Mental Health Thread • Page 144

Does anyone have advice for trying to explain anxiety/depression to a parent who doesn't quite understand? My dad is a very liberal person for the most part, but he seems to think that although mental illnesses are real, people can work through them on the basis of willpower and your "mental toolbox" (his words) alone. Im just trying to come up with a way to explain anxiety and depression in a different way to him.

 

I'm still annoyed from the other day with my sister being rude. I vented to my other sister about it and she agreed my sister was being rude but then agreed with my sister that I was lecturing her and I am just annoyed. Why is it a negative thing to stand up for myself? Why is that a lecture? I'm constantly a door mat that is the sensible one, always taking the high road and trying to be a voice of reason but I'm done. If someone is rude im gonna push back. The older I get the more I'm over it. But the moment I do suddenly I'm being difficult and annoying, and then it bothers me to be called that so I stress over it. I'm just done with ppl like bye. Apparently everyone can be rude and do what they want and the moment someone calls them out suddenly it's crossing a line? I just wanna be a hermit.

 

Like honestly human interaction is too difficult and I genuinely wanna give up on it. What's even the point.

 

This is tough and I don't have an answer, but I didn't want to ignore it. I just want to wish you luck, however that might look to you.

 

Thank you. I appreciate it.

 

Question: I have a son who is 8, and in 2nd grade. He's got social anxiety, and is having a very rough time with school right now. Every other aspect of his life is fine, and right now it's just an issue in the mornings...he is totally fine by 10am. His Teacher, Principal, and Counselor are all great, but he spends his mornings teary eyed, either in the hallway, or walking around the halls with the Principal, or in the counselor's office. He has an AMAZING group of friends, and is not being bullied or anything, but it's been really rough. We are looking into outside help, but don't want any medication and understand that at this point in his maturity and development he just doesn't have any other way to express himself.


Are there any suggestions out there for things we can try? Running out of ideas...

 

I think it's important for him to know, and really grasp, that it's not a choice, it can't be turned off, and reactions are impulsive. He doesn't have the ability to relate, or speak from experience which makes it difficult to understand for someone that has never been through it. Love, understanding, and tolerance is his role and any judgmental opinions need to be disinvited.

 

Don't let their reaction dictate how you stand up for yourself. They are the ones in the wrong, and you can remain confident in how you treated the situation. I can absolutely relate, as I have an older sister and mom that are best friends, and side with one another no matter what. I've worked for a living since I was 14, and my sister has had everything handed to her. I recently had a conversation with my mom about concerns in our relationship, and why my sister always gets favored and my mom's explanation was that my sister NEEDS the help, whereas I never did. She was sorry it looked like favoritism and things have been better since, and I've actually felt more empowered as I had never felt that sense of accomplishment from her. Communication is key, don't ever stop. Sometimes delivery is all that needs to be tweaked, and I've found that impulsive reaction can be harmful, where waiting a few hours or days to voice displeasures can be beneficial. Best of luck, hang in there, and stay confident in yourself :).

 

We're all lucky you do. Sorry to hear you're feeling down, what's up?

 

I've been Facebook free for like 6 months and it's done wonders for me

 

I've been making myself physically sick with my anxiety the past few days. Ugh.

 

I don't want to speak for everyone in this thread -- though I'm certain they all feel this way, too -- but I am glad that you do exist. The world is better with you here. If you need anything, this thread and many of our PM boxes are always available.

 

Me too.

 

As in me. Not you. You're dope.

 

Naaaaah

 

we're all dope now in the dope show

 

Shut up. Fight me irl

 

Someone very close to me is having what I sincerely believe to be a mental breakdown. How the fuck do I handle this? Obviously, "you're acting irrational/illogical/etc" won't work. Never had to deal with anything like this before, but I'm worried they might need some help.

 

I just want to thank you for posting this, I’ve been pretty down recently and through this I’ve found an app and a few podcasts that are helping me.

 

I can relate with this far more than I can say. If you want to chat, inbox me. I don't have much advice but could tell you what happened and what worked/didn't work for me?

 

Ugh. My room is a fucking pigsty which happens every time I either get very depressed or stressed out. Right now it’s the latter. It’s like I can’t help it, it’s so frustrating. Every time without fail. And then seeing my room in that state makes me feel like shit and it’s a vicious cycle

 

Honestly, cleaning makes me feel a whole lot better. Set out an hour, or even just a half hour, to just tackle it. Once it's clean, you might feel a huge relief from the stress and anxiety that it can help with the depression.

 

Ugh just over half way through working 8 days in a row and I've hit a wall. Just completely emotionally drained from dealing with so many people. I desperately need to get out of customer service but I have zero real skills.

 

It's funny, I don't work and get anxiety about being useless. Then I work constantly and then I get existential about not really existing. It's fun shit.