(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 381

my valentines day plans involve jack daniels, a rotisserie chicken, and (if none of my roommates are home) cigarrettes. will probably watch legion, the first hour of smackdown, then friday night tykes. Needless to say, I'm incredibly excited.



unless my one roommate ruins it all by having his GF over our apartment instead of going to hers. then i get to hear all about what the girl i was interested in is doing for valentines day

 

Wine and The Golden Girls for me tonight

 

"When it comes to envisioning a ‘decolonial love,’ a checklist behavioural guide for relationship etiquette is not sufficient. The problems of dehumanisation and fetishisation did not begin in individual relationships – they just come particularly to light within romantic or sexualised contexts – and will not end there. They began in a system of representation borne out of a power relation; a relation that existed for the purpose of material exploitation and resource extraction. Later, immigration policies, labour practices and distribution of resources would also feed into this racialised hierarchy of desire. The labour of decolonising these representative paradigms is structural, and involves addressing their material histories. To believe – as Fanon says – in the possibility of love, we must comprehend the fact that we do not obliviously fall into it, but are coded in and out of it, and that this has implications beyond our individualised experiences. "

http://www.versobooks.com/blogs/309...M+-+Decolonising+Desire:+The+Politics+of+Love

 

If that's true, we must both look like cartoons with hearts for eyes at this point.

 

"When we buy into this idea of autonomous agents in relationships, we erase the emotional and affective labour that goes into forging, constructing and maintaining them. We erase the fact that relationships happen between people, they are shared, they are a being-in-relation. We don’t just work stuff out with and for ourselves, we work through and on each other. But we need to take a closer look at what work is being done, how and by whom.

Love does not come for free and indeed costs some people more. Women often find themselves working harder, performing more emotional and affective labour in the political economy of intimacy: the work of taking responsibility, shouldering anxiety, smoothing out tensions and providing validation. This is one of the ways the gendered reproductive deal is preserved in our age of self-responsibilisation. "

Love’s Labour’s Cost: The Political Economy of Intimacy

 

Low-key, low-pressure Valentine's Day is the best Valentine's Day.

 

Yuuuuup we watched weeds, smoked weed, now we're at cheap Chinese buffet

 

My girlfriend goes to bed at like 8:15 on Tuesdays, so we just went to our little Italian place in East Boston. Spending our first valentine's at our place was nice.

 

Yeah we decided it was nice to have a low key Valentine's Day for our first since we're this far into our relationship for it there was no need for the pressure. Plus like I said her 21st is in two weeks and I'm doing something special for her then

 

My girlfriend and I went to the store and we had a dinner in mind and the ingredients at home. Then we bought some shitty frozen appetizers and ate those while we watched Lilo and Stitch. Going to have the nice meal and some wine tomorrow.

 

if that was true i'd be a happy person.

 

i've always been single on v day, lol. the only time i was in a relationship, it started after v day and didn't last a year so /shrug

 

I manage a movie theater and it also happens to be discount day and it's fucking insane. HALP. We're also partnered with a restaurant and bar so it's extra cray

 

God, your pillow talk is fucking hot.

 

Valentine's is my second favorite holiday and I feel like I didn't spread as much cheer as I normally do.

Yesterday I broke my phone and then later that night I had a migraine and threw up a lot and then I had a horribly stressed day at work today. A friend and I did go get Thai and then we watched the Edge of Seventeen which I liked but I don't think she did. It didn't even feel like Valentine's Day. Will spread more cheer next year!!!

 

I didn't work today but someone sent me a pic of the chocolate covered strawberries and edible arrangements and junk that someone bought for the whole lab. You better BELIEVE I got in my car and drove over there on my day off to eat chocolate covered fruit. And pretty much left like this..

 

omg that scene in the gif always terrified me. I get really freaked out at like the visual of over-consumption of food so that scene is my nightmare.

 

Miss Trunchbull scared the shit out of me and her breaking that glass platter over his head gave me nightmares. The Chokey too lol

 

really nailed down this stir fry recipe I've been trying and set up a date for next week so Valentine's wasn't a complete wash I guess

 

So the breakup with my ex went very well, I'm so relieved that we're still gonna be friends, even though we won't see each other for a while. However, one of her newest friends decided to interfere and she really pissed me off. Mind your own business, especially when you don't know the persons involved that well, and even less our relationship.

 

awww we didnt check our mail yesterday but we did today and my gandparents sent us 30 bucks and a letter that said "buy dinner on us" and my mother sent us a target gift card. i love that my family loves us as a couple

 

Made an origami tulip for a girl yesterday and brought it to her at work. Going to a short film festival with her tonight

 

so, happy to report that I actually wasn't a sad sack yesterday. I ended up hanging out with the guy I've been posting about (as friends...because he has a girlfriend now...) and we kinda just got to completely forget that it was valentines day. even if it was as friends, spending the day with someone I love was certainly better than sitting at home wallowing by myself.

 

Met a girl at a Karaoke bar last weekend, she and I have seen each other twice since, and it's such a weird thing to have a person who seems to be as interested in me as I am in them.

 

Been a minute since I posted here but I've sort of resigned myself to accepting the single life for awhile. Dating apps are so difficult to get invested in because they're more or less designed to keep you using them. On top of that, I was ghosted earlier this week on the day when we were supposed to meet up which was ~*~*fun*~*~ but it's not bothering me too much.