Bad opinions • Page 35

My sister listens to mainly rap with some pop here and there. Taylor Swift is her favorite artist. She'll listen to things I rec and like them for the most part but she won't actively search in that genre of music.

 

I like Meg! Haha The only song I haven't liked is Desire, and that's just because I've never liked overtly sexual lyrics. (Have the same issue with some other bands/artist I love though)

 

I'm open to most things, so I don't have a problem with that. However, it's def a + if we have the same taste.

 

I think it's unfair to say "some people don't want to be replied to" when posting, especially about sensitive topics like those we've encountered. Comments shouldn't be ignored just because of the title of this thread. That's ridiculous. I appreciate Brandon Allin for acknowledging that "loathe" was too strong a word. The conversation got brought back up by someone in this thread and it continued so I posted again.

There are people in this thread pointing out how something somebody said was problematic. Instead of those people getting defensive like they did they should just listen. Instead, here we are and now the people who spoke up about the problem in the first place are the ones made to feel uncomfortable, myself included.

That's all I have to say on the matter at the moment.

 

This is unbelievably ridiculous. I've clarified repeatedly that I do not like the sounds of any rap or hip hop I have ever heard. I don't give one single fuck what color the artist is making that music, it doesn't appeal to me. Yes, I acknowledged the fact that I was too harsh with my choice of words, but the fact that you can label someone a racist because of that is fucking asinine.

I've attended multiple hip hop concerts, listened to thousands of songs with friends and girlfriends, and the music simply does not appeal to me. Fuck you for calling me prejudice.

Classified was once the most popular rapper in Canada and every single one of my friends adored his records. I saw him multiple times at festivals, and his music failed to appeal to me the same way any black hip hop artist's music. I dislike Eminem as much as I like Dr. Dre.

Get the fuck out of here with your bullshit.

 

Fyi, I deleted my posts on the racism topic because they weren't very helpful in hindsight. Was silly to get myself involved.

Not to play referee or devalue the importance of this topic, but having followed this convo before I decided to join, I don't see this conversation reaching a peaceful conclusion if we don't allow it to slip into oblivion. Just my final two cents on this.

 

Okay dude.

 

That's the song that sparked my interest in the first place, but not because of the lyrics, but because of the instrumentation. Liked it the first time I heard it before the vocals even kicked in haha

 

Good to see things haven't changed that much from AP.

 

I love it musically. It's just a weird thing I've always had with lyrics. There are a couple the Dear Hunter songs I kind of avoid for the same reasons. I think I heard Lemon Eyes first.

 

yeah people still dont understand racism

 

I've always been one to enjoy music much more for the sound than for the lyrics lol. I barely pay attention to what the lyrics mean over half the time, although I know it's for sure an important part of music lol.

 

I've noticed that for me and my relationships it's not comparable music tastes such as genres and artists that bind me with others, but a comparable passion. My dad was always huge on music and I always was too. When I was a tween/teen and super depressed and withdrawn music is how my dad reached out. He would take me to shows and take me all the way to the nearest CD store (an hour away) if a new album was out. We may not have liked much of the same stuff but we were connected through a shared understanding of a passion for music. I also have a sister who I have an age gap with. She was 10 when I went to college so we weren't always close, but we are very connected through our mutual love of music, especially One Direction. We're closer now, but music was definitely what started that bond since she'd text me about pop acts she likes, knowing I keep up on pop culture and know what she's talking about even if I don't like the artist myself. She knew she could always text me about music and I'd care. I do wish I knew more ppl that loved the same music as me since I've never really had that before, but it's amazing how even just a shared love of music can connect ppl regardless of what the music is!

 

Man, I'm like the opposite. It's really hard for me to like bands with lyrics on think are bad. haha (I think Meg is a good writer though)

 

Yeah that was my bad, he and I had been in conversation and then I went into a movie and hours later when I got out I responded to his direct questions to me, I didn't see that it had blown over, that was my fault.

Apologies to everyone for that.

 

This is pretty much spot on with my thoughts on the matter. Like I said, for years, I didn't have much in common with anyone in terms of music tastes. Then it became more important in my family, because those were the people who knew me best. As I moved on through high school and college and went from having a bigger group of friends to having smaller groups of really close friends, it meant I was spending more private time with them, too, so music became an important part of those relationships. And then obviously, with a significant other, it was always going to be an important thing for me. It would just be super strange if my wife didn't like any of the music I listened to, for so many different reasons. What would we listen to in the car? Would we have had the "trade mixtapes" back and forth facet of our relationship? Would she understand why it meant so much to me to get to interview some of my favorite artists? Would she like the music I make? A lot of those things don't seem that huge on paper, but I dunno, they matter to me.

