(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 543

personally, having been in this position, I just told my best friend after having felt stuff for a couple of years and not thinking it was a fluke. If you think they'll be cool with it, tell them whenever, but I really don't think it has to be a big deal. A statement of feeling isn't a statement of intent. If the other party isn't feeling it, then nbd, they're probably still your best friend, as it happened in my case. An open dialogue is important though, esp if something like this is a huge deal to one or both of you.

yeah I feel like the biggest flaw with the test (if it's the same one I took a few months ago) is that it asks a lot of "either / or" questions. With no middle ground, it kind of forces you to pick something even if you might agree with both and I felt like that reflected in my results that Were true but not 100%

 

Welp just received the ol booty call text, but I have to work in like 5 hours hmmmmmm

 

Haha. I didn't phrase it quite like that to her. Or at least, I embellished it more. Mainly, I didn't think she was being all that serious about staying home at that point. I thought it was more telling me that she was having a shitty day and so was going to be a bit down.

I messaged her last night. She was pissed off at me for not being sympathetic and so, despite knowing that I was around and available yesterday, she was being stubborn (her own word) and not messaging me.

 

Things seems to be going well so far with the new guy. Went out again so that's good. I just hate how awkward I am in situations and it's hard for me to open up more. He seems like a good guy. No red flags in my book yet.

 

And when the booty call is done you'll have have at least 4.5 hours until work so you got plenty of time.

 

I passed out before confirmation, this lady takes forever to text back, keeps me on my toes

 

Things went super well last night! I got there and she thought the flower thing was funny. She saw it was my birthday on facebook and she had a limoncello cake made for me which was amaaaaaaaaaazing. Then we drank, ate pizza, and talked for like 6 hours and then we made out and I left at like 1am. :D

 

Had my going away party last night. I invited that girl I'm in love with as well as her boyfriend since I figure we ain't gonna be a thing and I really enjoy her friendship, but she didn't bring him. We ended up talking a lot during/after the party. As you all advised, I did not tell her I had feelings for her, which was the smart thing to do. However, spending time with her only deepened my feelings for her. I'm honestly glad I'm moving cause this sucks haha.

I had multiple people pull me aside and be like, "dude. Who is that girl????" And thought that she likes me, but we were all drunk so.....bleh

@dylan Happy birthday dude. Sounds like you had a really nice night. Those "we stayed up talking for six hours" nights make for some of the best memories.

 

this girl i really liked and went on two dates with just ghosted me so hard. this sucks, man. never experienced this before.

 

Hey thanks for the feedback. I started to break the ice a little bit last night over the phone (she could tell something was up) and we are going to talk in person this week. We work together and have been best friends for four years or so. I think it is reciprocated to a degree. Just unknown territory for us

 

I'm sorry :/ I was ghosted in November after seeing someone for a few months. It's not you. Hang in there!

 

Got blown off tonight siiiiiigggghhhh.

Food poisoning? C'mon now.

 

Thanks, man. It's just messing with my head a lot. My first thought is immediately "Did I do something wrong?" and I can't think of anything I did. Oh, well. Life goes on.

 

It's not that uncommon.

 

Yeah maybe I'm overreacting.

Catching feelings is so ridiculous

 

Ghosting is still incredibly awful

 

Yeah I don't know why people just arnt upfront. Just say your when your not feeling somebody.

 

Because it frees them of responsibility and the burden of caring about anyone other than themselves. For them, that is the true issue.

I should also say ghosting people in instances is fine if they do something really messed up, at least then they know what they said to make you disappear. They're more rare but there are definitely times where I wouldn't blame someone. Unfortunately, it's mostly just a random ghost and for unclear reasons.

 

Date number three on Wednesday! Going to see Glass Animals.

 

Yesssssssss. Amazing band.

 

well I wrote out a lang rant of how I'm terrible in relationships but I should probably be more positive. I feel like if I say I'm terrible I will be.

 

i think the girl in my instance was still doing a lot of healing from a past relationship and just wasn't in the right place for a new one yet. and i get that and totally understand. getting ghosted still messes you up though. i hope she takes care of herself, though.

 

No man. Not you at all. The right person for you wouldn't just abandon you like that!

 

Trying to catch up over the weekend but I just wanted to say thanks so much, guys, for the birthday wishes! u all

Yes, the conversation was great and definitely a good memory to have. We talked about what we're looking for, any red flags we have about each other, our bad dating/relationship stories, and our "strong feelings" on dating/relationship norms (which we had a lot in common about that).

We're supposed to be going to a Harry Potter birthday party at a bar tonight, too.

but in regards to the cancelling of plans conversations:

 

Ay, happy birthday, Nick!