(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 15

If I were in your place I'd casually toss in the topic of plans and weekends haha. But that's just me though.

 

I'm trying to wait for the right time. Or at least imply we should hangout…

 

Good luck! Keep us posted.

 

I wanted to post somewhere that I can air my feelings on dating in general. I find some sort of solace in speaking to people in this context, strange it may be, but, I digress.

Last year I came out of a relationship that still feels a bit surreal to not be in anymore, they were such a big part of my life, I had a lot invested in the relationship, and I think I'm still am wary of ever being in a relationship again. I hope there are some of you who can relate, not that I would wish upon anyone else to feel this way. When a relationship like that ends, it isn't just a breakup between you and them, but the people who you have come know mutually because of your relationship, that is something that I find hard to deal with. I think the hardest thing to come out of the separation was not having one person to talk to, who could except me for who I am. I'm worried I might not want to meet anyone again for fear of not being accepted.

These thoughts whilst I know are typical of a person going through the tumultuous time of a break up, I hope that whoever may glance at this post, that if you feel as I do, maybe it might help you, and if it at least one person can take that away from this, then maybe I'm not such a fuck up after all.

 

@Joe Sheridan might have been in the same boat in some or shape or whatever some years ago. Takes time man, but you'll get your groove back.

 

SO wants to read this. Just looking for a copy locally. Slightly related, but I didn't enjoy Aziz's latest standup that much. And it's weird because he used the same themes for Master of None and I loved that show.

 

haha thanks. I doubt anything will even happen, but if it does I'll post about it

 

Pah. If you wait for the right moment, you might wait forever. You only want to meet up outside of work. Just ask what he's up to this weekend and go from there.

 

Not dating but holy shit my startup office just announced bankruptcy. Im officially unemployed. Give me your relationship stories AP! I mean, chorus.

(doesn't help that I'm drunk)

 

I'm way to awkward and shy to even ask that. Hahah. If it comes up in conversation.

 

I usually invite a guy for a group hang out thing and then pay extra attention to him when we're all hanging out. It usually works pretty well.

 

^Foolproof plan right there

 

I'm always way too shy in group situations. I just totally shut down and let everyone else do the talking lol.

 

I feel like I have no idea how to keep a text conversation going with a newer person that I'm interested in and I used to be fine/good at it

 

I really don't understand the appeal of holding hands unless your end game is sweaty and clammy hands.

 

i have no idea how to date people online and i'm afraid i'll just have nothing to talk about ever. also, tinder and bumble i really really hate and ok cupid is alright i suppose.

 

This kinda sounds like me. I'll meet people online and just hit a huge stop because I don't know where to go with anything online, yet I have such a hard time approaching people in person. I don't know how to do anything, haha.

 

Just ask her what she likes. Or a book you're reading. Little casual things here and there.

My best goto approach is just asking her for recommendations. Tv show, music etc. That way she knows Im invested and we get to have more things to talk about. Cant lose with that.

 

I feel like as long as guys don't ask me "So what do you like to do for fun?" we're good. I hate that question because it forces me to admit I have no life or real hobbies.

 

It's more specific for me. Like I'll mention a TV show I'm watching and then ask if there's anything cool she's seen lately. I agree general questions in this case are bad

 

It's possible y'all. Love is possible.

 

I always hated "what's your favorite color?" like.....ok

 

I finally saw the nice side of Tinder yesterday. Went on a date where we just hung out and talked about everything and anything for about 7 hours. Now I'm really quite nervous about getting a second date. There's always something.

 

Sounds like you shouldn't be! Talking for 7 hours with a complete stranger is usually a pretty good sign that you get along well.

 

Haha. After so many false dawns, it's very easy to expect the worst.