Mental Health Thread • Page 32

Awesome feeling! Good to hear.

 

I struggle with this a lot too. One thing I found really helped me last fall was my mom making small goals for me each day and helping to keep me motivated. So if you have anyone in your life you think would be a good motivator maybe try that? There's also a few tips here (I find #2 to be pretty helpful)

 

I want to surround myself with supportive and awesome friends. I don't need a ton. I love my best friend and I know she cares about me but she has SO many other friends and gets so engrossed with every guy she dates that I feel inadequate, idk. She always seems busy so I feel insecure about asking her to do stuff with me, especially cause I don't drink. She initiated hanging out a ton last summer and it made me feel awesome until I realized it's cause she was single. Now that she's dating again I never see her and I don't like feeling like I'm in the background until she's single and needs someone to vent to.

It'd be nice to have friends that seem eager to hang out with me and have the time. I was starting to build up those friends in pdx but then I moved. I'm not really sure how to do that here. It's so small and hard to meet ppl. I have surface-level relationships with my coworkers but at the end of the day we have nothing in common and nothing to talk about. I'm so shy and anxious and introverted too.


tl;dr: whiny whiner. I want someone to eat food and watch movies with who is dependable and has some similar interests and seems to want to hang out with me too.

 

OK I somehow missed a notification and missed out on 5 pages of thread. But I'm back now.

I am definitely in a pit of depression. I have only left the my bed a handful of times in the past 2+ weeks.
And even when I do think oh I'm going to go out, I want to go do something, I reach out to people and I don't get a reply or I get blown off. But really, I don't have many people to reach out to to begin with.

 

There are way too many great things in this world to experience. But I do know that feeling, I think a lot of us have been there. If you need anyone to talk to let me know.

PS: if you're joking (only asking because of the "lol" in your post), please disregard lol.

 

Also, a little update: I've felt a bit better after going to Warped Tour and I went to a car show yesterday. The girlfriend is coming on Tuesday (thank god!) for a whole week. It sucks that she'll only be here for a week but I'm still super excited! Also, I'm becoming less and less healthy because lately food is the only thing I really look forward to every day... But on the flip side of that, I hate the way I look/feel but I have no motivation to work out or to cook/eat healthy.

 

My bff reached out today which felt nice even tho I think it was mostly to rant about her bf. Just sucks because her bf raises SO many of my red flags. He's exactly like my ex who wasn't a great guy and I was blunt when talking about how I perceive her bf and what I think of him, but ultimately she's gonna do what she wants. He's not physically abusive with her but is manipulative and emotionally abusive and she brought it up herself that he can be, but she's in that stage where she thinks they can work through it. She's strong and independent and I know she'll be fine in the end, I just wish she could see it now and realize she doesn't need to put up with it. He has a major problem with women and doesn't trust them, and she thinks that the longer they're together and he sees he can trust her that he'll get better, and I'm like sis nothing you do will fix the deep hatred he has and the more you prove him wrong the further he'll move the goalposts like ugggh it's just hard to watch because I've so been there and guys like that need serious help. It's not just an ignorant guy who needs to unlearn some microaggressions and casual misogyny, it's way deeper than that.

ugh sorry for ranting it just sucks.

 

What's the best way to tell someone you're too depressed to hang out

 

Well if you want them to know you're depressed/feeling bad just straight up tell them. If you just wanna get out of hanging out, tell them you're not feeling well and just leave it at that or just say you're tired lol. I do it all the time!

 

I ghosted on a lot of my really good friends...that was definitely a mistake on my end.

Honesty is the best policy? Maybe?

 

just did 10 flights in 2 weeks and pictured myself crashing on every one of them

*scared

 

I'm still not sure if I should post my custody stuff here because it's more of a personal life problem than a mental health issue. But my social study custody evaluation report thing came back and makes me look really good imo, and my daughter's mom not so much. However the lady didn't get to meet with her because she couldn't afford the retainer.

"Final hearing" is happening Monday, though I won't be surprised if the judge says we need to reschedule so they can actually meet like they were supposed to.

 

I hate my anxiety, I swear I'm anxious about everything. I'm having my gf bring all of my childhood goodies (pokemon cards, toys, games, gameboys etc) when she comes out here but I'm afraid of it being stolen by TSA.... I just don't know what I'd do if things with such sentimental value being stolen from me. I'd like to think I'd hunt the person down and make them suffer =P.

 

When I was eight someone smashed our car window and stole my gameboy and the Kirby game in it, still the most upset I've ever been

 

I will NEVER EVER sympathize with someone who steals from individuals. I think we should go back to cutting off theives' hands.

 

I think something like this might help me deal with some of my more negative thoughts that my friends are tired of hearing about... Things I Can't Say Out Loud Book

 

yoooo late to this party!!!

i hate myself lol but i'm about to start therapy on wednesday party tiiiime -____-

 

I completely know the feeling man. I've lived out of state for more than 2 months and my parents never really ask how I'm doing or care about anything other than money it feels like. I also know the popped tire feeling...

 

Good luck!

 

thanks man. i've got high hopes.

 

I'm dreading therapy tomorrow.

 

last time i went i was in college, it always made me a little nervous. i'm older now but i am still a little weirded out by the whole thing.

 

I've kept myself sober for the past two years or so. Even in my most desperate days, I have been able to dissuade myself from thinking "maybe just one bottle..."

But the past couple of days just wrecked me. I can't focus. I am unable to be productive. My chest feels like there is a bowling ball inside it. My appetite has steadily dropped and my interest in things have become so low...

Except for the thought of having just one bottle. It calls me and I am longing. And I don't want this...

 

I haven't felt like myself in a long time

 

One of those lovely days where I feel bitter that I'm a loner and nobody is really talking to me but when they've tried to make conversation I'm awkward and stilted and don't give them anything to work with so they move on. I don't even wanna talk to them to be social. I don't mind being a loner but I hate looking like one