(Reasons we're not having) Sex (and WoW) Thread NSFW • Page 162

The blowjob conversation from a few days ago was absolutely brutal as far as male-centric bullshit goes

 

Is there a way we can make it more inclusive and less uncomfortable for some?

 

I think it's gonna veer that way as long as participation in here is 95% straight men

A lot of the time it's hard to put a finger on why it gets weird because everyone is different wrt talking about sex, but something about going into graphic detail to an almost entirely male audience is weird, at least to me

 

For the record, I don't think anything that has been said has been out-of-line.

 

While I don't either personally, the fact that some people have should be noted and we should see what we can do to help with that.

 

Audrey spoke up a few pages back and I'm not sure if it was ever addressed. But I'd also assume she doesn't have any interest in being dragged back into this thread.

I ventured back into this thread the day that was posted and have really only stuck around to keep an eye on things tbh

 

tbh I don't know if there's even a way to get a bunch of guys together talking about sex and not have it get sketch sometimes. And it's not that there's even always something noticeably out of line or specifically horrendous (tho there have been some not great moments before), sometimes it's just an uncomfortable or uneasy feeling idk.

 

yeah, it's tough to explain but a thread full of dudes bragging about getting laid is definitely weirder than what i think this thread seemingly started as, a non-gender specific community that's excited about getting it

 

after reading the last few pages and the discussion on it and then seeing this... maybe this is the troll in me but the first thing I thought was

Imagine being the poor person who came in this thread wanting to talk about their Lv. Whatever Druid or something and all they see is pegging and rimjob talk. lol

 

i got my druid up to 110 but never geared enough for real raids, could only ever do LFR. i did some real raiding on my rogue but thats harder since its so much less versatile, but its also my fav toon and i level it first every xpac so it always turns out to be the only one i can do any real raiding with before i quit again after 2 or 3 months

 

That's too graphic for me. I'm out.

 

that was, something

 

Just read the last few pages of this thread and I think with my newfound knowledge I have grown a deeper appreciation for my incredibly tame sex life

 

loll same tho

 

Didn't really know where to post this, but I am aware of an "older" band in this scene who were really big, where the lead singer was roughly 24 and was sexting a 16 year old girl (A girl I later became friends with at uni, and I have seen the proof myself).

Band have long since broken up I believe but yeah, really made me aware of just how prevalent this is. I would name and shame but my friend asks me not to do that sadly and really it's her wishes I have to respect. I did say she should come forward but I think she does not want to. Should I ask her to, or should I keep quiet to respect my friend's wishes?

 

Definitely respect her wishes, but be there to support her should she ever change her mind about speaking up about it. If you push too hard it could make her feel guilty.

 

Okay, that's what I thought, but I was worried about it coming out in the future and realising I had known and should have said something. Kind of selfish reasons but I feel a bit reassured that I'm doing the right thing. I shall do, cheers for the advice.

 

I actually had something like this when i was underage myself. I was really into super dark super undeground rap atm and i had met this girl who was 16 when i the same. We fooled around a lil cus we synced off rbe shared music interests...

Come to find out shes also a mistress to one of the rappers (who was 32) that i never personally was a fan of but he had a huge hand in those i was of. Very conflicting, esp since she didnt want it to stop herself. She wanted to replace his wife and it was really uncomfortable i ultimately distanced myself... Apparently the wife found out he was cheating but not who and how old... To this day i think thats a secret in thar scene to those who know.

Always irked me.

 

Def respect her wishes, but I know it's tough. I've heard a lot of stuff about a few bands and it's hard when ppl are talking about what great dudes they are and I'm like but no. But idk. Sucks cause I'd never compromise that trust but there is some level where it feels like I'm being complicit sometimes.

 

is it not ok to just say "I've heard some not so chill stuff from ppl I trust about them" without saying specifically who?

 

Idk I always worry it'll get traced back or turn into a big ordeal and then there will be pressure on that person to come forward idk. Like one band is pretty big like I don't think ppl would be very receptive and I could just see the demanding proof thing and it blowing up, and without their consent I'm just uneasy about it all. I am sometimes a lil passive aggressively hostile in convos about them oop but other than that I never really know what to do.

 

I think that it's great you want to help your friend, but getting suggestions from people and then letting her know is also helpful. You can only help so much and the rest is on her.

 

oh yeah it's totally her deal and I don't blame anyone who doesn't speak out. Honestly I'm such a private person that I don't know if I could ever be brave enough to call out a public figure like that, knowing that it always results in an internet nitpicking investigation of the accuser. I totally respect people who choose not to speak up about their harassment. tbh I think she's just moved on and isn't interested in talking about it and that's cool. Just sucks seeing creepy men praised all the time!

 

Unrelated: your name/avi made me smile.

 

Yeah that's part of my worry. This band is/was legit huge and I know even many of the staff of this site are fans and so I doubt this would be a little thing.