Mental Health Thread • Page 397

That is so frustrating to deal with. I've always hated that mindset where people don't consider how their actions in the workplace will affect others. Would be nice if people just worked to help each other's day-to-day work less stressful.

 

How long does grieving last? The future no longer seems fun or happy....and now former happy thoughts of the past fills me with tears. My dog of 9years, for all intents and purposes, aka one of my best friends/son died a very sudden and untimely death. Me and my wife keep taking turns breaking down. I can not express how much a part of my life he is. Walked my wife down the aisle. We have traveled all around the country together. Drive from Austin to New Jersey every year for Christmas just for them. Our plans essentially involved "but what about the boys" (we have another dog that's 6).

Nothing wont remind me of him. Me and my wife wanna pack up from Austin and go back to nj...but the thought of going back to NJ (a place he loved, he hated being in austin) without him makes me incredibly sad. But I don't want to stay in Austin anymore because he's been everywhere wirh me and it's such a dog friendly town. We came here so the dogs can be with us all the time.

It's our fault. We made them TOO BIG a part of our lives.

 

Losing a pet like that hurts. But it’s never a bad thing to love another living thing as long as it improves your life. Healing takes time and I know it feels hopeless now, but soon the memories will bring more smiles to your face than they do now.

 

Grieving never stops. At least mine over my cat from September hasn’t. You just become better at compartmentalizing. I still cry probably once’s every couple of weeks due to a memory popping up on social media/my phone or just a thought in my head.

a lot of time when I’m alone I hear the little soft exhale she gave when the vet administered the pain/sedation medicine before the final one and it breaks my heart every single time. Sorry to being very specific but that’s just to say that the only help is time. Lots and lots of time.

 

I lost my sweet boy (cat) Hendrix in 2017 and I still sob. The smallest things will trigger me and I will lose it.

So, simply put, there is no time limit for Greiving someone (human or Pet) you loved more than life.

I am so sorry for your loss @domotime2

 

I couldn't agree more. Not even a week after I lost Hendrix, I found Rae and Marley. They are the only two things in this world that got me through that hard time and still get me through it.

 

Ahhhhh I just became a dog dad for the first time about 3/4 weeks ago and I already can’t imagine life without her

one of the best things I ever did and I hope in time you appreciate the memories without it hurting the way it does

 

Its just a humongous life change and out of nowhere. I can't believe last week I took my boys to the pet store to get the 6yo (bucky) a new collar because he chewed up the old one. Just another average boring day. We got treats. I went to work. 16 hours later we find out its over.

I read up a lot about the cancer he got.

They don't know where it comes from. It's impossible to detect because there aren't that many outward symptoms. Once its there, there's nothing you can do and death is within a week. It effects golden retrievers, German shepharfs more so (he is neither). And its usually older dogs (which he wasn't yet).

It feels like Grover was given this exact expiration date as soon as he was born. "You will live an amazing, loving life, see 20+ states, eat all the fun foods, you will almost never be sick, but you're not making it to 10yo".

The helplessness actually makes me feel a little better but also more just mad about it.

 

Yo! Who just got blindsided by another horrible wave of depression?! This guy. Fucking love it.

 

I’m sorry to hear that - anything you can pinpoint that triggered it?

 

Giving up alcohol again, at least for a while, because it is 100% correlated with me waking up mid-panic attack. And the hangxiety and guilt I feel the entire morning after, even if I didn't get drunk. It's just not worth it. But it's a habit, and it's going to be difficult when I visit friends in Pittsburgh this week.

 

You got this. Talk to your friends ahead of time if you can, I’m sure they’d be completely understanding.

 

Thanks man. I'm sure no one will even mention it if I order a diet coke or something. They're good people. It's more of a self-control issue on my part.

 

I took a whole year off drinking back in ‘21 and getting started is the hardest part. Once I got used to not drinking in social situations it was a breeze. Never been a big drinker at home/alone. You got this dawg!

 

I have no idea. It just came out of nowhere. It's a huge bummer.

I'm never going to do anything with my life at this rate.

 

Thank you! It's 100% a ritual. Like, I set aside Friday nights exclusively for drinks and watching movies, so I just need to find a healthy way to replace that part of the ritual.

 

Just find something else to drink to replace it in the ritual! A coworker of mine are working together to cut back on soda/energy drinks and have been repping Liquid Death pretty hard lol

 

liquid death mango has been doing wonders for me on that front.

 

Yeah I am a fan of diet sodas (specifically clear ones to avoid the kind of kidney stones I had), but I've been doing Crystal Light lately as a treat. Lots of water throughout the day.

 

I'm sorry for you loss :(

I had a dog growing up that was with my family for around 11 years. I was 19 at the time and the scene of her death caused PTSD. Despite living with that, I eventually was able to look at pictures of her and think of fond memories. I still cry, but its mostly a joyous cry. With time, your memories will eventually warm your heart, rather than break it.

 

Really not doing well right now. I've been sober since I got home from my Pittsburgh trip and that's a good thing, but I feel so torn between married life and my friends who aren't settled down. And the addictions they have and how tempting that substance abuse is to me. I'm not even torn -- I know what I want -- but I feel guilty for making mistakes or feeling tempted in the first place.

I'm dumb as hell, can't drive, I'm afraid to leave the house (and therefore struggle to see local friends), and constantly oscillate between feeling like I have too much or too little on my plate. I don't know what to do to level out. I'm tired of constantly feeling guilt and shame to the point of not wanting to be around. Sometimes there's a reason for those feelings, but other times, they're just there. I'm supposed to be planning to have a family soon, but what if I pass this on? Even ignoring the things I can't control, what if I can't keep myself together enough to me a parent?

Sorry. Spiraling.

 

Just wanted everyone to know I’m fine. I’ve had the stomach bug/food poisoning from hell. Been sick since last Thursday.

I lost 10 lbs because I have been too afraid to eat much and anything I do eat just goes right through me.

I’m soooo hungry lol

 

Finally got my ADHD/BED diagnosis from my current provider today after months of struggling and trying med combos that don’t work. I was finally prescribed Vyvanse. Get to the pharmacy and my prescription is over $320. The pharmacist was like let’s add your insurance and said “no wait. That’s with insurance. I’m so sorry.” Tried multiple online coupons and nothing.

Feeling defeated again despite knowing it will mostly be resolved tomorrow.

 

I posted this on another thread, but thought it might help here too:

real talk…this app is changing my life right now. It’s motivation to better myself and incredibly wholesome. My wife does it too and got me onto it. You make your own daily goals and your animal gets points to go on adventures and gets new clothes and foods to feed it. It can befriend other animals and randomly chill with them. So much to do in it and it’s all really helpful to me.

 

Aha my depression and anxiety has returned like a mother fucker. Back to meds and therapy I go