(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 467

The weird part is when i dont mean to be funny and people laugh vs when I think I'm being hilarious and nobody laughs lol


I'm also very bad at making conversation. I never know what to say. I'm bad at asking about others lives cause idc about small talk. I'll think I'm being cool and personable but then someone will be like "yeah you made me feel very unwelcome when I met you" and I'm like cool when will I learn to act like an actual human

 

I've texted the girl I'm going on a date with and it still feels hard to have a conversation with her over text and it's making me even more worried about Saturday. I know texting is different than in person but it's still making me nervous because if anything I'm a lot harder to talk to in person at first. This first date stuff has me stressed as hell. I need to relax

 

I feel the same way at times. Though it does make it easier when the other person is responsive or is able to sort of control the conversation. I think that's why I'll always be a sucker for more dominant personalities

 

yep, live-in ex is out with someone else tonight. I'm gonna have a bad time for the next two months. Sucks being "that guy" that doesn't believe in/get anything out of rebounds....

 

my dating life is playing ninja gaiden on the hardest difficulty every thing i do nothing is working

 

its like i constantly get ignored but i keep trying am i insane?

 

Insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting a different outcome.

 

i guess i'm insane then

 

Falling for someone again. Those initial feelings of romantic attraction: a random mix of butterflies, anxiety, paranoia, jealousy. I don't like it very much.

 

I've had that response from the odd person. They mistook me questioning things for being argumentative, which isn't the same thing. I like to talk about stuff and I don't just blithely agree when people are talking to me about something I feel I have enough understanding about to discuss.

 

Fuck, man. I miss that feeling actually.

 

I know what you mean. It's just that this guy doesn't live anywhere near me. And neither did the guy I like before him (who rejected me) lol.

 

If i detect anyone is interested in me I overthink it and talk myself out of it asap. I'll start off by side-eyeing their favorite actor and by the end of my train of thought I'll be like well we wouldn't even be able to agree on where to send our kids to school so it wouldn't work out!! Like within five seconds of meeting. I play it cool outwardly but on the inside alarm bells are ringing!

Idek if I want kids. I'm just a mess

 

God I feel that so hard haha.

 

I'm psyching myself out about tomorrow

 

I used to overthink a fuck ton over ladies when I was younger. Wish I knew what changed it.

 

Don't sweat it. Just be yourself and have fun with it. If things don't click, then brush it off and move forward. First dates are great because there are very low expectations and no attachment yet. Let it flow.

That being said, I have a first date starting in about an hour, and I'm pretty nervous right now too. Haha.

 

Every time I felt like I was overthinking a guy actual was seriously interested in me, I found that my intuition was right, and I over thought nothing, the guy was a waste of time. It worries me for the future because since I've had so many bad experiences, I feel like I automatically assume to worst and push everyone away.

 

Psych yourself in

You'll be fine

 

I'm more worried about this than I should be. I'm already talking to someone else, but after the last date with this one felt like a home run I'm not wanting to miss an opportunity for lack of patience. I guess I should at least leave her alone a few weeks and see how she's doing

 

Texted her that I just got here, she responds that she's been getting sick all day and wants to reschedule for Monday

Should've expected this. Sigh

 

Sorry to hear that. It happens a lot, dating is the worst and people suck

 

So so so so sick to the point of being unable to put together a ten second text asking to reschedule. Wow. Must be a killer cold or something.

Fucking people man. Our species sucks just a smidgen under 100% of the time.

 

ya that blows. does happen a lot though just gotta try your best to not let it get you down. personally, nothing bums me out more than cancelled plans for whatever reason, but i've gotten better at getting over it.

 

Like, I would've been fine if it wasn't like.. five minutes before we were meeting. Instead I drove 30 minutes to the restaurant only for her to say she's not coming.