALLY did have feelings for me, then I was okay with it and it could be worked through. Everything was fine after that. We FaceTimed later when she got home, and we were fine. We FaceTimed the next day, and we were fine. Everything was great- there was no sign of tension or uneasiness.

Then later that night I texted her before leaving work asking if she wanted to FaceTime when I got home. She told me she didn't wanna continue talking basically because she felt bad that she was dragging me through her shit and that she couldn't be as emotionally available as I was willing to be. I was distraught. We FaceTimed as soon as I got off work, and she basically said she was doing this for me.

The next day (yesterday) I asked if we could FaceTime today. She said she didn't think it'd be a good idea, so I put my feelings on the table one final time. I told her I wanted to work it out and that she shouldn't be afraid to hurt me. I was being selfish, but I didn't know what else to do. Anyway, I asked her one last time yesterday if there was any way I could convince her to stay, and she said no.

I'm really, really fucked up by this. I've never dealt with this before, so all this is new to me. I once loved a girl who never loved me back, but that was a different kind f pain, ya know? And this great girl comes along, makes me emotionally invested in her, flips my entire world upside down, just for her to tell me she's still in love with her ex. I feel so silly that I'm going through this at nearly 25 instead of being a teenager since I'm queer and am still in the process of being out. I just don't know how to handle this. I'm angry she did this to me, I'm angry that my depression is starting to grab ahold of me again because of this, and I feel SO low.

Any advice would be appreciated. If anything, thanks for reading this massive ass post haha.

 

Annie Clark/ Cara Delevingne 2016, I know neither is 35 but I don't care

 

I think the best thing I can tell you is that it sounds like she has a lot of baggage and realized she would be making you a romantic placeholder in her life. We all deserve to be someone's #1, and you wouldn't have been it to her. In my experience, that's even more painful.

Big internet hug. And don't feel silly. I'm 33 and going through my own things that make me feel the same way.

 

My only advice is if someone tells you they're still in love with their ex up front, call it quits because it literally never goes up from there. I'm sorry :/

 

Yeah, she didn't really tell me until a few days ago, though I figured she may still have feelings for them. I just didn't realize she was still so in love with them :/ thank you and @BirdPerson though. I really appreciate it.

 

Copying this from the mental health thread since its come to my attention it would be more suitable here

So I presume I would put what I'm about to say here in this thread since I would consider it a mental health issue, though not in a bad way at all or anything just something I've been grappling with.

I'm not comfortable with my gender or any gender really. It's been a long struggle to come to terms with, something I've been putting in the back of my mind but I'm now realizing that I'm among friends, especially here on this forum, and it's ok for me to express this. I'm hoping this doesn't offend or upset anyone due to my poor wording or something like that, I'm just to the point now where I'mover gender and don't identify with any of them. I've always felt uncomfortable with masculinity and instead of striving for it like I have for so long I'm instead going to try to be comfortable with my self without the weight of gender on my shoulders. Idk, I'm just ranting and kind of confused but also a bit relieved.

 

One of my coworkers just came out as trans after coming out to us as genderfluid about a month ago. Everyone at work has been really supportive, however I feel slightly bad. We work together a lot, I'm her closing supervisor, so we have a lot of chances to talk. And she has confided in me things that I want desperately to be able to respond to with clarity but I have been having a really hard time responding in any sort of substantive way as a cis male who doesn't really have any shared experiences....

 

Recently came out as queer to one of my best friends after only having come out to my girlfriend a couple months ago. I realized that both times I did it in such a causal, nonchalant manner, I had to go back and expand/explain my thoughts later haha. It feels good though, the more I talk about and verbalize it the more real it feels. It's a little strange because I'm deeply invested in a long-term relationship with someone who I fully intend to spend the rest of my life with, and so I'm not looking at all to go out and investigate this new found part of myself, but just having the knowledge and affirmation of not being a straight person feels really good to me. Very validating.

I also don't know if I've come out anywhere on this site/AP before so this might potentially be my 3rd time coming out. If so, sup.