Mental Health Thread • Page 369

Hey, that's not an easy pill for anyone to swallow. The fact that your friend has to carry that doesn't make your stuff any smaller, and you're allowed to feel bad about that. I'm glad she feels comfortable enough to trust you with that information and it should reassure you that you're someone she needs around right now. You're a good friend.

 

Cat is sick. It's probably nothing (knock on wood), she just hasn't eaten much this week and seemed lethargic this morning, so we made a vet appointment for this afternoon. Still just one of those things you worry about at work all day. I can imagine it's similar/worse with kids. I don't want her to be home alone for the next four hours.

 

that was one of my things. my cat is ostensibly sick too. she hissed at me a few times this morning when I was feeding her and she never ever does that

just hoping both of our cats feel much better soon

 

I've been coming home to an empty apartment now for 2 1/2 years. I'm not sure how I haven't totally broken down yet.

I'm just going to say it, I'm Lonely as hell.

 

I’ve been living alone for the first time in my life for the past 5 months and it has been sooo bad for my mental health. To the point where I’m considering moving home when my lease ends even though I’m 30.

 

If I could go home, I would, even at almost 39...but my dad and step mom are finally getting the house to themselves after 27 years (my other brother is moving out end of this month and literally down the street from me)

forgot to mention that up until October last year, I was living solo. I live with my youngest brother now (that's another post for another day) short version - His father (my step dad) died Nov 2020. My mom had a complete breakdown and well that house/environment was not safe for my brother to be in. He was living with his gf and her parents for a few months and then I decided I needed to move as well and we found a place together. Its probably the best roommate situation I've ever had lol. But he's always gone. He's in Africa rn for work. He's 25 and living his best life and I love that. But I kinda miss him this week. We cook dinner together like 2 -3 times a week and chat and...I just miss it.

Its just me and the cats. I'm a damn Taylor Swift song.

 

plus our apartment is so big that we have our own living rooms, so its just very quiet at home. I haven't had this much quiet since last summer at my old place.

 

Finally realizing that, not to be sappy, but damn, having a positive healthy romantic relationship can lead to a lot of necessary growth and mental and spiritual healing, huh?

I do not boast. I am remarking that this is the first time I think this has ever happened to me, and it probably has to do with HRT as well.

I'm just very happy to be doing so well after so dark a chapter in my life that 2021 was.

 

Finding a healthy relationship and feeling better about yourself all around is always something to celebrate! Happy to hear you’re seeing some positive changes

 

hell yeah!

 

Nice to see some good news in this thread. Congrats!

 

Not a fan of how if I run out of my meds for even a single night I feel absolutely unhinged the day after. And I understand logically why I feel the way I do, but it still kind of freaks me out.

 

This sucks but my girlfriend isn’t coming to live with me. And I think it’s about time for me to move on. She’s in a bad place right now and I’m actually in a great place and she needs serious mental health treatment and just isn’t ready to come out here with my family. I get it but again, this isn’t the first time something like this has happened and I’ve done stuff like this to her too. It may just be that time to call it while we’re still friends and on good terms. And that’s okay, my sobriety doesn’t depend on her and I think I’m gonna be alright. Just disappointed she waited until the last minute her flight was today and she texted me at 5 am

 

That does suck but sometimes you do have to make the choice that’s best for you and your health. I spent five years in a relationship that was obviously doomed since the first year and hanging on just made it harder for both of us. You can still support her and encourage her to get the help she needs as a friend.

 

Man. My therapist helped me a lot with this, but being zonked on painkillers and recovering from surgery has just given me a lot of time to dwell on it and it feels bad, man. It is what it is, and I know I did everything I could/nothing to provoke it, but still. I feel frustrated and bitter and vindictive and concerned and depressed all at once, and that's not like me, at least not the bitter and vindictive parts. It's hard to distract myself and even harder to let go. Just feel like I need to ramble somewhere public where I don't have to worry about hurting someone.

 

Anyone here gone to therapy online, like basically on the phone? How was it? Would you do it again?

I'm considering it since I hate traveling and going out.

 

I’ve done telehealth when my therapist had her office closed due to Covid rates, it’s fine but definitely not as engaging as in person for me, but still beneficial if that’s the optimal way to do it for you

 

The only reason I wouldn't want to do telehealth for therapy is if my partner has the day off from work, I don't necessarily want her to be able to hear my private discussions. Otherwise I think it'd be great and super convenient.

I actually just called a mental health facility today though - have an intake appointment next week. First time I'll be finding a therapist since 2018. I'm long overdue and in desperate need of help, I hope things work out. United Healthcare has awful behavioral health coverage so hopefully I can find a practitioner who accepts them.

 

I almost signed up for better help but it’s kinda pricey and they can’t prescribe anything which I definitely need something at this point.

 

I used to make my ex put in headphones and stay in the other room

 

Great advice, thanks for that. She does have noise cancelling headphones so that is a good option

 

My wife uses better help and she likes it. The times where I'm WFH and she's in therapy are few and far between but we sit in opposite rooms and I put headphones in and listen to music while she's talking to her therapist. But really, she comes out and talks to me about what she talked with her therapist about anyways so it's not a huge deal for us. But there are ways around it.

 

Yeah I mean that also made it convenient if we needed to do a couples session for her to hop on and talk with us if necessary

 

Better Help gave me a homophobic/transphobic therapist, so I passed on that quickly.

Tele-health is good after the initial meetings. I need to meet with someone 2-4 times before doing tele-health.

 

Tonight, me and my daughter looked at old family photos when I was a kid and it triggered a lot of emotions and memories. It was hard, I saw pictures of my great-grandparents and it made me cry because they were such kind and loving people and they’re gone now. Seeing my parents so young and seeing them aging now was also hard. I hate time.