(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 181

don't text her.

 

Keep the faith! I believe in you, dude.

i'm gonna play devil's advocate and say dooooo it. Maybe you'll get belated post-break up sex out of it.

 

Sometimes I accidentally like people's posts here and I unlike them even tho I'm guessing they know I liked it originally but I'm like oop it's not a like-worthy post sorry!

 

Can confirm this happens.

 

You're a stingy little thing haha

 

Ding ding ding

 

Oh god fucking flashbacks right now

 

Listen. I lost my virginity to belated post break up sex. Do not recommend. Would not do it again. Not worth it in any way. The following 6 months were fucked. And then I was alone for four years.

 

HOLY SHIT

 

At work, so I'm not gonna google it, but insert the doesn't matter had sex .gif

but really, listen to those guys ^. don't text her, don't creep on her instagram anymore, stay the course. be strong.

 

because its fuckin weird, 150 is way too many times to check your fucking tumblr

 

jfc

 

I wish someone was dangerously obsessed with me jk

 

i have two nightmare ex stories that intertwine with each other a lot. it was a weird two years. but that was a long time ago and i laugh about it now. not like i was perfect in all of it either.

 

I should fight the temptation to start talking to the girl who flirtatiously messages me periodically but never really has time to hang out

 

Then again maybe I will

 

Nothing to lose!

 

Except more time! But at least I don't have high expectations now

 

Ask her when she's free. Set a firm time and location that fits that. ball is in her court. if she cancels/doesn't show, you tried, and can move on. it's cliche, but if they're genuinely interested and want it, they'll make the time and be there. no sense in investing time and energy in those who can't be bothered

 

You guys, I love this thread.

 

I've been single for a few years now, and I've tried the whole online dating thing, but I realize my biggest hurdle is that I'm fairly comfortable being alone.

I mean sure, I occasionally crave the whole companionship, intimacy, and potential for future (i.e. kids, domestication, etc.). For the most part I'm enjoying myself and don't feel the need to have someone around. I still make minor efforts to meet people, but it's not really my primary goal. When I go out, I'm usually in search of new experiences, but a part of me still feels like I'm missing out on something by not at least dating.

 

Started dating my current girlfriend last June. I had just got out of a joke of a one year relationship that immediately followed a four year relationship, and I was steadfast in my goal to stay single for a while. Then, the beautiful girl at work with the Dungeons and Dragons books and Mordecai hat got put into a "focus group" meeting with me and a couple other coworkers the week after, told me she was moving to a new apartment soon, and I offered my help. Then she invited me to hang and help her house-sit her mom's place that night... yeah, being single didn't happen.

We've been through some awful stuff since we've met, and she had some big trust issues coming into this as she was just a few months removed from a broken four year engagement, but I put in the time and patience and respected her boundaries, and now she has really let me in and things are awesome. She's way beautiful and accomplished, and somehow nerdier than me (did I mention the Dungeons & Dragons?). We currently share a house and I'm totally gonna marry her face off if she lets me.

 

Was seeing a girl for like a month but decided to call it off because i just had a gut feeling that i wasn't really ready for something so soon after a four year breakup. I've never had to be in that situation before (being on the other side of the fence) but I think I handled it pretty well and she was completely cool about it. That was maybe a month ago. Since then i've been trying to just get more comfortable having fun on my own, processing things from my breakup that i was closing myself off from a few months ago and just trying to take it day by day.

The NYC dating scene is really rough and sort of intimidating but there are definitely a lot of days where i genuinely miss coming home to someone who just looks forward to seeing and hanging out with me. That's been the worst part of it all i think, dealing with the total absence of that.

 

Vibes are bad man. Abandoning all hope.

 

Don't stress too much, It's great that you took time for yourself, a lot of people don't understand how important is take time to cover. You keep at it and when you found someone who you enjoy spending time spending and you feel like you are ready for relationship, go for it.

sidenote: i feel you, the scene in most major is so so.