(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 31

I usually read the bios after I've matched. No point spending much time on them before I know if they're going to talk to me

that's weird, I haven't had much trouble with fake accounts on OKC. I have gotten numerous scammers on Tinder though. Its usually pretty obvious from their first message, but within a few messages they will always ask you to talk on another site. Report report report.

 

I'm the acquaintance of a few white girls who think everyone is attracted to white girls. It's one of those times when I get stuck in a stare while they're talking and thinking there's no way this is real life..

 

I swear I'm the only person on this earth who isn't ashamed of loving Limp Bizkit. An no, they aren't a band anymore.

 

yeah do that so i can get on catfish

 

plus eharmony is trash too

 

I stopped using OKC after I came out and changed my preferences, got one too many message from dudes looking to get laid. I haven't even tried to use Tinder to look for men, I can only imagine what kind of trash I'd get hitting me up.

 

So drunk but not drunk enough I realise this is the relationships thread.

Basically anything online like tinder whatever has failed for me...uni doesn't work at making friends

 

I've seen guys state "no black chicks" (as well as "no fat chicks") on their profiles. Nothing wrong with having a preference but the way they say it is kinda harsh. As with me, I prefer to date white guys, nothing against others but I haven't found someone non white that I was really attracted to in the same way. If I find someone non white that I like then I'll date them. But seeing as no guy wants to date me...

 

Saying something like "no fat chicks" or "no black chicks" is very shallow and shitty in my opinion. Like if you have a preference, that's yours to have. But to go out of your way and be like that upfront, that's someone not really worth getting involved with.

 

Yeah, even through I have a preference, I'd never write it on my profile. If I'm not interested I simply ignore the message and thats what those guys should do too. Guys who write shit like that is an automatic pass.

 

Preferences for white ppl and preferring not to date poc is sketchy mcsketcherton and the only silver lining is I know to avoid trying to date those ppl.

 

Co-signed.

 

If I see something anything along the lines of a racial preference on a profile I won't bother talking to that person

 

when I see white people say "no blacks" or "i prefer white---" makes me want to say "Only natural blonde, none of that bottle blonde shit, under 134 pounds, between 5'5 and 5'10" You'll have 99% of whites being like "WTF." You're not the best in the world.

 

Let's not deny we everyone has preferences no matter what it is. That doesn't make someone a bad person. Don't try to bring someone down because of it.

Stating your preferences on dating profiles is a big no because it's rude and gives off a bad vibe. Not interested? Ignore the message. No need to tell certain people not to message you, that's messed up. THAT is the type of person to avoid. You can't help who you're attracted to. Let's understand that. Now if a person doesn't want to date someone they find attractive because said person is out side their "preference"... Now that's sketchy. Not someone who is just attracted to certain people.

 

Race preferences don't just come from thin air.


Also omg when you have a cute cashier and get in ur car and realize ur face has a big patch of not rubbed in sunblock on it whhhhhy is this my life. Forget having no game I have negative game

 

I went on a tinder date last night and they were a little heavier than their pictures lead me to believe. I wasn't happy about it but went on with the date--they were still nice afterall. But I don't get why dishonesty in pictures. Personally I want to be as accurate as possible so when they see me they think "exactly what I was expecting."

 

I have really bad skin so I would try to look the best in photos, but always fear when I would meet up with someone they'd be like "ew no not what I thought" because a lot of guys in my area are rude like that and don't give girls a chance.

 

I had an experience like this. As soon as she said my name and waved I was like, "who is this?" It didn't even register that this was my date.

Needless to say, we'll be getting married in September.

Kidding, it didn't work out.

 

Being catfished is one reasons why I'm hesitant to meet up with people but I try to do my "research". If a guy has one bad profile pic or no pic at all at says "give me your number and I'll text you a pic. Can't post one because of my job" I just ignore them. If I can I'll try to fb stalk them and see if I can find more info about them. Also guys who want to meet up fairly quickly without conversation and doesn't respect me is a nope.

 

Did you think their weight would make them a shittier person? That thought makes you the shitty person.

 

It does feel like I wasted my time though--and $50. I know people have insecurities, but i'd rather them right swipe me, not right swipe some guy that I claim to be but truly am not. Thus my pictures are pretty damn accurate. And my dates tell me that. No surprises. Heck i'm told i'm even better in person.

ALSO: when the bill came they did do the super long and obnoxious reach for their wallet/purse without actually getting it out. It went on for atleast 15 seconds before I said "i got it." and they replied "are you sure?" in which case I replied "are you?" and that was the end of that.

I didn't even come close to phrasing it that way.

 

That's a location thing. In seattle I can literally say "hi" "That's awesome, this would probably be alot easier in person over drinks" and then they say yeah it would and boom. Not even 4 messages from me.
In toronto I tried that and i was quickly, and I mean quickly ignored. hahah. That's when I realized after the 6th rejection that the culture was different and I needed to put in more texting time.

 

The idea of "they were nice after all" struck me as "they were heavier, but they turned out to be nice", as though the two things are connected.

 

I don't really know how it is in my area, but I prefer to talk first then meet. Who knows maybe people are willing to just quickly meet, but it's not my thing. It's just when guys are rude about it and are like "then why are you even on here" because I rather chat online first. Some guys respect it. I just don't want to waste my time or their time to take time to meet up if there's no interest whatsoever. Plus I'm not a big drinker (especially with strangers) so getting the offer to meet over drinks turns me away. Once when I met up with a guy we got drinks (then went to a movie) but it was mutual, we chatted online and I fb stalked him and he didn't seem like a creeper so i was cool lol