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I feel SO bad for her. Lying in bed and seeing my door handle turn, knowing that nobody else should be home, is my biggest fear honestly. I can't imagine how terrifying that was for her. So glad she's speaking out now

 

DC Restructures Vertigo, Fires Shelly Bond, Provokes Naming of "Open Secret" Sexual Harasser in Upper Management [UPDATED]

 

not new afaik, but -

Elephant in the Valley - on women in tech

 

Being A Girl: A Brief Personal History of Violence
I haven't read through this thread and it's probably posted right above me but it's incredibly powerful and needed to be posted again

 

I went to school with a girl whose sister, age 16, was at a parade here and her ex-boyfriend shot her and then killed himself. The bullet nicked her spinal cord and then went into her neck. She lived and started making progress with walking again but unfortunately she ended up being paralyzed from the neck down and can barely speak.

The Tuscaloosa News - Google News Archive Search

It's so sad and scary.

 

this kind of article is disgusting to think about. To think how many predators are out roaming around that will never see a jail cell. I live here and to think of what the city of Austin spends on i such a shame and I know Austin is not the only city alone dealing with such a widespread issue but with their budget, they spend a lot of wasteful shit and not nearly enough on important issues like this. Council gets outside help for thousands of untested rape kits

 

Bookmark for later

 

My little love muffin, Eda, shared this article with me and I don't know where to post it so I'll post it in a few places. Very good read. Against Chill — Matter

 

where is Eda man she's not on chorus yet is she??

 

May I recommend this book:

Words of Fire | The New Press

I'm steadily going through it and it is amazing.

 

for the last few years i've been witnessing a very unsettling situation, so i decided to ask how should i approach it, or if i even should, as it's not something i'm directly part of.

there are a few girls in my class, who i'm on good terms with but not exactly close to, who are feminists. they address sexism, advocate for women's rights, and probably a ton of other stuff i'm not aware of, but they hang out with an incredibly disgusting guy that has emotionally harmed several women and physically harmed an ex-girlfriend.

all of us (me, the guy, his ex and the feminist girls) are in the same class, so everyone's well aware of what he did to his ex and still does to other women; that doesn't seem to bother these girls who are friends with him, though, and i find it really concerning. as a male not directly involved with this situation, what can i do / is it my place to do something about it?

 

There's a guy I (unfortunately) know who constantly tweets/posts about how much he hates feminists and it's always his female friends who retweet/like his shit. I just don't get it

 

I don't think you can tell them to stop hanging out with him without sounding condescending unfortunately

 

The Pervocracy: The missing stair.

 

You've got good intentions here, and your concern for the girls in your class is admirable, but questioning women's friendships, even with people who are/have been harmful, isn't really your place at all - especially if you're not close with them already. A better way to support them/the exes the dude harmed would be to actively not befriend him, not enable his behavior, speak out when he's doing or saying harmful things, supporting his exes, etc.

Sounds like a tough situation to be watching, though. It's hard to walk the line between trying to help vs. overstepping boundaries.

 

yeah, making them feel like crap by questioning their life decisions and coming off as an asshole are the two things i don't want to happen. i know how hard it can be to end a long friendship because of something that doesn't directly concern you. i don't blame them at all.

that was a good read, but i don't think it'll help me too much unfortunately. talking to the guy is useless - friends and family already tried, but as long as he can do whatever he wants and get away with it, he'll keep doing it, and as i don't talk to him and we don't have any close mutual friends, i'll probably never know when something is happening.

this is not me jumping over the missing stair instead of fixing it, believe me. the only other way i see of doing something to change this would involve taking legal action, getting a lot of people involved, risking not accomplishing anything because legal system, and possibly hurting them and myself in the process. i'm definitely open to any suggestions, though.

i'm good friends with his ex. she almost had to stay back a full year in college to go into psychological rehab and no one saw her for half a year. she's all better, thankfully, and can be in the same room as him without feeling threatened. the other girls i know that got involved with him (there's four of them) all just want to forget that anything ever happened, so i'd never bring it up, and i have never talked to or don't know the remaining girls.

i haven't spoken to him in over a year and i've discussed his behavior with most people we both know. because of that, he usually goes for newcomers/out-of-towners; we've managed to talk to a few of them about him before he got to them, and some would later come back and say that he did hit on them like we said he would.

it's just revolting how his 'fame' seems to be that of a hotshot who scores a ton of girls instead of a lying abusive pos. guess that's the fundamentally sexist society we live in.

 

ugh

http://nymag.com/thecut/2016/04/acc...nungesser-refiles-suit.html?mid=twitter_nymag

 

This whole abusive people co-opting the language of social justice to silence their victims or paint themselves as such thing really is a trend I need to see die in 2016.

 

what a goddamn absurd argument to be making (unless there are specific provisions in IX that state that women can't be rapists? which would be not good but i also can't imagine that's the case)

 

Music industry veteran Julie Farman recounted the time she was sexually harassed by two members of the Red Hot Chili Peppers 25 years ago. Trigger warning but what's more unsettling is when she says "the incident was about a 3 on the 1-10 scale of sexual harassment in the music business of the 80s and 90s."

 

considering Anthony lost his virginity at 12 to his dad's 18 year old girlfriend I'm not surprised if he has a distorted view of things

edit : hope this doesn't come across as justifying their actions

 

Johnny Manziel indicted on misdemeanor charge of assault

 

Hmm. I always feel like a wimp when I let stuff get to me and make me cry but that was really hard to watch. I hope a lot of people see this. Thanks for sharing.