Mental Health Thread • Page 124

Going to therapy was one of the best choices I've made. If it will make you feel better, think of it this way: it takes strength to admit that you need help, and even more to seek it out. So, if you do go (and I hope you do), go knowing that doing so makes you a complete and total badass.

 

Alright guys, it's worth a shot I guess.

 

I wish I could speak candidly about what's going on in m y life right now.

My boyfriend has suffered a complete mental break from reality. That sounds dramatic but I really can't think of any other way to describe it.
He's brought me down the rabbit hole with him and I don't know which way is up anymore.

 

Had therapy today after taking a week off, feel immensely better after a few incredibly rough days (tues and wed).

 

I haven't been this severely depressed in years. Don't know how I can come out of this. Really struggling

 

Don't feel pressured either way. Different things work for different people, so don't feel forced into something. Make sure you're comfortable with your decision. It's totally OK to be nervous. Let us know how it goes!

 

i made a little spiel in the politics thread but today marks three months clean from heroin for me and even though ive hit this mark before this time im just flooded with gratitude and a sense that i absolutely cannot take all of the endless support from my family, my significant other, my closest friends, and the wonderful people on this website for granted anymore and i need to continue on this path of bettering myself and fulfilling my life to become what i want it to become. things are going great for now and while that never lasts i feel more ready than ive ever been for whatever comes my way, i have the most incredible partner in the world standing right by me through thick and thin like she always has, a literal angel who would never let anything bad happen to me, and a family who would and has dropped everything they're doing on a dime to make sure i'm okay and getting the help i need to become healthy again. all the people who show love and support give me endless amounts of strength and for that i'll forever be in debt to you all, throughout all this im starting to really figure out my self worth. ive never been as confident as i may seem online, ive never thought very high of myself or what i'll go on to accomplish, but everyone in my life continuously reminds me that i am worth something, that the drug and what i did on the drug doesnt define who i am, and how far ive come is a testament to my character and my strength. idk, ive felt very emotional today and had very open conversations with my girlfriend, my father, my mother, my brother, my two best friends who saved my life, my old counselor from rehab, and a few others that really drove home just how many people are on my side. im the luckiest person on earth and im more determined than ever to overcome this addiction. its hard, the cravings are hard, the memories are hard, the drug and my life during my period of using is always on my mind, memories pop up and familiar feelings creep in but lately ive been able to deal with it and drive it out, the temptation is there a lot but ive yet to give in and all of this strength everyone around me gives me helps me stay sober and on the right path. 3 months is a while now, three times as long as my relapse lasted, and im well on my way to climbing back up to the seven months clean i had prior. im determined to hit seven months and take it even further, perhaps to forever, because the feeling of overcoming this thing so many people lose their lives to or get stuck in forever gives me a feeling better than any opiate high ever could. i feel like ive accomplished something against so many odds working against me.

 

I chickened out & cancelled.

 

That's understandable. Take your time. You know the option is there if you feel like you need it. for some it works, for others it doesn't. you just need to try to know. Don't worry too much. :)

 

Man, I loved your post until you posted the video. That's a name I hadn't heard in years. Julien Blanc is a well known harasser who did LOTS of damage a few years back. He used to teach men to basically be predators around women. It was so gross. He even got banned from hosting his live lessons by I don't even remember how many countries.

 

i honestly don't expect to change your opinion, but i don't want you to dismiss the information cus i think it could really help.

i'm actually aware of that whole scandal. the mainstream media took on a false narrative based on the misinterpretation of his "shock marketing". they took his videos out of context, cited a fake twitter account that wasn't his, and banked on the outrage that was generated. you can read about it here.

in his actual seminars he was very clear on emphasizing consent, sharing good emotions/authenticity with the girl, taking a step back the SECOND you see discomfort.

not defending the way he marketed himself tho -- cus it was obnoxious.

that's actually why i like learning from him. during the scandal and being branded "the most hated man in the world" sent him into the depths of despair. he almost took his own life. but luckily he had the realization that he had to FACE his emotional pain instead of running from it.

his new self development channel is full of amazing information on getting to the cause of emotional suffering, healing it, and becoming your authentic self. he's inspired to teach it cus of what he's been through.

regardless of what you think of him the information still stands (i posted it cus it's the best quick video on emotional release i've found) -- as does everything i said about trauma healing. i hope you don't throw it out because of a video i posted.

regardless let me know if you have any questions about therapy i'm happy to help.

