(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 503

But are you the true mean in her 95% confidence interval?

 

Hell yeah.

Love this.

 

I still love people any life.

 

Btw this girl I'm talking about has a boyfriend so my feelings will lead nowhere but man, she's exactly what I want in a partner.

 

If
@marsupial jones can do it so can you.


Also we need an update @marsupial jones

 

Yeah man gimme some inspo.

I'm moving at the end of the month and gonna have a party. She'll be there so maybe I'll tell her how I feel then. Part of my brain is saying "no don't ruin a good friendship!!" But it's not like I even just want friendship so I might as well say somethin.

 

Don't man, she has a boyfriend. This isn't something to mess around with.

 

I mean, I don't plan on breaking them up, that'd be silly considering the fact that I'm moving away. So I guess it would be pretty dumb of me to confess my feelings as it wouldn't amount to anything anyways, but all of me wants to.

For the record, I dunno if it matters, but they haven't been together long. Less than a year for sure.

 

IMO, how long they've been together doesn't matter since they are, in fact, together. Besides that, the fact you're moving away means it doesn't make sense to do this, either. Sometimes, the best thing to do is nothing at all, man. My opinion, of course.

 

Well, logically I totally agree with you. But emotionally...that's where I falter


Although, to be honest, while I would never attempt to physically make a move on someone who was in a relationship, I don't think it's wrong to tell someone you have feelings for them. They'll either tell you to fuck off or you end up with them and their previous relationship clearly wasn't meant to be. It's not like trying to break off an engagement or destroy a marriage imo ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

 

I'm with Mike, sorry man. How will you benefit from telling her?

 

In this particular situation I agree with y'all, as I'm leaving, but if I wasn't then I don't really see the issue.

 

But, logically, what's the end game? If you like this girl, as you have said that you do, you have to absolutely, 100% respect the fact that she is in a committed relationship. Even if you present it as just you trying to innocently let her know, it will come across as trying to wedge in between her and her partner. That makes you look bad. There is no good reason, in my mind, to even bring it up.

 

As stated above, I don't plan to say anything because I'm leaving. But if I wasn't then I personally don't see an issue. It would potentially make me look like a fucking idiot, but that's on me.

 

It also puts her in a super awkward position if she doesn't feel the same. As I said, just my opinion and I hope I'm not coming off as dismissive of your opinion on the matter, just a disagreement.

Where are you moving?

 

No, you're not. Differing opinions are good. But I guess to me the potential reward of a relationship with someone I am really into seems worth that risk.

I live in the Bay Area, moving to Los Angeles for school in about a month. I plan to be there about two years and then move to Japan to teach English so, I need to find someone cool with moving to Japan lol

 

Are you in to Japanese women?

 

I'm into women


Edit: yes, I could meet someone there but if I happen to meet the girl of my dreams in the next couple years, that'll be a conversation that needs to be had.

 

Very cool. One of my girlfriend's cousins taught english in either Japan or South Korea, I forgot which one. But he said the most jarring thing about moving back was being able to understand conversations between strangers around him. He'd gotten used to being in restaurants and not being able to understand everyone else talking. Took him three weeks to readjust to that after he moved back to America.

 

Haha that's great. I very much look forward to delving into the language. I took some Japanese courses here but I'm so out of practice.

 

Need a bit of perspective on something...

Not related to a relationship with a partner, but more with long-time friends. Has anyone been in toxic friendships? Not so much toxic where you don't love the person, or hate them or you have a falling out...moreso you just get over the way their negative shit, and how they intentionally go about making you feel upset, or like shit.

So, toxic friendships. How do I deal?

 

I just bought my cousin a bag of gummy bears because I'm making other people terrible.

 

I cut them out. I’m patient, reasonable, willing to listen and talk about issues, but if it becomes excessive to the point where I don’t wanna be around them cuz it’s gonna bring me down then that’s my brain telling me something important.

 

I just feel so lonely lately. It's been tough as of late not having someone close to me. Like, I'm definitely better off now then I was with my ex. I miss rhe comfort of coming home to someone who I could talk to and was there to talk to me through everything.

 

I relate so hard.