Yeah, I wouldn't say it's a deal breaker. Like I said, I've had friendships and relationships where music tastes weren't really a commonality. And having a community like this is great for that. I wrote in my farewell piece to AP.net that it basically became the place I went to talk about music, because no one in my real life friend group liked or knew most of my favorite artists. I just meant that, for me, music is such a huge part of how I connect with a lot of people that it would be harder if I couldn't share that with my wife.

I think my brother and I would have eventually found common ground, but I doubt we'd be as close without the music connection. He's been my concert buddy since my very first show, and so many of the concerts we've been to are among the best nights of my life. He was my Best Man when I got married two years ago and music (Bruce Springsteen in particular) was at the center of what he talked about in his speech. I think we both feel how much it brought us together, and we're reminded every time we go to a show. Honestly, it's been such a huge blessing to find that.

Awesome to hear that you and your best friend have that kind of connection. I majored in classical voice in college, so most of my classmates were super into classical music and not so much beyond it. My best friend in the program, and one of my closest friends in the world, is a folk singer/songwriter like me, though, so we bonded a lot over similar tastes (as well as over being sort of the "oddballs" of the classical music school environment). It's honestly hard for me to think of a relationship in my life that hasn't been touched or improved by music in one way or another.

 

Definitely agree with you about comparable passion, even when the tastes are different. I mentioned my college roommates: they were both classical instrumentalists. One played the clarinet and really only listened to classical music. The other played the oboe and was a bit more open to newer stuff, but usually steered more toward top 40 kind of stuff than me. So we were all way different in terms of what we liked to listen to, and that sometimes led to disagreements over what was going to get played in the car or at parties. Ultimately, though, we all respected each others' tastes because we knew we all cared about music so much that it was central to our lives.

 

It's not unfair, that's how some people feel, and that's okay. But that also doesn't mean anybody should be stopped from replying either if they want to, especially to point out when things are genuinely problematic because that's important. A lot of people said the same thing to him and even after he addressed it, it still carried on, and some of it got aggressive. And why are you made to feel uncomfortable? That was not my intention and I'm sorry. I'm only saying the manner in which the conversation is conducted is important. Basically, I think that after a few people have said their piece to one person, it doesn't always need to escalate. It depends on the situation and what's being said and why but generally, it doesn't need to happen.

 

i only listen to djent and NOTHING ELSE

 

meshuggah or die

 

Please. Downtempo deathcore or you're a pleb.

 

I think about this a lot now that I actually write. Being raised in a very conservative environment, I know a lot of girls with a pretty limited perspective on different music and honestly it still wasn't a deal breaker. But now that I'm a songwriter? It would just be really bizarre to be married to someone who didn't genuinely enjoy the music I wrote. And for her to enjoy my music she'd have to enjoy at least a few of the artists that have influenced me. It almost seems vain to say, but if she didn't enjoy or connect with what I wrote I think that would speak volumes to how poorly we'd connect in other areas.

As far as music improving relationships in general, I definitely resonate, but interestingly my closest friendship along with my bandmate is with a guy at church who has mentored me for years and he doesn't know much about music. But he knows how big a role it plays in my life, so he's as supportive and passionate about my endeavors as anyone, if not more. That hits me even harder in a lot of ways.

So I actually don't know how much I'd mind if my wife ends up being musically illiterate, but feels passionately about music and what I do. Obviously I would love it if we share the same interests in that area, but there's definitely something special about people who love you for you. And then, if music really is apart of your identity, their love for music will grow out of their love for who you are.

I'm so romantic.

 

Since shit died down, my next unpopular opinion is I do like Twenty One Pilots and think they are doing a lot of good. There's a kid I talk to who really connects with what they do, and I can just see how much what they do improves his quality of life. I used to hate on any "scene" band like My Chemical Romance, Sleeping with Sirens, Pierce the Veil, and most recently Twenty One Pilots because of the fans, but I think if what these bands are doing makes life better for people, I'm glad they exist.

 

I'm always glad other people can dig stuff I can't and this is no exception, but I find 21P absolutely unlistenable.

 

I am definitely not in love with ToP, but I really am glad they have a positive impact on so many lives. I think Tyler is a good writer for this generation.