 

I started working at my job like a year and a half ago and I was determined to keep it. I also wanted to use this job to help me finally get my first car.

For a while it was nice. I was getting my hours and everything was going like planned. It was like 6 months in when my work had a massive hours cut so I was only getting like 10 hrs a week. I was upset so I started to work harder to try and get my hours back. I basically worked anytime they called me in, I worked at another location like 25 minutes away and took any hours I could get in other departments. My work was super impressed with me during that time period.

A few months ago I finally bought my first car and I was hyped. I felt all proud. I started to get steady hours and everything was great. It's now current time and I've been noticing I've been struggling a lot at my job. I used to break down loads in like hour - 2 hours. It's now taking me 3 hours - 4 hours and it sucks. My boss just yesterday had a talk with me about how bad I've been lately so he had to cut my hours.

It's honestly making me miserable because I want to get back to how I rocked it to earn those steady hours. It feels like once I accomplished what I wanted to do(get the car), I just gave up. I'm even next in line to get a promotion but they said that won't happen until I get my work speed back to how it once was. It just has me all messed up right now.

 

This made me so happy to read, proud of you!

Don't think of it as chickening out, if you're not feeling ready then you're not feeling ready.

 

Is there something else you could use to motivate yourself? Maybe if you set up smaller goals and rewards for yourself you could get your productivity back to where it was before.

 

I agree with you when you say "the information still stands", but I think others approaching it with skepticism to begin with is a smart move. I remember Julian/this story, and back then his whole shit was geared towards "getting women" - he was a PUA who was teaching people all this self-improvement stuff within the frame of picking up girls, and I'm sure there are several people ITT who can explain all the reasons why that is bad way better than I can. If he has truly left the PUA shit behind then fair play to him and his videos can/will be helpful, but if he still approaches things from the perspective of getting his viewers to better with women then the skepticism is warranted IMO. Granted I haven't seen a single video of his since that media scandal, so I'm sorry if I'm just wasting your time here lol.

 

it's cool and yea he teaches self-help on his new channel. and the perspective is more like "get to the cause of your suffering and become unconditionally happy regardless of outer circumstance".

it's funny after the media scandal he mentions that his desire to do pickup was a result of overcompensation for not feeling like he was enough. chasing the girls, the money, the validation -- instead of looking inward.

i actually have no stake in people's opinion of him (they'll think what they will) but i just posted the video because i thought it could help people and get across the essence of emotional healing to those who might not have the motivation to read the books i recommended.

 

aaaand I'm a pushover cause camping didn't pan out so she said she could hang out with me. Instead of being like lol byyye like I wanted, I'm like okay I'm free whenever!!!! I'm so friend desperate

 

OH MY GOD SHE DID IT AGAIN. I have made plans and been shortly sidelined twice by the same person over the course of a week smh

 

I guess you can say oops she did it again

sorry, for that joke and what you're going through

 

@sophos34 It warms my heart to see you doing so well. You're amazing.

Therapy was one of the hardest things for me to do when it came to mental health. I don't see one now bc I sincerely get so much support here and from my friends/family that I didn't feel the need at $100 a session lol

 

u know I'm always here for a Britney pun

I called her out for plan B-ing me and she said today works too but Monday is better. I just said screw it Monday is fine. I'm sure on Monday she'll have something else come up. I'm just like meh if it happens it happens I'm not gonna stress anymore cause I did my part. I had already accepted today as a lazy, not leaving the house day anyway.

 

I realized the other night that while I've become really comfortable with who I am as a person, I really need to work on my self esteem regarding my appearance

 

I struggle hard with this especially when my mom says underhanded shit to me. You're beautiful, sweet, kind. You've got it all and I mean that.

 

This is where I'm at right now. I'm happy with the person I've become, and this is probably the best I've been, but I still struggle with how I view myself appearance wise. One day at a time.