(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 40

My Sim's kids always got sent off to military school for truancy or something. Every single time.

I used to not want kids, but I like the idea of raising little humans to be empathetic, caring, and compassionate people who strive to do good in the world. My biggest fear is that they turn out as sociopaths.

Also, I'd love to share the things I love most with my future kids: baseball and Russian language / literature / culture.

 

I work with kids and sometimes it makes me want them and other times not. If I ever did decide I want one I'd prefer adopting or fostering cause giving birth doesn't look like anything I wanna do

 

I also feel a desire to be for my future kids what my parents weren't for me. I want to be endlessly supportive of their interests, attentive, affirming, and an overall strong, positive influence in their lives.

I've always felt at odds with my familial situation. I never felt truly accepted or supported, which is what has caused me in the past to not want kids.

But seeing my partner's family and how close-knit they are, it's made me want to attempt creating my own family that I never had and setting in motion, hopefully, a positive family enviornment for my kids, their kids, etc.

 

I'm pretty on board with a continual supply of pets of varying species. I don't have to worry about sending them to college or whether or not they'll inherit predispositions to depression, anxiety, and alcoholism.

But on the other hand I completely and wholeheartedly agree with this. At this moment I'm perfectly fine just going with whatever happens.

 

How dare you not support your pet's need for higher education

And what are you going to do when he turns to the bottle

 

Cats are smart enough. I'll consider a two-year school for the pug though.

Probably be very impressed that they developed thumbs.

 

The biggest argument my partner and I have is about how many dogs we'll have. I want three but will settle for two big dogs, like Newfoundlands. She wants like maybe one dog

 

It's not the biggest argument we've had but I'm in the same boat haha. Except we're talking like, three dogs, a cat, a duck, a goat, some chickens, etc... She likes animals and I don't know how to raise a goat.

 

I'd be happy with one or two smallish ones

 

I'm scared of having kids bc bipolar disorder is hereditary and I don't want to put another person through that.

 

I'll never have kids. That said, I still acknowledge that minuscule part of my brain that knows things change.

 

i might have kids if i ever get in a relationship again lol

 

Does it seem like more people in their 20's are deciding to not have kids at all/any time soon, compared to previous generations? Maybe I just notice it more now because I'm of the age I get asked the questions about life (marriage, buying a home, starting a family) and I don't really want any of those things.

 

it is weird it is a pressure to have those things like everyone needs to do that to live a fullfilling life it is weird

 

It seems about half and half to me, based on the people I used to socialize with.
I would laugh if someone asked me those questions - that mold isn't for everyone.

 

I'd say yes because most people are doing everything later on in life: marriage, settling down, kids. People are being free, finishing school, traveling, enjoying being single. there's no rush, less pressure, less stigma to stay single.

 

right i work with a couple of guys who don't fit that mold

 

I think it's more common for ppl to be single longer but I feel the pressure lol. I always have clients asking me when I'll have kids and if I'm married. Then my family obsesses over it and they're torn between thinking I'm living this exciting double life where I date a lot and wondering why I don't date any Joe schmo that asks

 

One of my children has Asperger's because of me and I feel guilty about it

 

I hadn't brought home a girl to my parents in years. When they'd ask about if I was dating or something I'd dodge the question or make it known that it wasn't really any of their concern and whatnot. Then we were going to have a cookout as a family and I said "hey I'm bringing a girl with me" and they were floored. Been with my girlfriend for over 1.5 years. But the pressure from family is bullshit. It took a long time for my parents (mostly my mom) to learn to quit asking. I get that it's out of a good place in her heart and whatnot, but, like, just leave the subject alone! Luckily they don't bother us about kids or marriage or anything at all -- part of that is living an hour away which means seeing them isn't that regular -- and that makes things easy.

 

That's awesome that you found someone you're comfortable enough to bring around them, and that they don't make a big deal of kids and marriage and stuff. I've always been the weirdo "non-traditional" sibling so I wish my mom and sisters would leave me alone lol. Luckily my dad doesn't bother me. Did you ever worry about them like... getting all up in your business when you finally brought a girl around? That's my fear lol. I haven't dated in like 5 years and they HATED my ex so I feel like if I bring a guy around them they're gonna make a big deal of "checking him out" and make a huge ordeal since I never date. The thought of all that attention on me makes my anxiety freak out. I have a family that's close and all up in each other's business tho haha

 

Late to the game but I was at work. I don't want kids either. Way back when I was young and didn't know any better I wanted to be married and have 2 kids by the time I was 25. I'm almost my 26 and single as fuck. I'll be a cat lady and call it good. Fur babies.

 

yeah i don't even though if i want a girlfriend anymore i feel defeated i made 15 accounts on pof a number of them on tinder account on eharmony a couple accounts on okcupid i have only met in total of 3 girls one of them was meth addict who died last year i think the single life is the one for me

 

I have one kid and he's the best thing that ever happened to me, I don't want him to grow up being a dickhead to people so already I think I've become a better person because of him; in a role model sense. That being said, I am good with only one because of a lot of the reasons that have been pointed out already; freedom, money savings, selfishness, etc.

 

I certainly want kids. I thought growing up that I wouldn't since I am the 3rd oldest of 9 in a semi-dysfunctional family. But the truth is, I like the idea of raising a child and having a chance to do it right. I don't expect it to be easy, but I think the emotional return on investment will be worth it. I mean I've come this far with myself as my own motivator to succeed, I can't imagine the growth that would come with having someone other than myself to live for.