(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 53

I dated someone for a while who was very active on social media about our relationship and she would usually accuse me of being shady and stuff like that because it really wasn't my thing

 

excessive affection is annoying af over fb. My cousins SO does that. Either in a comment or posted to her timeline be something like "I love you so much baby you're gonna be a great mother. Blah blah blah" in response to half of her posts

 

It's hard to even get PDA from me lol

 

There is a direct correlation between the amount of affection one shows towards their partner on social media and the insecurities/crises one is facing in that relationship. As if the facade will save you from the crumbling foundation. After you separate, it just leads to people saying,"you just posted a picture of you both kissing at the Grand Canyon", to which one invariably replies,"it was during those three days that I realized that i couldn't spend my life going on road trips with someone who has to have a Smash Mouth song on every road trip mix."

 

my ex hated that i didn't want everything out there. i'm just not sure about things until i'm engaged or married. and in this case, since he's my ex, i was right.

 

100% agreed.

man, he would wake up everyday and the first thing would be browsing on facebook and giggling and liking the most absurd shit. cue eyeroll.gif

 

My girlfriend stopped seeing a dude like six months before we met and my girlfriend wanted me to fill out a facebook profile -- I signed up like nine years ago but never used it for more than a quick message to some people I couldn't get ahold of otherwise -- and made it 'facebook official'. Said guy she had stopped seeing texted her something super snarky about her never doing that with him or something. It was super weird. I don't get that mentality, though I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with wanting to be super open about your relationship on facebook. It's not my thing.

That said, currently in a struggle with my girlfriend over the fact that she doesn't think I'm affectionate enough in real life -- which I'm probably not -- but it's so damn foreign to me to be very affectionate. It is the opposite of the way I've been my entire life.

 

Literally 10 minutes into my current relationship they were teasing me about how I don't show my emotions lol

 

Luckily have yet to date anyone who made a big deal about showing affection over social media

 

hey! I do the same thing, only with this site.

edit: with this thread.

 

Facebook affection and PDA are gross. I don't wanna see you sucking face and I respect that you don't want to see me either when you're out buying groceries.

 

im not even friends with the girl i have been seeing on facebook... yet.

 

I mean, I like holding hands. That's it.

 

I don't really get the disdain towards couples interactions on the internet. I mean I personally wouldn't do stuff like that but if it makes them happy, so be it.

 

Holding hands is tolerable. Kissing, rubbing, etc are just outside my comfort zone

 

over the weekend, my ex and i drunkenly got matching tattoos. lol, it isn't each other names and it's small and discreet but fuck. lol i regret a little bit of it, and it means something different for both of us, but fuck.

 

and i feel like this applies to the current conversation

 

I don't have any social media bullshit and rarely would care what a SO posts on social media. But then again I never allow pictures of "us" which only serve to be used in awkward, social media style ways. Then again I don't understand the fascination with taking pictures in general. What a way to ruin / take you out of any moment.

 

Which one is Emily?

 

I'm sadly going to plant myself firmly in the cynic camp. If people share a genuinely sweet moment on FB, like a particular picture or status about something which happened, I'm happy for them. What I don't like are the ones which are just gushing about how great they are. It comes across like they're trying to sell a brand.

I was with a girl for about 3.5 years and we never said anything even remotely gushing on FB. It was mostly Tetris challenges and snarky comments on photos. We didn't share the good bits. :)

 

Before the apps and all that the worst on Facebook was the constant commenting back and forth from people who you knew lived together and were likely home at the same goddamn time (again, before the apps). Dating or not, that activity was fucking annoying and filling up feeds with useless shit.

Although everything is useless shit to me so I may be biased.

 

They're both named Emily

 

I think the annoying factor has more to do with how often it happens. For someone to post about their SO on, say, that person's birthday, an anniversary, holiday, etc., isn't weird at all. But I know people who do it about once a week, probably more, and that's when it comes off as too much. It just appears superficial and disingenuous

 

I have no problem with PDA online. At least I don't have too much of an issue. But it's whenever someone goes "my ______ is better than yours," that I believe said person deserves the death sentence.

 

Just don't ever say hubby or wifey