(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 33

I have a black cynical heart and I'm like ehh flowers die what's the point

 

My kids' mom is obsessed with flowers. When she gets flowers she keeps them until they die, and then she puts them on display somewhere else as a memory to when they were alive because "THEY WERE SO BEAUTIFUL AND HE WAS SO SWEET". My last girlfriend told me if I ever got her flowers she'd kill me. I feel like there isn't much in between.

 

I've never been given flowers. I also don't get asked on dates. "Dates" from dating sites I wouldn't want flowers, if it's someone I already know i think it would be sweet and thoughtful

 

I have never and will never buy a date flowers. I also would never consider dinner for a first date. Simply drinks. If we end up spending hours together i might get street food--maybe an appetizer at a restaurant like Fries, onion rings, or cheese sticks.

Last date I went on I wasn't too thrilled with how they ended up looking. But I wasn't going to be a jerk and ghost so I replied in a way that showed I wasn't as excited as they were. I think they got the picture

 

Yeah I agree on that for sure, anyone from a dating site giving/receiving flowers would feel awkward

 

The only time I did that was when the person asked for it

And now someone's trying to get my attention again after wasting my time for months but I'm being super passive about it

 

Everyone is different. I wouldn't want to do drinks on a "first date". Dinner I'm okay with. Nothing too fancy and nothing too cheap. Like if you took me to chipotle are we even on a date? You probably wouldn't hear from me again. Or you can take me to pet some cats... Hahah

 

I wanna go on a date to a jazz club for dinner and music because I feel like it's the perfect combination of how exciting I am and how boring I am

 

I would love a Chipotle date

 

Flowers on a first date seems kinda weird.

 

This would be perfect, you should talk to Denton girls

 

I feel like 75% of Denton girls are already my friends

I used to actually be social at one point and at that point I lived in Denton

 

when it comes to tinder i have had moderate success with it, last year i talked to a girl for nearly three months before we actually met up (one we were both fairly busy at the time, and two she wanted to take her time which i understand), i actually didn't mind it because when we actually met up it felt natural. we ended up dating for about a year. i guess what i can see both point of views in people wanting to meet right away/or being hesitant and hanging out later on.

 

Damn. I hope you're ridiculously good looking bc your posts make you seem extremely superficial and judgemental.

 

I think a lot of ppl do coffee on a first date but I'm a child and I don't drink coffee. I don't drink alcohol either lol. I have no problem ordering a Shirley Temple or whatevr but it seems to turn ppl off so yeah

 

i wrote an earlier post about being catfished...I wasn't going to rehash it.
And at no point was I judging anyone so I don't know where that's coming from.

 

I don't see how that was being catfished if it's still the same person

 

this thread already dealt with my thursday date...I don't see how I'm wrong for not wanting to see that person again.

 

Fuck it I'ma try and start going on dates again

I keep making excuses like "I'll start trying again after x" or "I'll go on dates again after y" and I keep putting it off despite the fact that it's something I'd enjoy so might as well

 

You're not wrong for not wanting to see the person again. If you weren't interested, you weren't interested. You said you were catfished, but if the girl you met with was the same girl in the photos, it's not being catfished, but perhaps her photos were a little misleading?

 

They were very misleading. And we already went through why some people do it--Insecurities. But what am I to do? I'm attracted to the photos but not them. They were attracted to my photos and me because I portrayed myself exactly as I am. In fact, it was quite unfair for me to go on that date. It cost me money for lies! LIES!

Yes they texted and wanted another date...I didn't ghost which I'm sure most would have.

 

It's cool that you're confident and know what you like, and while I'm not going to parse your words, they do have a douchey undertone.

 

I'll admit i'm not in the best mood at the moment so it's coming off in my writing. I don't know where confidence is coming off though.

 

Previous posts regarding your success on Tinder and offering advice on how to approach women on the app. Indicates confidence to me. Maybe false bravado. Who knows.

 

i definitely wasn't giving advice, just my approach. And I break it down by the city i'm in at the time. Heck, I told about my constant rejection after limited conversation in Toronto which worked wonders in Seattle etc. So again, I'm definitely not being cocky or confident in my opinion. But you're right, who knows.