(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 524

Wait? You mean she's seen you NAKED?

 

yes, unfortunately for her. lol

 

i'm re up with match cause i'm an idiot

 

lol that's a pet peeve of mine. I will literally just have made a meal and my sister will get on me for there being pans on the stove or something like that and I'm like dude...I'm not gonna make my food and do dishes before I eat. Calm down.

 

I remember telling a story about a co-worker I had a crush on and I finally decided to ask her out. She denied me and we didn't talk at all for 6 months despite being co-workers.

today we talked during lunch since I finally wanted to say something and it was amazing and now I'm sad because I don't want to do this again.

 

like i have a huge crush on a co worker too but she has fling with one of the mangers but he talks shit about her

 

My main takeaway from this is she thinks you should put your towel in the wash after every use and that somehow that's not your biggest issue.

 

Was really worried about this weekend, had no work and no plans. Expected there to be a lot of isolating and self pity and it actually turned out to be a very full, entertaining and enjoyable weekend with friends. Haven't been able to do that kinda stuff in a while. Single life isn't bad just gotta take advantage I guess.

 

The point was if we're both in the act of doing/using something neither of us like having our next step told to us, she does it more regularly so I finally was like "Aye, you don't clean the dishes before you finish eating." Lot of this shit is tension from financial situations and we since talked about where she apologized for being a ass rider and I apologized for being like "Jesus Christ..." since we both do what we're supposed to and just been strained with the money/me sorting through my mental health shit and her strained with knowing no one in NY/looking for work.

Basically a case of the little things being amplified cus the big things are in a "in between" slot atm. Lot's has gone our way in the last 24 hours though. I got paid for a job I did awhile back, got a lil pool of money in my bank now, and she just landed the job she interviewed for last week. Epitome of relationship shit, navigating issues without one issue bleeding into/amplifying others.

 

Used to hate when my ex wanted to put stuff up right after making food, like let me eat first

 

Yeah it's just like a side eye thing whenever it happens and it leads to arguments sometimes cus its a nag. Like "OH no shit!? I close the drawer AFTER getting the clothes? Cus I was lost as to how this works."

In ways I know I'm guilty too, I did ride her ass when it came to sniping some toxic people out of her life from a personal sense and to our relationship. Of course ideally we all hope/aim to be better than that, but we're human. Lil shit will get on our nerves sometimes lol.

 

The worst thing for me was when I was in school and working basically full time and wouldn't get home until 1030-1100pm every night and she was right at the door waiting for me to get home and immediately bombarded me when I walked in and wanted to talk and cuddle and I needed to decompress and have some quiet time because I worked in retail so I was around people and talking all day and that was the last thing I wanted to do when I got home.

 

10000%. I moved in with my girlfriend and needed a job, so I got this job in beer and wine at this farm market by our apartment, which turned into finding an industry I adore and an actual career opportunity. But anyways, it's a retail job that was a mix of bartending, cash register work, part librarian, and just knowledge god about so many things. It was draining, especially because before taking this job I wasn't the best with just talking to strangers and whatnot.

I'd get home, even after a good day at work, and I just want to put my headphones in and sink into the internet or dinner for like an hour and it always caused a problem that would just bubble under the surface for like four months then come out and then bubble and then come out and repeat. She even got a part time job at the same place, but she just handles things differently, so she doesn't like to just decompress in silence like I do, so it still caused problems. I don't work at that place anymore and it's helped a lot.

But I feel you man. Few things better than just shutting off for like an hour and having a sandwich and zoning out in peace and quiet.

 

Me and this girl I know got pretty drunk last night, brought her back to my place and we talked for a while on my porch having a cig. Once again I had a girl crying and opening up about wayyy personal stuff. Like from small talk to that. She left super bummed. I swear I don’t even bring up depressing topics but it just happens. Gr8 out of 8 m8

 

Definitely know the feeling. I would try best to explain, "Hey, I'm really interested in what you have to say and I wanna know everything about your day but need some time to be alone right now." I would also explain that she most likely wouldn't even want to be talking to me at that moment cause I wouldn't be present and couldn't listen to the capacity that she would want/deserve.

 

What's your guys' love language?
Discover Your Love Language - The 5 Love Languages®

I got physical affection and quality time tied.

 

quality time and words of affirmation

 

quality time followed by acts of service

 

first question and i already don't like it. why is there not a "neither" option?

 

Your love language is hate Dylan.

jk

 

Bah! Way too many questions on that thing.

 

My love language is FUCK

 

hahahaha pretty much


mine said quality time


physical touching and gift giving was last lol

 

That was kinda cool...

Mine was quality time and affirmations or whatever.

For me personally, coming out of a relationship a few years back where she pretty much didn't want me around her friends, or never had photos together or anything, and no date nights...it's nice to have a girlfriend who does all that stuff, and who genuinely feels proud to have me around and tell her friends about me, which my current girlfriend does. :) Full 180, and it's an awesome feeling.

 

It's funny cuz I hate touching everyone except a SO. If I'm in a relationship I'm very much into the hand holding, cuddling, kiss on the cheek type stuff. Then again I also remember taking some quiz similar to this one a while back and it said my love is "child-like", if that makes sense. really playful, fun, innocent etc. so that makes sense.