Just Another Day In LA1iens Exist [ARCHIVED] • Page 653

there we go

 

I could never go from a relationship that was initially monogamous to poly. But I might be able to jump into something that was poly/open from the get go. Maybe.

 

The woman

 

My queen.

 

Mah queen**

 

M'lady

 

My boo
It's non gendered and a bop by Usher and Alicia Keys

 

Ah. The pinnacle of evolution

 

I'd never considered this distinction before, what makes one more hypothetically appealing than the other to you?

 

Or baby girl but you have to say it the way Timbaland said it to Aaliyah

 

baby girl sounds weird AF imo. way fucking weirder than girlfriend.

 

I have a friend that likes lover and I find that kinda cringe personally but would just get used to it if someone said it to me lol

 

There's a certain connotation that develops in a relationship that I think would be disrupted if there was a change like that.

and to specify, for certain ppl. I'm too insecure lol.

 

borat voice my wife

 

The ego is less affected. If I’m jumping into something that’s poly, I really wouldn’t have much of a right to get jealous or angry because I understand how the relationship works from the beginning. But after being in a monogamous relationship for awhile you learn to feel tied to one another and the thought of sharing can almost be nauseating.

 

I can't do poly because I'm too emotionally unavailable for mono

But

 

doesn't have to be a bad disruption though right? like the reasons it could be brought up or the kind of poly relationship seems like it would make a lot of difference in how I'd receive the situation too. a partner asking me to try it because they feel happier that way vs doing it to try and save a failing relationship are two different types of disruptions (to me, anyway. maybe they really aren't and that's where the distinction lies for people)

 

who you f*ckin' nowadays aliens

 

yesss exactly. even threesomes are a bit much I get jealous. unless I'm drunk bring the love.

 

james is cancelled for shit talking the temptations

 

i'm still waiting for lj to cum back to me

 

I fuckin hate that song

 

My ex and I used to throw around hypotheticals a lot cause she had suggested going poly and once we started playing out scenarios we came to the conclusion that that was just not possible for us haha. That wasn’t a healthy relationship though.

 

ah gotcha. that's fair. so would this be different for a long term monogamous relationship (domestic partner type situation) vs partner asking to open up early even if you didn't start that way? cause I also guess there's a difference in investment of the ego in different points of a relationship that aren't necessarily as easily summed up as a positive or negative correlation with time