(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 17

Maybe you should just ask if her if there's a reason she's still talking to you all the time. Confront the inconsistency and see if maybe you are both interested in meeting up and discussing things.

 

How do you guys deal with someone who is closed off emotionally? We broke up because she isn't happy and doesn't feel in love anymore but doesn't know why. This was only about 2 weeks ago. We still live together and things have gone back to normal for the most part but I don't know where we stand and if I try to talk about things it either gets worse or she doesn't want to talk about it.

 

Two weeks isn't a ton of time to figure out where you stand.

Back to normal as in back together? Is she stressed out about something else and maybe projecting?

 

Just more affectionate and attentive. She's moved all her stuff to the second bedroom and we don't sleep together anymore. Maybe she just needed the space. She said she might be stressed about work but doesn't know if that's what it is or not.

 

Might end up doing this as well. Thanks for the advice

Love your username

 

I have to save up some money. I agreed to pay the mortgage for two months. Anyway, I recall when I was younger going through a similar process in which there was a sense that there was purpose. Break-ups, at the time, meant something consequential and left one devastated. One could feel justified in their descent towards self-loathing and cling to the sort of narcissism one can only experience as a young person who whose bond to another was broken for one reason or another. Now I just feel weary due to the emotional labor expended and the prospect of dismantling the various connections we've made, both personal and financial. And this is all bound up in the knowledge that this is the best of all possible outcomes, given how bad things had gotten. That gives me comfort and some sort of organizing principle for continuing to move forward.

 

My girlfriend and I suffer through the same problems, though I am the closed off one in the relationship. I sympathize with your girlfriend's stance, but also recognize how difficult it is on the significant other. It's something I've tried to work on over the year-and-a-half we've been together but it's very, very difficult to reverse a lifetime of walling myself off emotionally.

 

I just realized you're you HI

 

The girl I have had a huge crush on for over a year now is moving 3 hours away this weekend. Welp.

 

Ouch. That's unfortunate. I'm super used to commuting but I hate it. I have to drive like an hour to get to most things I want to do and for work and I'm fucking exhausted by it. I'd hate to be that far away from someone I'm in a relationship with.

 

I just realized you're you too, Hey, haha

 

Current girl I'm talking to is reeeally great. Type of person I can stay up all night with doing dumb stuff, not having to take life seriously. Played League of Legends for the first time in ages with her the other night and it was a blast.

 

I think someone is coming over to hang out... but not entirely sure. Guess I'll watch The Office for an hour and go to bed if she doesn't show

 

Right there with you on The Office haha

 

Yeah, she's not coming, lol.

 

Hey, at least you get to watch more!

 

Do guys care about age differences? Like them being younger?

 

I recall talking about this before with you haha. I'd say no, it doesn't matter. At least, most guys I've talked to wouldn't care. To some extent an age difference is certainly something to give caution to, but only in the sense that it could imply you guys may not be on the same page in the near future due to being in different places in your lives. Other than that it's not really something to get hung up on.

 

My age range has to do with where people are at in life. I wouldn't go under like 24 because life is much different at that age and you're just getting used to being on your own and paying bills etc. I wouldn't go much over 34 because I feel like they would hopefully be more in control of their life at that point and I wouldn't be a good fit

 

I think a two year gap is more than fine in your teens.

 

So, I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year and a half and we've never fought or anything. Is this something that would be considered weird? Everyone I've told that to has been shocked. haha

 

Yeah I mentioned it before hahah. It's always something that's on my mind. lol

 

I have a date tonight with a guy who was my Uber driver recently. Definitely never expected to meet someone that way, but I'm looking forward to it.

 

Seems kinda weird to me, yeah

Not that you should fight frequently of course but never in a year and a half seems very unlikely for any couple

 

Sometimes it COULD mean that both of you are passive...and in that case it's not good, because it's not that you haven't disagreed, it's just that both of you are the sort of person who's willing to avoid confrontation at all costs. Happened to me, at least.