(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 458

Speaking of which, this girl I've been seeing said that she once went on an IKEA date. Basically, they walked around the whole store, mocking the more ridiculous items and then ate meatballs. It sounds sort of brilliant, but can you imagine asking someone on a date and suggesting IKEA as the venue?

 

Idk he was kinda flirty and extra with the whole table. At first it was a running joke but then when my friend started zeroing in on me specifically about it, it became weird and pressurey and then I got awkward and embarrassed. People always trying to set me up. A coworker swears that there's a boy at the Safeway deli that I need to go ask out and every week or so she asks me if I've done it. It's funny but also weird lol. I feel like I need to give my usual disclaimer that if any of them lurk this thread, I am an innocent party just trying to mind my own business haha

 

Did you like him? I mean what if she does give him your number and he does text you? If you're about it, then just go with it. If you want nothing to do with it, you need to be clear with your friend that stuff like that isn't okay.

 

I'm pretty indifferent to it. Doesn't really bother me. I think she's super overblowing it and that insistence made me feel kinda awkward but it's not a big deal that she did it.

 

Seems a bit weird to me to keep asking you about that unless you've indicated that you do find him attractive. If not, then it's just someone getting lost in their own weird little narrative.

 

I'm so guarded and perpetually single that people tend to do that with me lol. I think ppl want me to date more than I do. This friend was at least funny about it so it wasn't that big of a deal. she's very outgoing and blunt and I am shy and embarrass easily. In the end it's no thing tho. I'm interested what she thinks of our ~true love once she's sober.

 

I wanted the narrator from forensic files to officiate my hypothetical future wedding but he died last year apparently

 

That'll teach you to be so picky.

 

Question for those in relationships. Do you and your S/O like to double date? Me and my girlfriend absolutely have no interest in it. I'm getting oddly pressured from my one friend/co-worker to go out with him and his girlfriend and another co-worker and his wife tomorrow and we both aren't looking forward to it really. We like to just do our own things, and she will go out with her friends at times and I will go out with my friends at times. We love it like that. I just don't know if other people feel that way?

 

I didn't mind double dating, but it was usually with my two best friends who are dating one another, so we would just hang out anyways. If it wasn't someone I was close with, I probably wouldn't be a fan.

The really awesome girl from tinder gave me her number last night, so I may ask her on a date sometime this week. Super nervous, but what the hell

 

I'm not big on double dating

 

It depends entirely on the people we're going out with. Going on a double date with the right couple is a great experience... going on a double date with the wrong couple can be a giant disaster. Maybe I'm crazy, but I really enjoy having certain friends/couples over for dinner and drinks.

 

Yeah like spending time with other couples together is cool, I just don't like it becoming a whole "thing" if that makes sense. Come hang out for a while and maybe we'll get dinner or something, but I don't wanna have like a structured double date.

 

I think the thing for us is that she doesn't know most of the people I see on the daily. So it's weird for her to go out with them. Which I get, like I said, I have no interest in going out in groups with her. She doesn't either, we are on the same page. We just like to do our own thing or we just go out separately. But going out with a bunch of couples just sounds corny to both of us haha. I just get weird pressure from others to go out with them and her. I'm allowed to say we don't really want to. CAN'T I!?

 

Yeah I don't know what a "double date" even is necessarily. Wouldn't that just be seeing friends?

 

It's all fuckin stupid.

 

I see where you're coming from. I think a double date where everyone doesn't know each other guarantees awkwardness and hanging out outside of an intimate setting first is definitely beneficial. Same thing with group settings. But if everyone knows each other, I think that's a better recipe for having a good time. My one group of friends (all couples) meets every year at this Italian restaurant for a pre-Christmas dinner and it's always a great time. I love it. Now, going out with some couples that my gf works with is sure to be a weird/awkward time for some of the people and I wouldn't recommend it. But hey, maybe that next time will be great and worth the weirdness of the first meeting.

 

I'm not sure what the difference is. Like if you, me, and Laura hung out like we do and I brought a date, is that a double date or something else

 

The way I see it a double date is like a structured time. Like, we meet for dinner at this time, we finish dinner and go for drinks at this time, etc. I don't like being in a situation where after dinner if I don't feel like going for drinks, we're assholes and ruining the double date.

Idk, I see a double date as being planned enough in advance whereas like, if we hung out it was probably something we texted about that day and just kinda decided to do.

 

Totally. The thing that is bothering me is that other people are taking it on themselves to question why i'm not with my girlfriend when I go out with them. The answer is because me and her have opposite schedules, she works at a restraurant six nights a week and I work during the day time. I tell them that and they still act weird when she isn't around. I may be looking too into it. Idk. Its fucking annoying. I just want people to leave me and my very happy relationship alone lol.

 

Yeah that makes sense, neither couple should be obligated to stick around longer than they want to

 

I don't go on double dates so much as I just invite two of my best friends out for dinner/drinks/whatever I'm going to go do with my girlfriend, and those two friends just happen to be dating each other. I don't mind structured activities -- we've gone for food and drinks and then made plans to go do something after like laser tag or some shit, but that's mostly just the four of us all hanging out. It'd be the same if it was just me and my buddy hanging out and we made the same plan.

But you have every right to just be like 'fuck off,' people shouldn't hound you about that shit. I, for a long time, bartended while my girlfriend works for the state, so I absolutely know what the opposite schedule stuff is like. Don't sweat your decision man.

 

Thank you Mike, legitimately needed to read something like that.

 

At this point, I'd only to go IKEA for fun ala the 50 Days of Summer date scene. From my own personal experience, IKEA trips to actually purchase furniture and housewares cause for discord in a relationship than anything else. This 30 Rock scene described it all too well:

 

So last week I was talking to this guy off and on through Tinder, and a couple times he suggested we hang out and then sent me his number. I saved the number, but wasn't able to get around to texting him because I was really busy at work. When I got home I opened the app and he had unmatched me. Am I supposed to text him still, or was he hoping I never saw his number and changed his mind? This was two days ago though, so I may have passed the opportunity to not make it seem weird...