(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 1359

first wifeless Thanksgiving in 5 years, looking forward to it

 

In a shitty position of not feeling the desire/energy to even try to date in forever but at the same time desperately wanting to be in that comfortable position in a serious relationship where you and the other person could just stay in together all weekend. Just need to skip all the shitty steps yk

 

Still in a stable relationship which is weird, I’ll check in again in a couple weeks

 

I texted Christian mom and just let her now how I feel for her as per @oldjersey ‘s advice. Why I followed dumbass dans advice? I’m drunk lol

 

Folks, what is it with people who message you “hi” or “hey” on dating apps and then stop responding when you message back? Who raised these people?

 

oh boy

 

we're prayin' for you

 

Ohhhhhhh you're halfway thereeee
OHHHH OHHH
Livin' on a prayer

 

I don’t think I ever told y’all what happened last time I saw her. @oldjersey

Well, as you know, she had been texting me about how she would be in town for a company party and that she really wanted me to be her guest.

She asked if I could pick her up from the airport, to which I agreed, and said that she’d love to get lunch after. Cool. So I get to the airport and text her I’m there and she sends me a picture of...her son? Wat. Her son is there too. Surprise!

So, this part was sort of awkward. Like, hey man, haven’t seen you in years and I didn’t know you were gonna be here and I dunno if you knew I was the one picking y’all up but yeah I’m here to pick up your mom who I actually text with a lot good to see you bro.

I guess he was in town for some convention or something so I drop him off and then his mom and I go back to her hotel room to drop her luggage off. We’re there for awhile and then we leave to get lunch. It was really nice. Talking to her is so effortless. We have a few drinks with our lunch and decide to go back to her hotel room. On the walk back I felt the dynamic had changed a bit. A lot more of what I perceived to be flirtatious touching, including her putting her hand on my back and like rubbing it I guess??? I dunno, to me that felt like flirting but waddoo I kno

We get back to her hotel room and, much like when we were at her house, we are sitting next to each other in the couch, as close as we possibly could without actually cuddling. But, I refrain from making any sort of move and we just chat for awhile and I had to leave for work and I give her a hug goodbye.

That night I’m at work and the bar she’s at is literally just below my office so it would be very easy for me to sneak away and grab a quick drink. She’s texting me, clearly having had a few drinks, saying how I need to come downstairs and be her date and she even threw in some line about how handsome she found me. I then very specifically remember her making the point of saying, “hey, Jeremy (her son) is gone now. You should come down.” Why she specified that he was gone? I dunno exactly but it stood out to me.

I go down and I have to keep it brief. We have a few drinks. Her son comes back so instantly the dynamic changes. I sorta distance myself from her and watch the band playing by myself. I have to go and she says she wants to walk me back. So we’re walking together and there is what I perceive to be clear chemistry between us. (Oh yeah, something I should probably note: I am known for being very oblivious when it comes to people being into me unless they are very direct. I’ve let a lot of opportunities pass me by due to being an oblivious idiot only to have other people be like ‘dude wtf!? So for me to think there is clear chemistry between me and someone is kinda rare. Doesn’t mean it’s correct, but felt the need to point it out.) I get to my destination and we’re standing there for awhile just talking and rather than going in for the kiss, I tell her it was very nice seeing her and hug her goodbye. She mentions how I should fly to Chicago and visit her sometime.

Since then we’ve texted here and there. Not a whole lot. And then last night we were texting about school and I decided, fuck it, and just told her straight up how I feel about her. I don’t even know how to gauge her response though. it wasn’t like “wow fuck you no way you’re wrong” but it was just a really long tangent lol. In it she mentions how easy I am to talk to and says, “I am completely flattered by a smart thinking, thoughtful, good looking young man having any thoughts that consider me anything other than a wise old lady.” She mentions being flattered twice and even says it’s nice to be thought of that way and says, “thank you for thinking so well of me.”
But then after all the compliments she says, “but I don’t want to mess you up in any way or form.” I legit have no idea what that means haha. It’s a little bit more ambiguous than I was hoping for. I wanted either a hard, “yes, I’m into you too” or a hard, “no, Gtfo.” So there’s that. But I’m glad I laid it out on the table. At least I can say I tried

 

I think it’s obvious she’s very into you. But she probably feels it taboo to mess around with her son’s peer and may feel uncomfortable with any perceived ramifications if others find out, especially her son.

P.S. absolutely love these Christian mom updates, haha.

 

^ yeah that honestly sounds about right

How old is the son?

 

He’s my age so about 26?

 

Yeah I think it’s the son thing since she mentioned him so often in that text haha. What a ***********.

 

That story leaves me somewhat uncomfortable.

 

@Dog with a Blog DUDE if it were me and I saw the son with the mom when I went to pick her up it would of murdered my soul. Did he do or say anything awkward to you???

 

they just forget to do the last part

 

It's DIRTY Dan get it RIGHT

 

Yeah this was me. All of me wanted to just keep driving past the airport and not look back




I managed to keep the conversation going throughout the ride but yes it was definitely strange to see my old friend I haven’t seen in forever and be like yo dude so imma drop you off and go back with your mom to her place. We actually talked about it later cause she was like, “was that weird?” And I was like uhhhhhh yeah

 

Someone needs to make a gif of this but have the 2nd shot be of this



And the last shot be this

 

Idk I don’t think she’s into him, or at least doesn’t want to admit it, I think she may just be playing around / enjoy the comraderie but wouldn’t take it farther than that or admit to more than that. From her hemming and hawing response it sounds to me like if she had to make a decision it would be no and if she did do anything she would regret it.

Just my 2 cents

 

Yeah I’m kinda in this boat too, tbh. Which is why I put myself out there, cause I sorta want to be done with it I guess. Her full response, though riddled with complements, is fairly confusing and maybe the fact that it is so confusing and not an outright “yeah I like you” or “no I’m not into you” is answer enough.

 

That’s how I tend to see those answers too. And if I were you, I would have asked / told as well. There’s no point in being vague and beating around the bush (no pun! No pun!) and wasting time. And based on her answer, I would take it as a no and leave well enough alone. You can till talk / maybe hang out but if you think she’s treading into a different territory then you got stop and hold up shop and get an explanation.

 

Thanks for the update on Christian mom. Unfortunately I echo the same sentiments as above. I think she’s probably into you and feels chemistry but the feeling that she shouldn’t (because of age and the son) is too strong.
And tbh I can’t blame her. I always find it incredibly awkward and side eye when someone gets with someone else who is the same age as their kids. It just weirds me out for a reason that you can’t really put a finger on, but it sounds like she feels the same way

 

Yeah idk how long you've known the mom. If you met her as an adult and your friend was an adult then that's like whatever. If this is a woman you've known since being a child or a minor then I 1000% don't blame her cause that's messed up. I could never date or sexualize someone I met and knew when they were a kid and I was an adult.

 

Plus I don't think Stifler would appreciate it awkward all around