(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 391

Don't do it

Keep the name sacred

 

I have a really rad relationship with this girl and we'll hang out and usually it ends with her blowing me or me going down on her or something but also she's just a super cool friend and there are no feelings for each other and it's v nice

 

Daniel

 

rad as fuq

 

Well you two are very rare and lucky, I'm allowed to be miserable however.

 

Best post in the thread, finally

 

Still best post in the thread

 

No.

 

I think it is

 

Fuck

 

It was p good

 

So, it's been a little while since I posted. I guess you could say I've been seeing a girl lately, but I don't know what that means. Anyway, we'd been on I guess 6 dates up until now, and we talk pretty much most days, and we've kissed, all things that are hopeful. But, recently I've become increasingly aware that my feelings towards her have been blossoming, heck! I miss her when I'm not with her. I digress, on our date yesterday in my attempt, I tried to explain how I feel, explaining that I want this to go somewhere, that I'm not content in just "seeing each other". She understood, but explained that due to a past relationship ending not too long ago that she wanted to just keep things as they are, but insisted that she enjoys hanging out with me, and that nothing has changed.

Now, the rest of the date was fun, we played table tennis and shared laughs, and all in all I think it was fun, and so did she. We're hopefully seeing each other again, and I'll be cooking for us both. My issue is I don't know if I can just bite my tongue and continue things just as they are without knowing if she will eventually want to make this serious, or eventually let it fizzle out. Every time we meet now we kiss, and it feel special, but I can't help but feel like her guard is up, or that I'm just over thinking things. I want to see how things pan out, but I feel every day I'm worrying, even more so now that I have been honest. I hope this has made sense to you all, or at least those that read it. I would appreciate some advice. Thanks.

 

You shouldn't have to carry any additional weight because things can't be how you want them to be, and neither should she, if that makes sense. I'd say, if you're willing to make the sacrifice of not knowing whether or not it'll ever become serious, keep going for it, and if you're not willing to, don't put yourself or her in a situation where it'll just get worse. I hope I'm making sense.

 

Also (to you and everyone really) always remember certain things only work for certain people so take any advice ever with humongous grains of salt and always do what you feel is right, while listening to advice as ideas only and not a concrete solution.

 

I get what you are saying, maybe I am being selfish that I can't comprehend, or accept it. Am I? I hate that we can still meet, kiss, spend time together but not know if one day to next that she'll change her mind. I worry that I won't hear back from her, which is ridiculous when I put it into perspective, but man, I like this girl.

 

My man, bite that tongue!!! Keep staying on the course. From personal experience my current girlfriend was very much like this when I first met her and made it clear she enjoyed being with me but also made it clear she wasn't ready for a relationship. So I stopped pouring my heart out to her constantly, just kept being myself, and after time she realized she wanted more and we have been dating over a year now and it's been fantastic. If she really is something special to you, just keep being you and the person she enjoys hanging out with and time will tell!

 

Like Dustin said, do what feels right. If you can be patient with her and wait for her to be "ready" or gamble on her ever even being ready at all, I'd just say make sure you don't let yourself get strung along. It's easy in these situations for the other person to keep saying "im not ready" over and over because they're either afraid of being in a relationship again after a bad breakup or because it's a convenient situation to have all the relationship-y benefits without the actual relationship and work that goes into that.

 

I want to, because even with all my doubts as to where it might go she makes me smile, laugh, and feel good about myself. I guess with technology I've become paranoid that is she talking to other people, have I said the wrong thing, etc... all things that are not healthy to think about, but they weigh on my mind from time to time. Was I right to bring up how I feel?

 

I think the right thing is to continue on, but I do consider what you have said, but I hope that she stays true to her honesty and will be up front with me. I mean she's said she feels comfortable with me, and on one occasions we held hands, but when I ask to keep her hands warm last night she politely said no, which felt awful, I felt embarrassed, and unsure of where I stood. Then again she still kisses me, and says she wants to see me, so I feel from time to time I am playing a guessing game.

 

I think its absolutely fine to bring up how you feel, but from the position she is taking right now I wouldn't constantly bring that up. She knows exactly how you feel and that's great but she doesn't need to hear it over and over.


The first time I kissed my current girlfriend she didn't talk to me for 3 days! Haha only because she was so afraid of starting anything at first. But like I said, I just respected her wishes and stayed patient, because she was worth the wait. If you don't jump the gun too much I think you will see it will pay off in the long run.

 

Oh I mentioned it, and then asked her on two more occasions if she was sure I hadn't put her off, which I regret doing, because now I've been worrying every single moment, at least when I can focus my attention on my job, but even so, I feel like a major fuck up.

I guess I base her delayed responses on her beginning to show a lack of interest. Sorry if I sound pathetic.

 

You aren't pathetic at all, i'd be lying if I told you I was any different! I know the feeling and that kind of torture well. In hindsight the best thing I can tell you is you are over thinking it big time. I can't stress enough, just continue to be yourself, and believe in yourself! I'm sure you think you're the right person for her so believe that! Stay positive! Girls can sense that kind of stuff if you ask me so just keep doing your thing and don't get caught stuck in your head questioning your every move, because I promise you are exaggerating the impact of those moves.

 

I'm upset I missed the name talk

 

It's the truth tbh.

 

My names change often except for if I have a girl I'm naming her Dylan Lee.