(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 322

There is no way I could ever handle a blind date haha

 

i did it once to help out some friends and not be the third wheel. but it wasn't mutual. only i was "blind" before the date. only thing i could think the entire leading up to the date was, "why is this the only way she can get a date? what's wrong with her?" and then pretty much after immediately meeting her all i could think was, "oh, that's what's wrong with her" (initial blunder - pink sweatpants to a fancy sit-down restaurant and then instantly badgering all of us about how terrible her parents are).

 

Yikes...

 

I'm better at setting my friends up, than they are for me. For myself, they have not turned out great/

 

I wanted to do this, but it would kind of disrupt the flow of his date.

 

I don't really see how a blind date would be different than say an OKC date, still a stranger you have to make awkward small talk with

 

Both sound bad

If I wanted to make small talk I'd discuss my bank account balance thank you very much

 

Come to think of it, I've never really been on any date, at least not in the traditional sense. All of my girlfriends have been people that I knew and then just started hanging out with and then one thing just led to another.

 

That's exactly how it's been for me haha. The idea of actual dating is terrifying

 

friends becoming more than friends would require friends in the first place though

 

For me it's been people I've met through work or through my sisters. (Sidenote: I am the youngest of 9 children, 7 of them being sisters, which means a lot of friends)

 

as much as I think it's kind of a weird platform, one of the things I've liked about Tinder is being able to basically text someone for a bit before you meet them. clears up a lot of that first date/meet-up anxiety

 

ah both my sisters are younger

 

I know it'll never happen, but if my wife and I (married 10 years) were to split I'd end up alone forever...dating would be terrifying, I would have NO GAME.

 

I still have no game, game is overrated

 

my what if is what if i never would have met my current girlfriend. id prob be dead

 

I'm glad you found her and found help

 

I feel like my what if is happening right in front of me and I don't know whether to do anything about it or live with the everlasting regret seriously it doesn't seem like an easy decision

 

Mine's what if I didn't break up with the girl I thought I would marry one day. It's almost been two years and I still think about her a lot. I kinda wonder if I'd have gone downhill as fast as I did if we hadn't broken up.

 

this is so great.


Also a blind date would be waaaaay worse than a OKC/Tinder date. You can talk beforehand and get to know your mutual interest on those apps, but a blind date you basically have nothing. My anxiety would be waaaay too high for that.

 

That...sounds like a somewhat easy decision when phrased that way...

 

Why didn't the relationship ever start? If you had the chance now, would you take it?

Damn, there sure are a lot of people here who have massive regrets about their "what if's."

 

I definitely have regrets, but at the same time, it probably all played out the way it did for a reason. Mentally I'm in a better place than I've been in years, and I think it took going through all the messes to get there.

I say this as my biggest what if admits that I'm ask her biggest what if. Life is weird.

 

There was this girl I knew (my first kiss actually) and we always had insane chemistry, but the timing was just never right. Either I was in a relationship and she was single or she was in a relationship but she was single...and then finally, there was this small window of time where we were both single and we reconnected and started talking a bit. I have never wanted to bang someone so badly in my life haha. (Sure, maybe I sound like a douche, but our chemistry was largely physical and she was very open about wanting to have sex). So, she texted me one night and told me she was by my work and I went outside to meet her, only having a few minutes before I had to go back to work, and in my head I was just going to forgo all formalities and lay a big wet one on her lips. Well, she rolls up and she has a group of friends with her so I was like ABORT ABORT and went for the hug. A few months later she gets knocked up by a dude and now they're married. Yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy.


We wouldn't have been good relationship material but I'm sad I will never bang. Woe is me.

 

Are you both single? You should turn this "what if" into what IS yo