(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 1275

like I don't want to shake their hand like they're about to interview to have sex with me wtf.

 

this could play out well with a certain type

 

my gf is currently on her three week work rotation. can halloween hurry up and get here so she can come home

 

could definitely see it working. definitely depends on the type of both people. you risk her being like "uh oh, he thinks he's quirky"

 

what the %^$& is a side hug

 

you got ur main ride or die hugs and then ur lil something over here side hugs

 

Then you got your hover hands

 

that has to be on purpose oml hahah

 

those pictures with cheerleaders are so bad

if you want a real bad set look at a lakers one

 

what if hover hands are just proof of pictures taken with ghosts

 

Me on a date

 

always leave room for jesus.

 

always leave room for the water bottle

 

I've been side hugging the girl I've been hanging out with but only because she's in a wheelchair

 

I just saw my ex for the first time in four years and I’m really shaken? Long story short, we dated at a very young age (I was 14, he was 16), he cheated on me and we broke up, got back together two weeks later, he dumped me again, we didnt speak for a while. We decided to be “just friends” after some time away, and he still flirted with me while dating the woman he cheated on me with. He ended up just... disappearing. He walked back into my life a year later, I was dating someone else, he was possessive and said all the things I wanted to hear, ended up really emotionally abusive but I couldn’t see it for a long time. He was there for me during the worst times of my life but would gaslight me about my suicidal ideation and the insecurities I had about him as soon as I calmed down a bit. We became really close again and he drove a wedge between me and my then-partner, I was falling back in love, and then he just left, again. I was 18 when I last spoke to him.

I haven’t heard from him in four years, I have him blocked on all social media, and then he just shows up, thinking he can apologise and make everything okay, and claim that he never stopped loving me. I was really cruel and yelled and cried and let out years of anguish. I can’t help thinking I was too harsh? The worst part is that I’m sitting here on the train, feeling sick to my stomach, thinking that maybe I don’t deserve my boyfriend who I’ve loved for years and treats me better than anyone ever has. I thought I’d rid all the toxic thoughts towards myself but I guess not

 

It's completely fair to not forgive him and let him know how you feel about it. If he's really sorry for his actions he'll accept your right to feel that way and respect that youre in a better place without him

 

He hurt you you don't deserve that you deserve your current relationship which brings you happiness

 

@Mary V I think it's good that you were able to vent and speak how you truly feel. Sometimes getting things out into the universe, especially in front of the person who created all this pain, can be cathartic big time.

 

Thank you both

Apologies are good, acknowledging your wrongdoings is even better but it’s way too late. I could never trust him again and as much as I hate knowing he’s hurting over the things I said, he really needs to hold himself accountable and accept that I can’t forgive him or have him back in my life

 

Cathartic but very painful! He moved away from Melbourne so I never thought I’d see him again, let alone vent about all of it

 

I would hold fast to this attitude. Like Chase said, if he is truly genuinely sorry for everything he will be happy for you to live your life happily without trying to wedge himself in and control anything. Sorry you were hurt and here's hoping tomorrow goes better

 

Where I come from we like to say 'pain is the pathway to peace!'

 

Yeah, if he’s sorry he will actually leave me alone, whether he likes it or not. I want to continue growing and thriving. Can’t do that with all his drama in my life!

It can be!

 

@Mary V you’re a wonderful who deserves your current boyfriend very much. In the long run, confronting this past pain and anguish will hopefully allow you the chance to fully heal. You’ve seemingly got something great with the guy you’re dating and you deserve that.