(Reasons we're not having) Sex (and WoW) Thread NSFW • Page 136

Let us imagine a society where women are very often considered unstable for pretty minute, human things. All anyone in this thread has to go on is a one sided story that hasn't really given us any substantial information about this woman other than her rough age and religion of choice (not a whole lot to go on). Frankly, while my claws are out, if one were forced into this unnecessary game of amateur shrink, I wouldn't be focusing on her, but that's probably primarily because we have much more perspective via the point-of-view

Then, to top it off, to defend such behavior some extremely personal and potentially embarrassing information is shared. Seems obvious why that would be icky

And to address the tone policing: maybe I'm feelin a little frisky because this thread so often feels like it's pretty comfortable dipping its toes into the pool of toxic masculinity, and I figured instead of just unsubbing/ignoring I'd at least push back a little before just in case others are feeling the same way

 

@gonz (Alex)

Hey, an actual answer, I genuinely appreciate that.

The thing is, judging from this response, we actually see eye to eye on a lot it seems. I think the term "crazy" and others like it get thrown around far too flippantly when referring to women. Now, if I was an outsider and I was reading my posts about this whole situation would I look at that be like, "hmmm, she's a mess"? Eh. Probably not. But I guess I felt the need to address the fact that he wasn't actually all that wrong, and maybe just more intuitive than I. I also think that "mess" is a bit more nuanced than something like "crazy" but...I digress

As for me posting information about her, maybe I'm wrong here, but I guess I just see chorus as a pretty safe place to post pretty much whatever. It's not like I'm posting this shit on Facebook or Instagram. It's still pretty anonymous. Perhaps I need to reevaluate that.

I just think that if you want to help someone understand why what they are saying might be wrong it's best to actually address the issue than say something that makes you look like a combative dick, which is where I felt your first two comments were coming from. They weren't gonna help anyone.



Anyways...can we move on from this and talk about boners and stuff?

 

Actually I'm red now after being so severely roasted

 

I think we just need to keep in mind that it's mainly cishet men in here and the dating thread

 

Fire is also red

 

Almost

 

If I've contributed to any toxic masculinity or made any objectifying or otherwise inappropriate posts or comments or contributed in anyway to making anyone feel uncomfortable or discouraged for visiting or posting in this thread or the dating thread, I apologize and I will work to stop that behavior if I have and also call others out on it as well if and when it occurs in either thread and would hope that any time I do it myself that I would get called out on it.

 

That's the main reason I unsubbed, like I'm a cishet man and all and I felt a bit uncomfortable, so I can't imagine how others might feel at times who don't fit those categories. And it's not really anything new, it's not like it's just now become a thing. But I don't know, maybe my interpretation of it all and how I feel reading the thread just means it's not for me.

 

There's times when I've felt like the tone in here might be objectifying but also I'm a bit uncomfortable talking about sex in specifics.

Whatever, this is just a place to post videos when a dry spell is be broken

 

Re: masculine cishet trophy hunter culture bullshit, I can't imagine ever being like "yo bro I just nailed this girl brah" or anything like that. I am always brought back to poignant Lonely Island witticism "I'm so humbled by a girl's ability to let me do her". There is so much risk involved in the romanticized "meet at a bar, go back to my place" rendezvous, and for a variety of reasons heterosexual women tend to be the ones with the most to watch out for

- The woman is often forced to trust the man that he is using protection properly/at all.
- The woman is likely the "smaller" of the two as has been assigned the ideal dynamic for a man and a woman by all media ever, and has to trust him not to beat the shit out of her if she doesn't follow his unspoken sexual protocol.
- The woman can't impregnate the man and bail for eternity, that only can go the other way.
- Testosterone makes fucking creeps out of people. If you take that guy home and he has your address he may not leave you alone right away, or worse.
- I would hate to be a woman who brings a man home or goes home with one in this world where porn says women like to be choked and dominated and whatever other garbage gets creeps off. Not shaming bondage/dom-sub play, but it needs to be addressed and agreed upon before being performed.

Not saying all men are creeps, or all women are defenseless. But everytime I've gotten intimate with a woman for the first time, I've respected her even if it didn't seem like it was going to work out (it always did, I've had full blown sex with only five women, none I was dating at the time, but all of which I would date for a year or more after). I also am not opposed to one-and-done sex, it's just nothing I've been a part of.

 

Wow you have a one-to-one ratio of sex partners to long term relationships lol. That's impressive, seeing as I'm working on just my second potential real relationship ever

 

Haha yep, it didn't start out so healthy though. I dated the girl that I mutually destroyed virginities with for a little over a year, that was at 17 or 18, and I got bored and had never dumped anyone before so I did an awful awful job and broke her heart with it, which is a shame because she was a phenomenal girlfriend just not for me. I don't think I really matured romantically until my third and longest relationship in college.

 

No more sex

WHO warns of imminent spread of untreatable superbug gonorrhoea


It's over.

 

All you need to know about my sexting capabilities.

 

Looks like you may have jaundice

 

@THE last page lmao.

Thread gets weird sometimes though, I agree.

 

The is gonna be in for a treat

 

I agree @Colby.

 

Jesus we don't know her social security number, relax.

 

Okay...fair question here. A lot of you who participate here know me pretty well (as far as chorus goes)...I'm really not one to objectify women or anyone else for that matter. I know I joke around a lot, so if you don't feel comfortable having the discussion with me I get it. But I'm just curious...what is wrong with being masculine?

 

I wrote out a long reply then realized I probably don't know what I'm talking about. The dichotomy of masculinity/femininity has been used and is used in harmful ways in western society and that's probably what most people will get at if you ask that question. However, they aren't inherently bad concepts and one isn't worse or better than the other, and leaving room for both in yourself is almost always a beneficial thing since they complement each other. As long as your definitions of both are constructive I see no issue. Just don't take your definition from something like "masculinity is what it is to be a man" cuz that'll probably be bad. The terms shouldn't be conflated with gender imo but they are.

 

Thanks for the response. I mean...I'm probably the least analytical person on this site and I cant stand how this generation reads so fucking deeply into what I believe to be the most asinine, trivial concepts. Like I said...I'm not here to antagonize...most of you know me pretty well. This is probably the most vomit-inducing cliche line ever...but damn life is too short..

 

I don't always follow this or the dating thread super closely because they move quickly/my love life is nonexistent and I got nothing to add lol, but the times I've gotten annoyed mostly are when men kinda throw a pity party and act like women have the upper hand or hold more power in dating. Like yeah maybe women do get more messages if u don't count the countless unsolicited dick picks or objectifying and violent messages. What's that quote like, that the most men worry about is a woman laughing at them/rejection, whereas women have to worry about being assaulted and murdered. We may get to be "pickier" but when u look at what the choices are.......