(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 47

Fertility issues can totally rip apart even the strongest relationships. Sorry you're going through this.

 

I personally think "once a cheat, always a cheat" only applies when it happens more than one time (not necessarily more than one partner, but on more than one occasion) - although, it happening once absolutely establishes the possibility of it happening again when the chips are down. That being said, it's never okay and it's something I've personally found I cannot get past in terms of repairing trust.

I'm very sorry that this happened to you, @Old Fuck. I know how painful that kind of betrayal can be, although I don't know what it's like to lose a marriage. Whatever peace there might be for you to find, I hope it comes to you as quickly as possible.

 

I cheated once in high school. It was one of the first times I ever got drunk. I kissed almost every girl at the party on the mouth and then woke up next to the girl who threw the party. Felt horrible about it. The girl I was dating had cheated on me in the past, but we stayed together. She asked me what happened and I had no idea, so she had to talk to the girl who threw the party.

Needless to say, I'll never do that again. I was just a young idiot at the time. I mean, I'm still an idiot, just not as young, and I learned my lesson on that one.

 

I hope I never get cheated on. Or that the girl is smart enough to cover it up so I don't find out. That would just absolutely ruin my trust in people.

 

I hope so too. It does do that and it sucks

 

i got cheated on once a few years back. and then recently, we weren't really together, but we were emotionally involved with each other.. she fucked around which just gutted me. it definitely fucked with my trust for other people, and i don't feel like putting in effort anymore. it's the worst, so I sympathize. i don't get selfish people.

 

I got two timed so badly once lol This guy took me to his work parties, took me on dates, stayed at my house a lot, his mom even bought me a Christmas present. He was in a wreck and I sat with him almost the whole time he was hurt. He's a firefighter and one of his coworkers called me and said he had a girl over at their fire house and had been with this girl the whole time he was with me. I was completely blindsided. I threw his shit on the lawn and ignored every way he tried to contact me. Scumbag.

 

I've never technically cheated. I did know they were emotionally involved with me but the feeling wasn't mutual. I told them that they could date whomever, but they said they didn't want to. Ultimately they didn't find out and I didn't feel bad. But what I did feel bad about was ending the "relationship" because I knew it wasn't going anywhere--because I didn't want it to. I can't take when people cry. I can't take hurting people. But then again, it's only when someone cries that I know they actually care.

 

I got cheated on and went back for more. I was dumb and she is unbelievably selfish.

I worry that I talk about my problems on here too much

 

I tinder swiped in Portland and surrounding areas and I quickly matched. It was the first time that every single person messaged me first. And it was also the first time I was asked asked by the majority of them if I was looking for dating or hooking up.

Turns out they were all looking to hookup. A younger version of me would love Portland, but this old guy needs substance.

 

this is almost my exact current situation, but the other way around. she doesn't want anything further, but yet she still leads me on. and will get angry when i talk about other people. and then cries when we talk about it. it's exhausting...

 

he aint shit!!!!

 

Right?!

 

You're among peers.

I'm thinking about flying out to see my old professor/bff while he's in Portland this summer and roadtripping with him when he drives back...this might have sealed the deal.

 

if was ever cheated on, that's it it's over. We're not young and dumb. Lose my trust. Lose me. I already have major trust issues.

 

I don't understand cheating and prob never will. Break up with me..I don't need you to break my heart AND humiliate me.

 

My trust was broken once before. It isn't the act themselves, like kissing or sex, that bother me. I don't care about that. It is that they did not trust me enough to think I wouldn't understand their needs. I had an emotional affair years ago. My partner at the time found out. She went on my computer and looked through my correspondences. She subsequently broke my computer. I deserved it.

 

I'd never cheat on any of you.

 

Even if a date goes poorly the Canadian in my always says "I had a good time." What else do you suppose to say when you're saying goodbye??

 

just say 'ok well peace ' and walk away

 

ahhaha there's no way I can do that.

 

"wait, who are you again?"

 

I was cheated on i guess. I don't have trust issues cause of it tho. More so about other things. I know women who won't let their bf talk to girls or they have mutual understandings that neither will talk to someone of the opposite sex and barf not my thing. I'm not someone's mom. I'd rather just trust someone than snoop through their junk and put in the effort of banning their communication with others. Idk how some couples live like that. I think they thrive off jealousy and drama idek

 

I once had a gf tell me that I need to let her know if I'm hanging out with another girl one on one. No big surprise that that's the only relationship that I actually regret. If a girl told me that now I'd tell them to re-advise whether or not they're ready for a relationship with that kind of issue. It's such an unattractive trait.

 

the idea that guys and girls can't be friends is so heteronomative and messy